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Topic: need an honest guy to explain!
ponchopollito Joined Thu 11/08/07 Posts: 55	Thu 02/21/08 02:18 AM
Thank u so very much Gypsy41 for your honesty, it is very refreshing. I do think very highly of myself, i just dont think people take the time 2 see my attributes. I have often told myself that I am 2 nice, that people just see it and take advantage. I guess i need to start thinking more about myself and my feelings than others Sorry, wasnt trying to be mean but there is a fine line between being too nice........Ive seen many a friend go through this......Im starting to think its a in born defect!!! If you were a guy I would tell you to grow some balls!!!

Jess642 Joined Sat 03/31/07 Posts: 22732	Thu 02/21/08 02:19 AM
Oh geez!!!! Is this like the latest craze??? Sort of like The Secret???? Maybe I need to crawl back under my damp rock...

ponchopollito Joined Thu 11/08/07 Posts: 55	Thu 02/21/08 02:19 AM
It's not ballss. It's just realizing that you are worth more than that.

Jtevans Joined Fri 08/10/07 Posts: 30654	Thu 02/21/08 02:19 AM
i guess i'm going to be the only one that says this but... to all those guys,you're a quick and easy piece of @$$.if you start to date again,tell the guy "no sex before marriage"and see if he sticks around.if he doesn't than oh well but if he does than great

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Thu 02/21/08 02:20 AM
Oh geez!!!! Is this like the latest craze??? Sort of like The Secret???? Maybe I need to crawl back under my damp rock... Nahhhhhhhhh its old skool!!!!

livelife68 Joined Sun 12/30/07 Posts: 3696	Thu 02/21/08 02:20 AM
Welcome to jsh. Hard to say why some guys just stop making contact. Anouther girl. Maybe you said something that really turned him off. Could be a lot of reasons. Try not to take it to personally your not the first person that this has happened to. Try to stay positive and keep searching. You'll find the right guy for you.

Jess642 Joined Sat 03/31/07 Posts: 22732	Thu 02/21/08 02:21 AM
Ok. And thanks JT, that was on my mind, but I was trying to see how long I could be nice...

Shunka_Wakan Joined Sun 01/06/08 Posts: 396	Thu 02/21/08 02:22 AM
Thank u so very much Gypsy41 for your honesty, it is very refreshing. I do think very highly of myself, i just dont think people take the time 2 see my attributes. I have often told myself that I am 2 nice, that people just see it and take advantage. I guess i need to start thinking more about myself and my feelings than others I have had alot of people try to take advantage of me for my kindness, but I let them know it is not a weakness for me it is a choice and it is wrong to take advantage of someone who is only big hearted. You do need to learn when you are to nice or people will never stop trying to take advantage of you. I hope i have helped you a little bit. I am a big hearted person but i do not show alot of people for the reasons of knowing that they just might try and take advantage of me. I have been screwed over and hurt alot before i learned to hide the true me from alot of people until i get to know them better. I still show my heart alot but it is hard for me to trust others now. Take Care.

justkev08 Joined Tue 12/18/07 Posts: 1897	Thu 02/21/08 02:25 AM
This is the correct answer. I think you show your feelings too soon depite what you say. Also, because you seem nice, easygoing and willing to be a 'Mark" or someone who appears weak or low esteem, you will attract the same type of men who prey upon those charateristics. Stop talking to that guy who just left you because he's playing games with you because YOU let him. Stop giving your feelings to every guy you meet and be selective because you need to realize You are worth it and deserve better. Stop playing with boys and giving them the tools to play games with you. Search for the real men who keep there word and do what they say... You just answered your own question!!! Youre a doormat!!! sorry!! and unless you get some self esteem.......everyone will treat you this way. You can still be nice though......but there is a knack of being nice and being stupid.......

