now you are making me think Latina!

race/color doesn't matter to me. People do. It's what comes from the inside that counts.

I'd have a difficult time not dating different ethnic backgrounds from myself. How many French/ Filipino woman are out there? Other then my sister.




According to Dr. Reilly... I should not exist! Interesting school you went to.

Definitely an interesting point of view from a sociology professor. Considering them darn Christians running all over the known world doing mission work..integrating cultures and societies...since..oh.. I don't know... The dark ages?

jistime...... The professor did not say that Irish should stick to Irish and that French should stick to French, and so on. You are twisting the professor's words. Dr. Reilly is putting the emphasis on dating/marrying people who share one's common beliefs. It has nothing to do with race or ethnicity; it is about cultural and religious ways of thinking.

What the professor is trying to emphasize is that when two people are complete opposites in their religious and/or cultural beliefs, they should not marry, particularly in lieu of the high divorce rate. What is it? Almost 50 per cent? So, why marry someone who has beliefs completely different from yours since you are only turning the odds against you?

I am not divorced; my husband died. However, where I work there are so many divorced women and men. Frankly, I can understand the professor's viewpoint, particularly since there is nothing racial about it. It is common sense. You need to remember that cultural and religious beliefs are very important to some people, and if yours are different from theirs, there will be a major problem once you embark on marriage.

In connection with the above, when one knows that the odds are becoming more and more in favor of divorce, it makes sense to use a little caution, particularly when there is no racism involved. An example of cultural/religious differences is that in America women are equal to men. Therefore, it is not a good idea for an American woman who wants to be treated as her husband's equal to marry a guy from a culture, which believes that women are subservant to men.

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That is certainly one way to look at it.. Mine is different then yours. Without putting words in anyone's mouth.

You simply have failed to see my point.

Unless you believe that the Philippine Islands were always Catholic? That the western States, Mexico, Central America and everything south of that was not integrated by the Christian movement.. and during that integration.. people of mixed belief married, stayed married and raised families very successfully.

My Grandfather was no Christian in the islands. In fact he detested everything Christian or western for some time.. Right up until the Japanese invaded. That did not stop him from marrying a Christian when he came here as a refugee.

Yea... Sure the divorce rate is high these days... mostly because people suffer from a lack of willingness to understand and get along with one another.

Your Doctors philosophy certainly does not encourage people to be willing either. His mission looks more like he is encouraging us to be closed minded and counter multi-cultural.

Just because the divorce rate is what it is..and the world is getting smaller all the time. Does not mean that the two are associated.
That would be like me telling a customer that their computer broke because they are an idiot.. without any proof that they did something idiotic. They might indeed be an idiot with a broken computer. However.. It is an assumption the two things are connected.


I believe that if we never see another inter-cultural marriage again... The divorce rate will remain exactly as it is. I believe that you would be hard pressed to find any substantive data that says otherwise.

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I concur with the intent of the professor. Racial differences are a minor point. However, cultural differences are a major source of conflict. I have been married to two different "city" girls. I live 125 miles from the nearest mall, walmart, etc. It was a source of continuous contention because they could not go to the mall whenever they wanted. There is only one restaraunt that is open after 3:00 PM; and it is a dive, at best. Cannot go out to eat in the evening without driving 70 miles. Another source of contention. Granted, these are minor, but, over time, it led to major problems in the quality of life related to our marriage. Divorce is seldom over major matters, but, generally over the accumulation of "minor" conditions.

125 miles away from the mall???? ARE YOU CRAZY???~~!!!

race,color,shouldnt matter at all were all human no matter where were from,what color we are,were all capable of love just as much as the next

Your professor needs to come out of his hiding hole and realize that his old conservative thoughts won't work anymore. Just because someone is Phd in something doesn't mean whatever they say is correct.
I have had philosophy, anthropology and Sociology professors, who taught us just the opposite of Dr. Reiley. If fact, off springs of interracial couples are found to be healthier, smarter, and more good looking.
Also can professor Reiley, explain why divorce rate is so high in North America, even though most people seem to marry within the same culture and religion, doe he not realize it is the personality of a person, that causes those kind of failed relationship, not their culture or religion.
Does religion and culture cause someone to be a jerk, and a cheat, according to Dr. Reiley.
Even PhD's are humans and they are bound to stick to what they are brought up with. Recently, Dr.James Watson, a world famous scientist, got into trouble for saying Blacks are less intelligent than white. The point here, is no matter how educated they are some people are still racists.

my boyfriend is Hispanic. Puerto Rican to be exact...there is absolutely nothing wrong with dating someone outside your own race...as long as they make you happy, what does it matter?
Becca

I agree

justine..... You are bringing the past into the discussion. No one is talking about the past. We are talking about the present. You need to reread my posts and quit being so close minded. At any event, there is no point in continuing this discussion with you since you are trying to hijack the issue.

showme.....

You are not reading my posts. Where in my posts did I say Professor Reilly was against inter-racial marriages? Where in my posts have I said that religion and culture cause someone to be a jerk and a cheat? Why are you talking about Dr. Watson's racist statement? What has that got to do with anything?

Dr. Reilly told us inter-racial marriages are fine as long as the people are akin in their culture and religion. What in the world is wrong with you distorting my posts and trying to bring racism into this thread? You are nothing but a hate monger. Please keep your racist remarks to yourself since I do not appreciate them. I hate people who are racists.