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Topic: can someone help please
shauna22 Joined Wed 01/16/08 Posts: 228	Thu 01/31/08 01:38 PM
people are going to read this and think im so sad lol. the thing is ive been talking to this bloke for about 5 months on a dateing site,we also talk on our mobiles. ive never met him but would love to at sum point we flirt but its just fun the thing is i realy realy like him alot and fancy him like mad but i wouldnt say anything hed think im strange as we have never met how can i want someone so much when ive never even met him

randy912 Joined Thu 10/26/06 Posts: 405	Thu 01/31/08 01:41 PM
people are going to read this and think im so sad lol. the thing is ive been talking to this bloke for about 5 months on a dateing site,we also talk on our mobiles. ive never met him but would love to at sum point we flirt but its just fun the thing is i realy realy like him alot and fancy him like mad but i wouldnt say anything hed think im strange as we have never met how can i want someone so much when ive never even met him The best thing I would say to do is to find a safe place to meet him and go for it and see if the feelings are mutual and for you still say the same.. that is what I would do , never know till you try

star1972 Joined Sun 01/06/08 Posts: 2323	Thu 01/31/08 01:42 PM
people can seem mysterious on these sites. why dont u arrange to meet - public place and all that and see how it goes from there. when u meet it might be great or u may think - no i dont think so. it's easy to feel lustfull when u want a realationship and the flirting is fun and makes u feel good. u never know he may feel the same way about u. hope this helps a bit

Duffy Joined Sat 10/07/06 Posts: 3775	Thu 01/31/08 01:44 PM
illusion, fantasy, lust and female desire at work here. and you have never met him. "mystery, my dear" as clark gable would say.

wolfchic Joined Wed 09/26/07 Posts: 8036	Thu 01/31/08 01:54 PM
people are going to read this and think im so sad lol. the thing is ive been talking to this bloke for about 5 months on a dateing site,we also talk on our mobiles. ive never met him but would love to at sum point we flirt but its just fun the thing is i realy realy like him alot and fancy him like mad but i wouldnt say anything hed think im strange as we have never met how can i want someone so much when ive never even met him That is the truth.I still wonder how people can get so tied up on people.The sad thing is,They only talk a few time and just stop.No wonder hardy get togather.SEAMS like No one ever puts any effert to realy getting to know them.

shauna22 Joined Wed 01/16/08 Posts: 228	Thu 01/31/08 02:13 PM
cheers hun i dunno if id meet him tho im in swansea hes in newcastle

shauna22 Joined Wed 01/16/08 Posts: 228	Thu 01/31/08 02:15 PM
dunno if id meet him we live a long wat apart cheers tho hun

BEACHBABE23 Joined Thu 01/17/08 Posts: 656	Thu 01/31/08 03:43 PM
I KNOW THE FEELING I HAVE A GUY I MET ON ANOTHER SITE..WE TALK AS MUCH AS WE CAN FIRST THING IN THE MORNING,ON BREAKS AT WORK, UNTIL 3 A.M.. ..PHONE,I.M.,CEEL,TEXTING,SEND PIX. WE'VE APPROCHED THE SUBJECT BUT HAVE NOT MET IN PERSON YET,BUT I FEEL LOST WITHOUT HIM.WE DO HAVE FEELINGS FOR EACH OTHER,IT'S ALL KIND OF SCARRY. HANG IN THERE I'D BE CORIOUS HOW IT GOES

gammalight6000 Joined Sun 12/23/07 Posts: 5403	Thu 01/31/08 03:44 PM
no help today..it's thursday...every other day yes... j/k

stevenpwis Joined Sat 10/20/07 Posts: 999	Thu 01/31/08 04:41 PM Edited by stevenpwis on Thu 01/31/08 04:41 PM
what's a bloke? I haven't got English English down yet

Pata Joined Sat 07/07/07 Posts: 23705	Thu 01/31/08 08:44 PM
you want him so bad cause your picturing and imagining him a certain way..............WAIT TILL YOU MEET HIM.....that feeling should go away in about 5 minutes

TheRedHead Joined Sun 01/27/08 Posts: 17	Thu 01/31/08 09:25 PM
Ok. I met someone over the internet a long time ago and our whole 5-year relationship was based around chatting and phone calls and emails. I never met him in person although I really wanted to. I felt we had such a connection, and we did. But I think I was putting too much into the relationship because I was single and really just wanted to feel attractive and loved by someone and he was basically the one constant guy in my life. I also think I became so emotionally involved because I never did have a chance to meet him and so we never discovered each other's faults and bad habits in person. It was almost like a relationship that couldn't go wrong, and that's why it felt so great. It was "safe" to care about him. It's not sad that you feel so strongly about someone you've never met but feel such a connection toward, I think it would be sad if you did nothing about it and let an opportunity slip away.

