Topic: Why do some actually excuse cheating?
blondguy42's photo
Sun 02/10/08 05:51 AM
Cheating is cheating no matr how u look at it, forgiving cheating is no good, once they cheat , its over, not saying I am sorry, its not gonna happen again, and u dam well know it well cause u forgave them before. Trust, if u loose it, its not gonna come back.

kolhauszer's photo
Sun 02/10/08 08:00 AM
hey jimbo...take it from this italian guy..
nothing reaches your bowels more then when you realize that your love is unfaithful..
it happens..

to date..and knowing that from my brother..my uncle,,and my father,,every man in my family has had a mistress..someone on the side.
even my grandfather..
it seems that cheating is manditory where the men in my family is conserned..but to date..my record is clear.

i know the pain that it can bring.



no photo
Sun 02/10/08 08:03 AM

Cheating is cheating no matr how u look at it, forgiving cheating is no good, once they cheat , its over, not saying I am sorry, its not gonna happen again, and u dam well know it well cause u forgave them before. Trust, if u loose it, its not gonna come back.


I second that! drinker

My ex once told me he cheated on "accident" and it was my fault for not paying enough attention to him.....huh The broad he cheated on me with...he eventually moved in with...only to come back knocking my door trying to cheat on her with me ....:angry:
A leopard can't change his spots.

no photo
Sun 02/10/08 08:24 AM
Edited by Jamie82 on Sun 02/10/08 08:27 AM
cheating is NOT oknoway if there is cheating involved then there is something VERY wrong and u are both waisting ur time.I would never excuse cheating and i would never consider doing it to someone. What goes around comes around and character is what a person is all about. If u are a cheater it says a lot about u...obviously in a bad way.

MAKE_ME_GIGGLE's photo
Sun 02/10/08 08:26 AM
which one is the stupid one though? the one who cheated? or the one who chooses to accept it and stay with them?

jtip1977's photo
Sun 02/10/08 08:26 AM

It's not okay to cheat! I have seen people say, what would you do if I cheated. Are you seeking approval?...You as% will be out the door, simple as that....

If you feel the need to be with someone else, do the RIGHT thing, seperate from them first. It may hurt them, but it wont hurt as bad if you cheated on them..

Sorry to any cheaters that may read this, but you get everything you deserve....


Amen!!!drinker drinker drinker

Danette_Giavanna's photo
Sun 02/10/08 08:40 AM
Edited by Danette_Giavanna on Sun 02/10/08 08:41 AM
Thats why I'm divorced he cheated for 12yrs and I just got sick of feeling like I was never good enough. If your gonna cheat then why get involved with someone, if you can't respect that person if your life then can you ever respect yourself...
I always say why the hell do I want 2 seconds of meaningless sex when I can have a life time of being happy with someone.....Karma is a *****....

adi2d30's photo
Sun 02/10/08 07:50 PM
whatever Karma is bull ****. People say that to make them feel better about being treated like ****. People will cheat now and forever especially when people watch Unfaithful. The expresiion you are only cheating when you get caught. Come one people say things like what happens in stays in . Welll what are we expecting from people when we excuse everyone from doing it the president, everyone.

DTHRomeo's photo
Sun 02/10/08 07:52 PM

which one is the stupid one though? the one who cheated? or the one who chooses to accept it and stay with them?


Good point drinker

Jess642's photo
Sun 02/10/08 07:55 PM
Each to their own.... but those that have a sense of ownership of their partner, are looking for a relationship with obligations, and expectations, THAT ISN'T LOVE, THAT'S POSSESSION, AND OWNERSHIP, AND CONTROL.

cHEATING? wHAT A LOAD OF CRAP...... I AM NOT OWNED, NOR DO I OWN MY PARTNER, HOWEVER, i RESPECT HIM ENOUGH TO BE OPEN AND HONEST WITH HIM, AND IF IT EVER AROSE, THAT i WAS ATTRACTED TO SOMEONE ELSE, MY PARTNER WOULD KNOW FIRST..


Cool! I was yelling too...noway laugh laugh

DTHRomeo's photo
Sun 02/10/08 07:58 PM

Each to their own.... but those that have a sense of ownership of their partner, are looking for a relationship with obligations, and expectations, THAT ISN'T LOVE, THAT'S POSSESSION, AND OWNERSHIP, AND CONTROL.

cHEATING? wHAT A LOAD OF CRAP...... I AM NOT OWNED, NOR DO I OWN MY PARTNER, HOWEVER, i RESPECT HIM ENOUGH TO BE OPEN AND HONEST WITH HIM, AND IF IT EVER AROSE, THAT i WAS ATTRACTED TO SOMEONE ELSE, MY PARTNER WOULD KNOW FIRST..


Cool! I was yelling too...noway laugh laugh


Another good point drinker

Jess was yelling noway laugh

Jim519's photo
Sun 02/10/08 07:59 PM
I for one believe in Karma, one who brings hurt and pain to one intenionally will pay for the penalty somehow, someday..Whatever it may be...

Also, in regards to ownership. It all depends on how the relationship is declared. If your exclusive then you should commit yourself to the one your with. Does that mean they own you? No, no one owns anybody, doesnt mean you run around though..

If your in a causal relationship and seeing others, as long as that is spoken of and the other's your seeing are honestly aware of your intentions then the fault falls on them..

PATSFAN's photo
Sun 02/10/08 07:59 PM
Amen to that !! Thats part of the reason my ex is my ex..........

Jess642's photo
Sun 02/10/08 08:03 PM
Edited by Jess642 on Sun 02/10/08 08:05 PM

I for one believe in Karma, one who brings hurt and pain to one intenionally will pay for the penalty somehow, someday..Whatever it may be...

Also, in regards to ownership. It all depends on how the relationship is declared. If your exclusive then you should commit yourself to the one your with. Does that mean they own you? No, no one owns anybody, doesnt mean you run around though..

If your in a causal relationship and seeing others, as long as that is spoken of and the other's your seeing are honestly aware of your intentions then the fault falls on them..


Again, each to their own, if that works for you, so be it.

People cant help who they fall in love with, they can help what they choose to do about it.

And this joined at the hip for the next 90 million years thing is such crap..... how many women have you professed your love to?

All I am saying is, live in the now, love in the now, with no expectations, and every day is joyful....bigsmile

iceprincess's photo
Sun 02/10/08 08:07 PM
some excuse cheating because they truly don't care.....last six years of my marriage i didn't care what my ex did as long as he didn't bring it home........ie. he was discrete..........i didn't cheat but that was just so he couldn't throw it back at me.LOL


I know i'm screwed up.......LOL

chevylover1965's photo
Sun 02/10/08 08:09 PM
noway noway noway

itsmetina's photo
Sun 02/10/08 08:11 PM
tell them jim

iceprincess's photo
Sun 02/10/08 08:17 PM
I freely admitt i'm screwed up i realized a year into the marriage i didn't love him and he was evil.......i'm not saying i was right more than likely i was wrong............but the ? was why do some people excuse cheating and that is why I did.

chevylover1965's photo
Sun 02/10/08 08:21 PM
my ex-wife cheated on me 4-time's ! and she finely ran off with my uncle !grumble she just couldnt keep her damn pant's on !noway noway noway

MirrorMirror's photo
Sun 02/10/08 08:23 PM
devil :heart: devil :heart: devil :heart: I EXCUSE MY OWN CHEATINGdevil :heart: devil :heart: devil