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Is it better to random date, than to seek an involved relationship? I am having a hard time getting responses and I have been told by some outside people that because I have children with some special needs, guys may feel nervous about me.
I also know plenty of people who say I am very nice, enthusiastic, attractive and make people feel accepted. I know finding someone will take time and believe me, I want to move slow, yet moving would be a good thing right now. I know I sound busy in my profile, yet I am trying to make a better life for my kids and I, a life I hope to find someone special to include in. Advice please? |
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maybe u could not mention as much about your kids until getting to know people better or find support groups of parents in your situation just a thought
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Lovingmom, I think you sound very sweet and your kids should come first. I don't think that there should be such a thing as "random dating". If you are going to spend time with someone what is the point if you don't ever see yourself settling down with that person. Keep your standards high for yourself and for your kids.
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Lovingmom, I think you sound very sweet and your kids should come first. I don't think that there should be such a thing as "random dating". If you are going to spend time with someone what is the point if you don't ever see yourself settling down with that person. Keep your standards high for yourself and for your kids.
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I have the same problem. I am busy, and when I have a moment to catch my breath Im at home RELAXING, doing laundry, and catching up from the busy week...Im not out at the bars & casinos (which seems to be the only external stimulation around these parts for many) *SIGH*
If you find an answer, let me know! However, dont change anything in your profile. Many people are attracted to busy people who enjoy their eventfull lives! It means you have motivation, responsibility, and stabilty! I don't think anyones looking for anyone who is alone, with out hobby or sport, and unemployed! Keep your chin up! |
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Is it better to random date, than to seek an involved relationship? I am having a hard time getting responses and I have been told by some outside people that because I have children with some special needs, guys may feel nervous about me. I also know plenty of people who say I am very nice, enthusiastic, attractive and make people feel accepted. I know finding someone will take time and believe me, I want to move slow, yet moving would be a good thing right now. I know I sound busy in my profile, yet I am trying to make a better life for my kids and I, a life I hope to find someone special to include in. Advice please? I think you answered your own question, mom. It seems you seek to share yourself with a man and for him to be included in your busy life. So, to me, you ARE seeking an involved relationship. While that may be difficult with such a busy life and kids with special needs, be true to yourself and seek what you desire. Random dating maybe fulfilling for an evening or two...but I'd say, save your energy in going after what you really want. ...hang in there and the special guy will come along. Be true to yourself, doll. 
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Lovingmom, I think you sound very sweet and your kids should come first. I don't think that there should be such a thing as "random dating". If you are going to spend time with someone what is the point if you don't ever see yourself settling down with that person. Keep your standards high for yourself and for your kids. i agree, these are wise comments, take the time to feel what he and you both want, if he's not patient, he won't be patient with the kids either. |
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Thanks! It is so hard sometimes, well, most it seems! The funniest thing is, I am not sure what kind of guy I really want. I know some important factors, yet I do not have a preconceived image. I just woinder what is the one thing that attracts guys the most? I got different answers when I asked this with the people I know. What do you think?
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Is it better to random date, than to seek an involved relationship? I am having a hard time getting responses and I have been told by some outside people that because I have children with some special needs, guys may feel nervous about me. I also know plenty of people who say I am very nice, enthusiastic, attractive and make people feel accepted. I know finding someone will take time and believe me, I want to move slow, yet moving would be a good thing right now. I know I sound busy in my profile, yet I am trying to make a better life for my kids and I, a life I hope to find someone special to include in. Advice please? I think you should do what YOU want .. not what others tell you they think you should do. Some people love to random date. Fine. So be it for them. I went thru a stage like that. Just didn't want any committment at all, just wanted to go out, have fun. Then I changed and decided I was ready for committment. Do what works best for the season you are in in YOUR life. 
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Edited by
Monosyllabic♥Girl
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Sun 02/17/08 03:09 PM
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Thanks! It is so hard sometimes, well, most it seems! The funniest thing is, I am not sure what kind of guy I really want. I know some important factors, yet I do not have a preconceived image. I just woinder what is the one thing that attracts guys the most? I got different answers when I asked this with the people I know. What do you think? Possitivity & confidence Possitive people attract other possitive people...and we all know the saying "misery loves company" It also works visa versa |
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Thanks! It is so hard sometimes, well, most it seems! The funniest thing is, I am not sure what kind of guy I really want. I know some important factors, yet I do not have a preconceived image. I just woinder what is the one thing that attracts guys the most? I got different answers when I asked this with the people I know. What do you think? Confidence and fun to be with. These 2 rank right up there. |
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Also be realistic. You've born and raised your children. They have challenges. You see that as more to love, but they are yours.
To an outsider that is not an easy thing to embrace. It's something straight out of the gate .. difficult. The right guy of course, will be able to deal. But I have 5 kids. As great a catch as I may be, that will intimidate some men. Especially younger guys, which is what I date. So give it time. It may be a more challenging set of circumstances, but love will find you babe.
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omg woman,,,,u got 5 kids????do u no what a tv set is,,,,,,,,,or does yours work,,,,,,,,ok hun i was just piken on ya
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ha ha ... TV's boring
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