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Topic: Would you date or have a relationship with someone that has
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Wed 02/06/08 09:43 AM
I cannot be in a realtionship with someone that has a SEVERE MENTAL ILLNESS with bouts of violence and refuses to take their meds, tell the truth to their therapist, et al..

It almost cost me my life.


Physical disability or life threatening illness..
bring it on!:wink:

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Wed 02/06/08 09:53 AM
I am glad to see there are people on here that are open minded and willing to take a chance with someone who has a challenge to deal with.
I have found that in some cases people with disabilities care some of the most caring people I have met. Perhaps dealing with what they do makes them more compassionate.

Wes

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Wed 02/06/08 10:52 AM
Yes I would If there heart is true. i didn't read what everyone said, but having an open mind to life and people can open up new doorsdrinker

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Wed 02/06/08 10:54 AM

Lets be honest with ourselves and with our posts on this one.
Would you date or enter a relationship with someone who has a disability?

I know this covers a lot of areas here.
They may be dealing with a condition that may never improve. And may in fact get worse. so if they seemed a good match for you. And were a wonderful person would you still be with them? Or avoid it because you would not want to deal with what could happen to them later?

I have my reasons for asking this. I have MS. And I will get worse over time. I use a cane a lot of the time now. I could easily end up in a wheelchair.

But still have a lot in my heart to give to the right person.

I am not asking if you would date me . I am sure there are others on here that have something to deal with.

So fess up!
Wes


I wish you much luck,, she is out there,,and will see your soul,,, and love the all of you...

and yes I would and I have and we are spending the rest of our lives together,,,

Blessed be flowerforyou

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Wed 02/06/08 11:32 AM
Edited by Fade2Black on Wed 02/06/08 11:43 AM
If it came after I knew the person .. it wouldn't change a thing.

If it was a serious disability that I had to consider before even getting to know the person? Honestly (and that's what you asked for even though I think most people will not be totally honest - they will share what they WISH they would do given the challenge) ...

I would have to think long and hard since I already have 5 children and a very busy life. It wouldn't be just about love, but the physical time to give that person.

It's not all about ME but about what that person needs too. And if I didn't even know them yet, I'd have to really think about that. I'd definitely be letting their needs down as well.


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Wed 02/06/08 11:39 AM
Edited by thatonegirl05 on Wed 02/06/08 11:43 AM
I know a guy, but before I met him in person, we talked alot, and became really good friends.. He told me is argo, and snowmobiling stories, told me all about the house he bought.. just everything.. like, this guy is actually so incredible.

So, he asked me if I wanted to go out to lunch, and I said sure, so I met up with him at a restaurant, and to my surprise, he was in a wheel chair.

He said he didn't want to tell me in fear of rejection.

Honestly, it just made me love him so much more.
like, .. if you can decide whether you wanna be with someone based on something they can't help, then I think my respect toward you would lessen.

I can see the advantages and disadvantages, but still.

Also, my grandpa has MS.. funniest man I've ever met.
he's not in a wheelchair, but he does have a walker.

My uncle (grandpas son) also got MS,
it's not hit him hard yet, though.

But, none the less.. even with this,
they're both happily married.
and loved by so many people.

I hope you the best of luck with EVERYTHING,
you deserve really good things,
especially after what you're going through.

:heart:

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Wed 02/06/08 12:42 PM
I have to be honest. I have never been in that situation, but I am pretty certain that I would at the very least think twice before seeing someone with a disability. that is just me. I think everyone would at least second guess themselves at least once. I would be willing to go out with a person with a disability, but again, I would at least role the idea through my mind at least once.

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Fri 02/08/08 04:29 AM
females with glasses are so darn cute. :wink:
agoraphobia or depression is kind of adorable.
I think thats about it for me.
maybe if she was nice and we could relate and talk.
I might consider, but from a far, its not preferred.

I had a teacher in school who had to use a wheelchair, at first I thought he was just a flirt and the other teachers were being nice. But after about a year, I realized how much of a player he was. other teachers would even mix classes with his group to set and talk while we watched pointless videos to waste school hours on holidays. :smile:

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