Ok here is my story any advice.

When I was 14 my sister, who was 2 years older than me, had a party. There was a guy standing all alone so I went to talk to him. He was 18 at the time. We had a few things in common and sort of hit it off. I was not allowed to date at that age, but he could come over the house. We used to sneak kisses and so forth. He joined the navy with a friend of his. After basic training it was agreed we would write letters and we could see each other when he came home on leave. The first time he got leave, I was 16 and my mother allowed me to date. We had fun until he had to go back.
I received a letter from him that almost broke my heart. He said I should get another boyfriend. It would be a long time before we saw each other again, and he didn't think he could be faithful that long. We continued to write letters and each boyfriend I had I told them I was writing him, and that he was at this time nothing more than a friend. After 4 years in the Navy he came back home and I had a boyfriend we were kind of serious. This boyfriend turned out to be a big jerk. In the mean time my navy friend had moved out of town. This is when I met my husband. When the navy guy found out I was married he was devastated, but moved on. I had moved on too, and was very happy with my husband and our children. My husband was in the Army so we moved around. After my husband got out we moved back to our home town. Someone had spread a rumor that we were divorcing and another blow to the Navy guy. This time he took off for Alaska. I would see his mother at the store, and ask about him.

Step forward 15 years; my husband has died of pancreatic cancer. Navy guy’s mother is in the late stages of Alzheimer’s, and he moved back home in December to help take care of her. He got in touch with a mutual friend that was at my husband’s funeral, and asks about me. Two days ago he shows up at my door, wanting to know if I would like to start going out. He has never married, and has no children.

Now this is my situation, I have met a guy through JSH. We have been talking and flirting, but haven't gotten serious. How do I tell him, I would really like to see the navy guy?

tell the truth its better that way and soon asap just my thoughts dont keep a person thinking they have something when they dont

You don't.

You see the Navy guy, and tell you flirtation interest later. You do not need the permission of a person you are not involved with to do anything. You do owe him your honesty, but nothing more. You said you're not serious, have you even met?

It sounds like Navy guy is the one who got away. No excuses this time, Woni.

Keep us posted... I love hearing what happens next...

If you're not serious with the JSH guy then you don't have to tell him anything... Do you know that he's not talking to or seeing other women? The thing about online is that you can't make it more serious or real that what it is until you get to a point that you've "met" and decided to "date"... Until then no one owes the other anything...

i think the man from jsh will understand, considering the history and circumstances. plus, you can remain friends with him anyway. that's why he is here. he should be happy for your realtime connection. and if navy guy doesn't understand that you have friends other than him, that might be a huge red flag to think things over about seriousness with him. hopefully things will work out.

agree princess

Why do you feel obliged to tell the JSH guy? It will just hurt his feelings and serve no purpose. If you are not in a commited relationship your friends and friendships should include men and women. If you don't meet up with this long ago love interest you are going to have feelings, emotions, and unanswered questions forever. He may have changed and you may have changed, but he could be a friendship. It sounds like your current relationship is at a flirtatious stage. Do you feel this relationship is moving forward?

You just do it. Life is too short to not explore something that needs to be explored. The JSH guy should understand. Be honest and up front.

You should tell the guy on JSH the story you just told us. I think it is a romantic story. Oh how i love romance.

Good Luck to you and the navy man.. Go For It..

Awwwwwwww this is soooooooo Officer and a Gentlemanish!!

Are you and navy guy exclusive, is there anything going on between you (except a lot of history)?

See I don't know anything about relationships, but to me before you break 1 guys heart and rely on anothers, at least go out with navy guy a few times.

He sounds great, and he probably is great, but why jump the gun before you even dated him (at least recently), and ruin any chance you have with JSH guy.

When the time comes you should tell him the truth, exactly the same as you said here. It's a great story, and if he's a good guy he'll understand.