I have never posted a question here before but here goes....

I spent 2 hours on the phone with an ex boyfriend this morning. We broke up almost 3 months ago. He now says he regrets things that happened. He apologized for things he said and did and told me what a great person he still thinks I am. He never said that he wanted to see me or that he regrets breaking up with me. He has always said that he has a problem with talking about his feelings and that because of things that happened with his ex-wife, he is very afraid of being hurt like that again. He repeated all of this again this morning.

My problem....

I would still like to see him. I still miss him terribly. I'm ok alone and I've been trying to move on. I been out with a few guys over the last couple of months and I've had fun with them but...

Do I tell him how I feel or leave it alone?

Oh honey RUN FOREST RUN

ok i was gonna say that on another post,,,,but it's what u want to do,,if u ask otheres,they don't have th same kind of feelings that u do,,,,,so set back an figuer out if u want to look for another romance or go back to th old one,look deep befor u leep

Honey don't ride the merry go round.

From exsperiance- if it was bad enough to brake up...
Its bad enough not to go back too. The man needs to stop blaming his exwife for his behavior! His behavior is of his own doing. the exwife was'nt there twisting his arm.

Do your self a favor... Find someone else!

JMO

I was kinda thinking that too.

Have you forgotten the definition of insanity. Repeating the same action over again and expecting a different outcome.

Think about it this way. You would want him to be honest with you right? Even if it was not what you wanted to hear. So Don't you think it is better to be up front with him about how you feel.

I will not tell you what to do. It is not my place and I do not know either of you. But on the surface it would seem to be a bad idea to start back up with him.

It is unlikely to be better.

I wish you the best in what ever you decide to do. But I think you probably already know your answer.

Be well,
Wes

That thought has not crossed my mind all day....thanks for reminding me.

Run do not Walk Run as fast as you can in the oppisite direction

OMG.... his name is WES

I had this same thing with my ex....but he told me he still loved me and wanted to be with me... u just have to look at why u broke up..and look into ur self and see if he really what u want... i know for me the break up was bad enough...and i couldnt deal with him anymore..so i told him i was DONE

Hey Everybody...

Thanks.....this really has helped me think about some things that I haven't already. I think I'm gonna give it a few days and "sleep on it" for a while before I do anything.

Thanks again

Hey! It is not me! :) I would not be foolish enough to screw a relationship with you!
I have my flaws but being stupid is not one of them!

The OTHER Wes!

My roommate Wes?

If you go back and it has the same outcome, can you take it? If you love him, you love him. But make sure what you invest in him and the relationship is not more than you can afford to lose.

So if he had no intention of asking to see you, or whatever, why would he open up an old wound just to appologise? That is a selfish act. He did it to ease his own concious. Not to make thing better between the two of you..... or else he was upset that he had not heard from you in all that time, and wanted to make sure he was still on your mind...

Dump him..move on...there's a better guy around the corner.

That's sweet of you Wes, I guess not all Wes' are created equal.

Sometimes TWO should ONLY be ONE!

And this is one of them times... You "CAN'T" CHANGE PEOPLE..

And PEOPLE can't CHANGE!!!
Good Luck....

I agree you can't "change" people, but I disagree people can't change. That is a very narrowminded stance and a high-handed place to be. I can change if I want to, but it has to be my own desire and be willing to do the work to make it happen.

U need to weigh the pros and cons:

Why do I want to stay?

Why do I want to leave?

But, in the end it like what my buddy Kenny says:"You need to know when to fold them?"

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