My niece is now 16. She was just allowed to use the pc at home to talk to her friends.

She invited me to be on her friends list and I can read all her blogs. She has gone wild. She posts fantasy and reality not to mention her wanting to be noticed by boys as a sexy and voluptious young lady. She is quite pretty. But, she is immature. Wise in many ways but absolutely silly and being a little stupid.

She is coming off sounding a little slutty and in a relationship but, looking for a "relationship, marriage boyfriend" catagory".
She whines and tells stories and of course truths.

I am worried for her and mail her privately asking her to be careful and use her head. Telling her if the predators that may find her and take advantage of that.

Well, she has blocked me from her blog.

I have told her I am not telling anyone about what I read.
I am worried now what it is she is hiding.
Should I warn her parents or speak to her myself and ask to be allowed back on?
I do not post in her blog nor do I comment in public. I always take it to private mail.

Kat

Oh...I forgot to mention that she had an incident with a boy (sexually) at the age of 15. She has regretted it, but at the same time she is showing all the signs of wanting to do it again.

I have told my sister that she better get her to a Dr and get her protected.

Kat

If it were me, I would talk to her first. Maybe find some articles you can take with you on things that have happened as a result of the behavior she is showing. Show her how dangerous it is. If you can't get any where with her, then I would go to her parents, before something happens to her. Then you would feel guilty the rest of your life......

My granddaughter has a myspace (lives with me) and her dad and mom and myself have access to it or she wouldn't have it. Not only do these girls act like it's their god given right to have it, but also that no one should be able to look at it except their friends . WRONG! My computer, my house, my rules.

I have told her of the things that can and do happen. Just recently we had a woman murdered from a meeting she had online. Just this week actually.

She is young and stubborn. You know....she is a teenager. She knows everything.
Kat

AW THAT IS A HARD ONE,PERSONALLY I WOULD TRY TO TALK TO HER AND IF SHE DOES NOT TAKE YOUR ADVICE I WOULD SAY YOU HAVE NO CHOICE BUT TO GO TO HER PARENTS.IT IS FOR HER OWN SAFETY.

And another thing: she has herself as "BI" in sexual preference catagory. She is so putting herself out there.
Kat

Got to get ready for work. I will check back in.
Kat

My 17 yr old daughter and I have a myspace, and I am allowed to see her blogs also, if she ever blocked me I would also feel as though she was hiding something. I would try and talk to her in person and if that doesnt help, I would then talk to her parents and voice your concerns. They may not even know what is going on on her myspace. But she does need to be very careful. I monitor all of my daughters friends as well, because I care about all of them. Do what you feel is best, there are alot of kids out there that dont use their best judgement at times.

Good luck.

If you have told her the pitfalls and that she is not presenting herself in an appropriate manner and she continues to ignore you. Then her parent should be told they need to monitor her on this site. If they want details tell to get on there and look for them selves.

I am most likely going to talk with her. If she fails to put me back on her blog, then I am going to her parents, with her there.. with no warning. If I warn her she will delete everything. She is becoming pc savvy all to quick. She is putting things on her pages that I haven't even learned yet.

Kat

i would honestly talk to the parents and have them look at the blogs to see if they are appropriate

You are a smart person who know what goes on there, and probably speaks from experience.

I would talk to her parents about it first. Have them get access to it and see what it says before she gets the chance to delete it

Young people have no sense of mortality and feel nothing will ever happen to them. Tell her parents. It is their place to be involved. It is your place to let them know. How will you feel if something happens and you DIDN'T inform her parents.

By her blocking you, you have lost her trust. By telling her parents you will not be betraying it.

HELLO, she is 16?? is that old enough to make adult decisions?? her parents need to be involved, they need to see what see writes if for no other reason than to show the cops when she dissapears and hope they can find her, the more i read the sicker i get, dam no wonder these kids are so screwed up, no one willing to take affirmative action til its too late. she needs guidance. as an earlier poster stated in my house my rules. that should go for miles!!

By her blocking me she has decided that she doesn't want me telling her that she is putting herself in harms way. She got mad at me and told me "fine then" " I will delete my account".
Right after that a few days later I was blocked. She does not want me knowing what she is saying.

I am going to speak with her.
I will also warn her parents what I am doing. Then I will go from there. You all know that this is something that was et up with her to stay involved to know what she is doing. She consented. Because she comes to me all thwe time for advice.
She is feeling too big for her britches. She may have lost trust, but I do not see how? All I do is warn her and give her advice on her ettiquete.
Kat
Kat

Unfortunately most teens put awful stuff on they Myspace pages. My son blocked me when he was younger and still has his page private, but too late--BUSTED! I was what I always thought I'd never be.. a snoop. I saw my neice's pages and some their friends were barely clothed.

I guess it's their way of feeling some independence and doing things for shock value. You sound like a great aunt to keep things private. Often times for a few years a child will turn away from their parents, in an attempt to find their individuality. Maybe in those years she'll turn to you. Unless it's something of great importance I'd address it to her. If it poses a danger to her, you need to go to the parents. Remember she'll eventually turn back to her parents, but may always remember what she perceives as a betrayal, until she is a parent herself. Best of luck in your decision!

you have already tried to talk with her about it, and she literally sh owed you her back, then closed the door in your face (when she blocked you). Now is the time to go to her parents immediately. And as a side note, if her parents decide that you are wrong, or don't do anything about it, you will have to consider going to cps about it as well for the welfare of your niece, before she becomes another statistic.

Also, I would not go to them with her present at all. I agree to do it without her knowledge, or she will most likely change things around. I would also print out copies of her page(s) to take with you to her parents, so that if she does get the chance to change them, you still have the proof you need. You will also need these pages if you decide you have to go to cps about it. And heaven forbid something does happen, it will help the police to know what she has been doing on the internet.

I hope this helps.

I just tried to call her on her cell phone. She did not answer. Noy unusual when she in in chat with her friends.

So, I called her mom and told her that Millie had removed me from her private stuff. That I was going to talk to her and give her a chance to put me back on there or I was going to her parents, Her parents know nothing of pc's. Her mom said to do that. Then I am going to show then later how to get into her account. I have had several people offer to make a new profile as a young boy and be a friend.

That kinds worries me. I will think about that though.

Thanks.
Kat

I would not advise having someone else pose as a young boy or anything. Her parents can give you permission to do that or you can show them how to do it. However, for someone out of the family to do it, there could be legal repurcussions against the person doing it, even if nothing but good was intended.