Jtevans Joined Fri 08/10/07 Posts: 30654	Thu 02/21/08 02:26 AM
Ok. And thanks JT, that was on my mind, but I was trying to see how long I could be nice... was just being honest Jess

ktrnmaun Joined Mon 02/18/08 Posts: 34	Thu 02/21/08 02:27 AM
Thank u so very much Gypsy41 for your honesty, it is very refreshing. I do think very highly of myself, i just dont think people take the time 2 see my attributes. I have often told myself that I am 2 nice, that people just see it and take advantage. I guess i need to start thinking more about myself and my feelings than others I have had alot of people try to take advantage of me for my kindness, but I let them know it is not a weakness for me it is a choice and it is wrong to take advantage of someone who is only big hearted. You do need to learn when you are to nice or people will never stop trying to take advantage of you. I hope i have helped you a little bit. I am a big hearted person but i do not show alot of people for the reasons of knowing that they just might try and take advantage of me. I have been screwed over and hurt alot before i learned to hide the true me from alot of people until i get to know them better. I still show my heart alot but it is hard for me to trust others now. Take Care. u have helped me, i have spent my life being considerate, and I should have spent it learning who 2 b considerate to. I guess guys take 4 granted that I will just be here, when they r ready. I still believe i have a happy ending somewhere, I just think i need to change myself a little

ponchopollito Joined Thu 11/08/07 Posts: 55	Thu 02/21/08 02:29 AM
It is always good to care. If you change who you are because of what other people do to you you will end up as someone you never wanted to be. On the other hand if you give away everything you've got you will end up empty. The key is to stop looking so hard. When try to hard you tend to see things the way you want to see them instead of the way they are.

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Thu 02/21/08 02:30 AM
Ok. And thanks JT, that was on my mind, but I was trying to see how long I could be nice... was just being honest Jess DAMMIT!!! IM TIRED OF BEING A VIRGIN!!!!!!!!BLOODY ELL!!!!!!!!!!

ktrnmaun Joined Mon 02/18/08 Posts: 34	Thu 02/21/08 02:30 AM
i see what u r saying, thank you, all this honesty and advice is overwhelming. i really need 2 remove my rose colored glasses

gardenforge Joined Tue 01/16/07 Posts: 1322	Thu 02/21/08 02:31 AM
It is foolish to do more of the same thing and expect different results. If you do the same thing you always did, you get the same thing you always got. You can't find something different by looking for the same thing over and over and it appears that is what you are doing. I know this sounds cold and clinical but make a list of what you are looking for in a guy. Be very honest about it. Then compare that list to the characteristics of the guys from the failed relationships. I think you will see a pattern develop. The fault lies not in the stars dear Ceasar but in ourselves. good luck and God Bless

Jtevans Joined Fri 08/10/07 Posts: 30654	Thu 02/21/08 02:31 AM
Ok. And thanks JT, that was on my mind, but I was trying to see how long I could be nice... was just being honest Jess DAMMIT!!! IM TIRED OF BEING A VIRGIN!!!!!!!!BLOODY ELL!!!!!!!!!!

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Thu 02/21/08 02:32 AM
Ok. And thanks JT, that was on my mind, but I was trying to see how long I could be nice... was just being honest Jess DAMMIT!!! IM TIRED OF BEING A VIRGIN!!!!!!!!BLOODY ELL!!!!!!!!!! Looks at jt........and slips him a box of tampons and runs out of the thread!!!!

laurieannk367 Joined Wed 10/03/07 Posts: 94	Thu 02/21/08 02:33 AM
Thank u so very much Gypsy41 for your honesty, it is very refreshing. I do think very highly of myself, i just dont think people take the time 2 see my attributes. I have often told myself that I am 2 nice, that people just see it and take advantage. I guess i need to start thinking more about myself and my feelings than others ktrnmaun- Do you happen to be an Aquarian? We get our hearts stomped on alot.

ktrnmaun Joined Mon 02/18/08 Posts: 34	Thu 02/21/08 02:34 AM
no ironically I am Taurus

Jtevans Joined Fri 08/10/07 Posts: 30654	Thu 02/21/08 02:34 AM
dammit Gypsy!!!