I guess that is true Jistme.

Another stupid question, should I call her tonight, since I would like to know whether she wants to get together tomorrow anyway, or wait for her to call me?

You want me to give you an answer?

Nope..not gonna go there with you.

At some point you gotta assume control of the stuff you can control. Which is you. You're slowly working yourself into an emotional train wreck..and I can't do much for you from here.

Even if I was standing next to you, able to whack you with a phone book upside the head.. I wouldn't be much help..Other then give you a way to blame something other then your own emotional turmoil for the outcome.

You know what you want to do. The logistics don't matter near as much as whether you are gonna be straight with her or not...regardless of the outcome.

DONT CALL HER!!!!

should i ask her if it bothers her that I don't vote?

OMG!!!!!

I'd copy and paste my last reply.. But I'm really not trying to come off as a smart ass...
Talk to her about what you need to talk about. But spend more time being accountable for your actions then looking to blame her. Mostly.. shut up and listen after asking her a question and when she speaks.

Bingo! Unless you understand confusion

I apologize for wasting everyone's time.

You're not.. That's not what I'm trying to imply..

I'm trying to get you to get your ass up off of that couch and become a participant in your own destiny.. Rather then sit there and tailspin... Which is what it looks like from here.

Steven....

The point is that you seem to spend a lot of time worrying about "what if" situations and asking what do do than going with your instincts. If you spent half as much time talking to her than with all of us, you'd have a situation with tons more communication. If you worry and try to over analyze everything, you second guess yourself and that makes no sense. If she is upset you're not voting, I'm sure she'll tell you. If you want to call her, call her. We cannot live your life or manage your relationship for you. That is just the facts.

^^^What she said^^^

not to sound like more of an idiot, her away message on her AIM instant messenger says "DON'T FORGET TO VOTE!" which gives me the impression that it may bother her that I don't vote.

Not everything is about you.

i know that, it's just that if she is political and i'm not, she may have a problem with it

Steven.. If you keep this crap up? You may not survive to see age 30!

STOP!!!

dont forget to vote!

Have you talked with her about politics? Notice a theme here to ask her?

I know I'm political and a certain JSH member can tell you how I feel about him voting and not voting. Or voting for, I think it's Daffy Duck.. maybe Donald?

Personally, I love him not for whom he votes and if he votes, but for simply being aware of politics and being knowledgable about it, amongst way more important things.

Voting is not a dealbreaker. The person who is not voting and then is being vocal about politics can be a burr in a political person's side, but hardly cause to ignore a person or start an argument. Your relationship is about the two of you and not our government.

honestly, i'm not very smart about politics at all, I am just not interested in it. I have tried to get into it, but I just can't. She asked me on our third date if I was into politics at all, and I told her I wasn't. She is aware of it.

Possibly I could call her for you and ask?

You want to call her? Then call her

What's the best thing that can happen?
Yeah, she'll still want to do something tomorrow and you'll get together and have a great time

What's the worst thing that can happen?

a. she'll tell you that you not voting is a deal breaker and you'll know where you stand and if it was this ....
b. she'll tell you she's not interested and you'll digest it and know where you stand and be able to quit driving yourself batty with assumptions and know the score and you'll move on

We spend way too much of our time worrying instead of acting.

If you want to know about tomorrow - call her.
Your choice!!!!