Brian you know nothing about my life. Please don't condescend to me. I just don't get the point of crying in your beer. It accomplishes nothing. Sharing helps when you are going through something but you are talking about things from the past which should be dealt with and left alone,

the week of Jan 15, 2008 through June 29,2008-- Finding out our seemingly healthy mother had lung & bone cancer...and watching her fade away and then being there with her when she passed.

2007 sorry

I never know what year it is

Thank you Dr. Phil. Im glad you are much smarter than everyone else. I Bow to you

Hikerchick,

The original post was...

"What was the darkest time in your life?"

It's a question..and nothing "bad" about answering it. A person can talk about anything in thier past..bad or good..at any time. It does not mean they "dwell" in it. Mine happened almost 17 years ago...you think I still hold on to that?? Hell no! I dealt with that 15 years ago. BUT, when asked, I can tell a person the most painful thing that has happened in my life to this point.

I understand and agree with what you are saying..people should not "live in the past"..period. I think we are just reflecting here.

You are most certainly entitled to your opinion... and if leaving sadness in the past works for you, then that is wonderful. May I suggest though, that you respect that it may be different for others... and no one is forcing you to READ or PARTICIPATE in this thread. Since you feel so strongly against it... why are you following it??

Please respect others to interact in a way that benefits them

why are you being so rude to me? I asked some questions and stated some opinions. I thought that was what the forum was all about. You should have had a disclaimer that only people who share your dismal outlook will be tolerated.

Thanks sumthing. Believe it or not, I am just trying to understand...not to judge anyone. It just seems so depressing for everyone to sit around and talk about the worst moments in their lives. I don't understand what the payoff is, is all. Thanks.

I do lightvoice..that is why I am asking questions and trying to understand.

I cannot speak for the others... for I do not know each of them well enough to do so. I can speak for myself...

Sometimes looking back, at pivotal moments in our life, explains who we are NOW and HOW we got there. And it is most often in our darkest moments, that we find ourselves from thence on redefined.

Also... looking back at a hard time.. and seeing that you not only made it through.. but have also made it forward.. can be VERY empowering! Because you can say to yourself: "Dang.. if I made it thru THAT, then I can face THIS".

And sometimes, just sometines.. we need to remember the dark moments of past, so if it is at ALL possible to avoid it again, we can.

These are just a few reason why it can be a very positive reason for reviewing ones past.. including our darkest moments.

I hope this helps

One of the hardest moments of my life happened Feb 3, 1990

My daughter, Brittany Anne, died during delivery.

Her 18th birthday would be this coming Sunday. Now, granted, this was a VERY dark time for me... however... I tend to think that maybe I am a better mother because of it. I treasure each hand print on the newly windexed glass... I let cobwebs go so I can have a tea party... Remembering has helped me

thanks light voice. I think the difference with me is that I do do that but I just internalize it. And I guess I personally don't feel comfortable dragging it all back out into the light of day. I hash it to death at the time and then it's just part of me. Thanks for respecting me and not being rude to me for being different. I appreciate it.

you are welcome Not everyone handles pain or grief the same.. I have no business judging you sweetie..