Suchendentrost Joined Tue 12/04/07 Posts: 79	Fri 02/01/08 12:47 AM
You should definitely try meeting him. Try meeting halfway! You'll never know until you pose the question. If he is a good friend or he fancies you as well, then he's likely to meet you at the halfway point instead of putting the obligation on you or him to travel the entire duration.

Cmigic Joined Sun 01/13/08 Posts: 532	Fri 02/01/08 01:12 AM
Have you considered using Skype or something similar? Could it be that you talk on mobiles cause he already has someone and just doesnt want to get caught? I dont mean to make it ****ty for you but protect yourself and your heart, they can be fragile and/when vaunrable (is the underlying reason you are wanting to meet him so bad the pangs of lonelyness?) At least with a video chat program you get to see him face to face and guage his expressions while talking to him....ie: see if he's lying to you or hiding something........but if he isnt then like buddy way above this post said..meet at a mutually comfortable place in public, I would even suggest having a friend thats not judgmental and is trusting and caring of you sit close by unbeknowest to him.

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Fri 02/01/08 04:14 AM
What is holding you back from meeting? The distance shouldn't... or else you'd not hve started it up with him to begin with. The longer you wait to meet him, the more you romanticize him and the less he can meet your realistic expectations. Take a day and meet halfway. Have a drink, lunch, whatever. Do not be afraid to tell him that you want to meet and that by what you know by talking you really like him. That does not seem at all weird.

angelindarkness Joined Sun 11/25/07 Posts: 6492	Fri 02/01/08 05:06 AM
people are going to read this and think im so sad lol. the thing is ive been talking to this bloke for about 5 months on a dateing site,we also talk on our mobiles. ive never met him but would love to at sum point we flirt but its just fun the thing is i realy realy like him alot and fancy him like mad but i wouldnt say anything hed think im strange as we have never met how can i want someone so much when ive never even met him Most men I know say that if they are available and really like the woman, they wouldn't wait more than a couple of weeks to a couple of months at most to meet someone, no matter what part of the country they lived in. I'd be concerned that he wasn't available in some way - whether that was legally, emotionally, physically. It is also possible that he may not be as he presented himself to be. Why has 5 months passed between you on a dating site with no plans to meet, provided all safety precautions are in place - especially if it is a long-distance meet?

angelindarkness Joined Sun 11/25/07 Posts: 6492	Fri 02/01/08 05:07 AM
illusion, fantasy, lust and female desire at work here. and you have never met him. "mystery, my dear" as clark gable would say. You are right on target, I'm sorry to say. Take it from experience.

angelindarkness Joined Sun 11/25/07 Posts: 6492	Fri 02/01/08 05:09 AM
Ok. I met someone over the internet a long time ago and our whole 5-year relationship was based around chatting and phone calls and emails. I never met him in person although I really wanted to. I felt we had such a connection, and we did. But I think I was putting too much into the relationship because I was single and really just wanted to feel attractive and loved by someone and he was basically the one constant guy in my life. I also think I became so emotionally involved because I never did have a chance to meet him and so we never discovered each other's faults and bad habits in person. It was almost like a relationship that couldn't go wrong, and that's why it felt so great. It was "safe" to care about him. It's not sad that you feel so strongly about someone you've never met but feel such a connection toward, I think it would be sad if you did nothing about it and let an opportunity slip away. Insightful. I've been there and can relate to this.

shauna22 Joined Wed 01/16/08 Posts: 228	Sun 02/03/08 09:04 AM
thanx for reply let you know what happens

countrybelle6471 Joined Fri 06/15/07 Posts: 3150	Sun 02/03/08 09:15 AM
people are going to read this and think im so sad lol. the thing is ive been talking to this bloke for about 5 months on a dateing site,we also talk on our mobiles. ive never met him but would love to at sum point we flirt but its just fun the thing is i realy realy like him alot and fancy him like mad but i wouldnt say anything hed think im strange as we have never met how can i want someone so much when ive never even met him SWEETIE THIS SOUNDS LIKE ME,TO A TEE...BECAUSE IT IS BUT THE DIFFERENCE IS THAT WE DO PLAN ON MEETING,IN THE NEXT MONTH IF EVERYTHING GOES WELL.OR AS IT SHOULD.WE'VE KNOWN EACH OTHER FOR ABOUT 5 MONTHS & HAVE GOTTEN VERY CLOSE..AND TALK ABOUT A FUTURE TOGETHER..BUT ITS NOT WITHOUT ITS PROBLEMS..SO IT MIGHT WORK OUT FOR US OR NOT..WE HAVE SAID THAT WE WILL NOT FORCE ANYTHING AND THAT WE WILL JUST LET IT HAPPEN AS IT WILL.SO THAT WAY THE PIECES WILL JUST FALL INTO PLACE..BUT THEN AGAIN WHEN YOU FIND SOMETHING WORHT FIGHTING 4....HUM ..WELL THAT IS MY STORY FOR NOW..AND WHEN IT HAS AN ENDING I WILL LET YOU KNOW .. BE IT GOOD OR SAD...