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allen,but unless you gave them the time of day, how could you come to that conclusion...say you viewed me.i would email you directly,because i am hugh on respect,and say something light like,"i caught you peeking, stop by and say hi" now, i feel that if you are shy, i've opened the door a little. maybe my thinking is all wrong,so thats why i'm asking... TO ME IT JUST SOUNDS WIERD WHEN YOU PUT "I CAUGHT YOU PEEKING," |
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I understand... and I do give anyone who shows interest in me at least a reciprocal amount in return. But I have become wary...It's almost like I can tell by how someone words their sentences what it might be like to date them, or socialize, I should say... there's an old saying " I'd rather want what I can't have than have what I don't want"
Please don't get me wrong. I'm really a newbie when it comes to the dating scene because I was married for nearly half my life. That being said, I'll go on to say that if a lady feels the need, without the subject being approached before, to tell me in no uncertain terms that she's "independant,strong,self sufficiant" and so on and so forth, I run fast because if that's the case, what the heck does she need me for anyways ? I suppose it's the times we live in...heckifIknow.... |
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link97my,to be honest with you, i did that once and he emailed me stating that he was shy and was window shopping. but thanked me for opening the door and gave me his cell number. i guess what works for some- does'nt work for others.so i guess my advice to myself and to others is DON'T GIVE UP! thanx hun nice smile.
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back at'cha
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I understand... and I do give anyone who shows interest in me at least a reciprocal amount in return. But I have become wary...It's almost like I can tell by how someone words their sentences what it might be like to date them, or socialize, I should say... there's an old saying " I'd rather want what I can't have than have what I don't want" Please don't get me wrong. I'm really a newbie when it comes to the dating scene because I was married for nearly half my life. That being said, I'll go on to say that if a lady feels the need, without the subject being approached before, to tell me in no uncertain terms that she's "independant,strong,self sufficiant" and so on and so forth, I run fast because if that's the case, what the heck does she need me for anyways ? I suppose it's the times we live in...heckifIknow.... So you are saying you are looking for a co-dependent, weak female with no job? |
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my personal experience is that younger woman are more open minded and less apt to have a "my way or the highway" attitude...But believe me, I would date people my age if they'd just ease up some on the control pedal a little... I agree. Many of the women in their mid to late forties and above, when you meet them, seem to exude the attitude of "What can you do for me? I don't need you." In their profiles they seem to extend a similar type attitude: No game players (isn't getting to know each other and developing a relationship kinda like a game?) Independent (I don't need anyone, especially a man). Most of all, when you read a lot of the posts in the forums, the first advice they give is run away from a relationship at the first sign of trouble. I personally have noticed this is more prevalent among the older rather than the younger grous. It makes them appear to be "man-haters" or just jaded by experience. Just my rant..lol..I apologize if I have offended anyone, but, that is just what I see from my perspective. Maybe you ladies could enlighten we males on stuff that we have in ouir profiles that is a turn off to youo? |
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allen, coming from a mans point of view,i truly understand,but to get back to my profile,i sincerely miss being in the arms of a gentleman. i don't feel that my profile is either to womans lib or to needy...feed back please.
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I understand... and I do give anyone who shows interest in me at least a reciprocal amount in return. But I have become wary...It's almost like I can tell by how someone words their sentences what it might be like to date them, or socialize, I should say... there's an old saying " I'd rather want what I can't have than have what I don't want" Please don't get me wrong. I'm really a newbie when it comes to the dating scene because I was married for nearly half my life. That being said, I'll go on to say that if a lady feels the need, without the subject being approached before, to tell me in no uncertain terms that she's "independant,strong,self sufficiant" and so on and so forth, I run fast because if that's the case, what the heck does she need me for anyways ? I suppose it's the times we live in...heckifIknow.... So you are saying you are looking for a co-dependent, weak female with no job? nope...not in the slightest...I'm saying that I'm no more impressed by your qualities of strength and self reliance, than you are in mine... In the quite stillness, with uninhibited intimate communication, I want to play my primal role as the man...that's all...nothing to do with codependance or who is independant or not...nothing to do with being weak either...straight up...for me...it has EVERYTHING to do with being appreciated for who I am as a man...take it for what you will... |
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willy-cents ,see it is true, we woman have created a division between the sexes but also visa versa. i've always had WONDERFUL men in my life.one of the lucky ones i guess. i've never been scorned so my attitude toward men is open and honest.
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your profile looks fine to me hon
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I understand... and I do give anyone who shows interest in me at least a reciprocal amount in return. But I have become wary...It's almost like I can tell by how someone words their sentences what it might be like to date them, or socialize, I should say... there's an old saying " I'd rather want what I can't have than have what I don't want" Please don't get me wrong. I'm really a newbie when it comes to the dating scene because I was married for nearly half my life. That being said, I'll go on to say that if a lady feels the need, without the subject being approached before, to tell me in no uncertain terms that she's "independant,strong,self sufficiant" and so on and so forth, I run fast because if that's the case, what the heck does she need me for anyways ? I suppose it's the times we live in...heckifIknow.... So you are saying you are looking for a co-dependent, weak female with no job? nope...not in the slightest...I'm saying that I'm no more impressed by your qualities of strength and self reliance, than you are in mine... In the quite stillness, with uninhibited intimate communication, I want to play my primal role as the man...that's all...nothing to do with codependance or who is independant or not...nothing to do with being weak either...straight up...for me...it has EVERYTHING to do with being appreciated for who I am as a man...take it for what you will... I feel you are not giving independent women a fair shake. Traditional roles required the woman to stay home and raise the children and the man worked to support the family. I am independent and can provide for myself (Thank God!) but I also PREFER more traditional roles in a relationship. Please, take the time to get to know us before you pass judgement. |
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allen thanx for the banter...in my profile i state that i'm a true girlie girl looking to be in the arms of a true gentleman. i've read men are from mars, woman are from venus. i believe that is a must read. i love, respect and understand men . absolutely no bullsh*t.
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sorry folks i need to leave for i have plans tonight. thanx to each and every one of you.i can honestly say that this was the 1st topic that was sincere and honest. no one interupted with the usual crap.love to all.patty.
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I've read it too...funny though...in a topsy turvy, mish mash of a world like ours, how many women are seemingly just a liiiitle too into the martian mind set....
I suppose things are how they should be... I'm not complaining...all kinds of fish in the sea...Since I'm not asking for anything beyond aknowledgement of my extended hand in friendship (especially online), I felt I owed it to myself to chime in on this post because it really does hit close to home with me... |
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allen, i can't let this go by lol...if i have to find my way into one more cave!!! only kidding, all in fun. you are so sweet.
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again...back at'cha darlin with cherries on top
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Since you are a whole year older than me I am sure you a lot more mature. One year can make a lot of difference. I usually hang out with women atleast 80 years or older. I am finding women in general are more mature than me. I was working with a 19 year old who seemed more mature than me. Lately, I am finding I might have some maturity on my pet Spitz. Atleast, I am house trained which is more than I can say for my little dog. I put her outside until she can learn how not to mess on the floor in the house.
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allen, really am leaving now .may i email you again? really enjoyed chatting to you.would love a friend on here to open up to.patty.
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allen, extend your email restrictions to the 52 year old broad so she can chat with you...lol
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hi i'm kailyn, looking for a guy my age to chill with. holla at me
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