I'm going to tell you something that will change your life, any guy listening....
The absolute must have book for picking up women and having your way with them even if you are not that great looking or painfully shy, is this one below. You can get it on Amazon.com for about $24.00. Do you really want to be a player? This one will tell you how. But I can't guarantee it is good for finding the woman you will want to marry, but it will give you the skills to get just about any woman you want.

The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists
By Neil Strauss

If I waited for a man to come get me, I would never get any......

amen sista! me too!!