Be direct and honest with all people. Let them know where you stand at all times. Some people are afraid to be themselves. No wonder their never happy.

Do you think sometimes that can work against you?

Over the last almost four years I've had ten people to my house that I've met on the net. Some were for dinner, some of them stayed for the weekend. Some lived within state, some out of state. I didn't meet these people on an online dating forum though, they were met on metaphysical or occult forums. They were all great people and I still communicate with them regularly. I suppose I've had very good luck.

I'd rather know where I stand. Sometimes the truth hurts. I never said be ugly.

i have met 5 people from another site for some high times in /canada.They were what they said they were and we had a blast.I am very real though a wee bit quieter till I get to know you.

How can being honest work against you? I am curious

I agree with you. I'm always 100% honest, upfront and am just who I am. Sometimes though I think that can come back to bite me in the butt. I feel like others take advantage of that. I wouldn't be any other way, I've learned to be more skeptical though, and a little hesitant.

You can be honest and still not tell them anything that is none of their business. You can be honest without being too trusting. I don't lie to people, but I don't tell them everything ,either (SSN, PIN, address, etc.)

There is only one person on this site who I know in real life, and she and I knew each other many years before JSH existed. I can truthfully say she is the same person here as in reality.

There are several others here, who I have not met in person, but who I feel I have interacted with enough that I believe they really are who they seem to be here. In a couple of those cases, I would even bet money on it.

As a general rule, though, my experience has been that there are far more fakes than realies. Of the people I have met in person from websites, eight out of nine were totally dishonest and deceptive. (None of the nine were from JSH.) But even here, there are plenty who walk around in the forums waving red flags....

if it helps lex...

i still see you as purple....


lucky for you that purple is my favorite color!!!!!



im the same here as out in "real life" no point in pretending to be something im not...


im a duck...

Lex - can I ask for clarification on this? How fake are we talking? As in, married not single? Jobless, not employed? Or more subtle ..people who claim to be easy going and then bite off the server's head because the coffee was cold? Or was it more like, male, not female?

How far gone were they?

Iz, purple or not (which is probably "your" orange), I have been interacting with you for a long time here, and I have no doubts about you being who you are. You're one of the few I would put money on....!





Well, I had one who turned out to be an arsonist. (Later, also involved in retail theft from a store where she worked.) Several who used bogus pictures. One (an immigrant from Bulgaria) who pretended to be a bank teller. I have no particular reason to believe that any of them lied about marital status, although that's certainly a possibility.

And they all appeared to be female (some more than others, now that you mention it)....One actually claimed she was being held hostage in an apartment in Indiana, but the "hostage-taker" was at work eight hours a day, so she had plenty of opportunities to leave (or to call for help) but never did so. She had internet access and a phone, and admitted she often left the apartment to go to the store, the park, etc. Very big red flag!

Not to answer for Lex- who I adore in any way I can interact with him (love you lex ) but I met three people before Jist... who by the way is far better in person than here on the site.... funnier, sexier, more sarcastic...

The three prior were a mix.. one was married, one was boring, and to be totally honest the third I can't remember... not his name, not where we went, it's like he was wiped from my memory banks...

how much money are we talking here lex??
hehe



i can tell ya from my experience.. ive met 3 ppl from here..
one was exeactly as he apeared... and one of the best friends i will ever have...

one was touch and go... he seemed to be everythign that he said.. he was sweet caring... attentive.... and everything.. but he was NOT 2 of the things that he said... 1 a workaholic.. not even a hard worker... unemployed...
and 2... a devoted father to his son.. who i found out later he hadnt seen since he was 4 weeks old.. (baby just over a year)

these 2 were deal breakers for me...
great guy tho..


adn the 3rd...


well.. lemme sum it up.... one word....
slime!

Was he handy?

YES!!! And like in my situation recently..she THOUGHT she wanted all these great things..and when she GOT them..she "freaked" and became very self conscious and insecure with herself...and is now in "freakyville".

So now what can ya do???

Hi Lilith! I think most people are different in person then they are on here. Like lilith says they can be better or just not as confident to be the personality the were on internet.

complete jerk.. complete azz completely useless...


and he seemed so nice online...
he was cute too...

so girls.. just fyi..
even slime can be pretty..
lol

All I can say to this is.. You'd be amazed at what a truly wonderful woman can bring out of an ordinary man.
With exception to the Sarcasm.. Sacastic? Me?

Hey Joni!

I think the problem is that people use the Internet as an insulator for their shortcomings, furthering the problem that they don't know who they are in the first place, much less what their shortcomings even are.

Of course, not everyone... but good men are like plane crashes.. you rarely hear about the ones that land safely, if at all.