Hey everyone. I've been on this site for a few months and have never actually started a topic. Been here for laughs and to put my 2 cents in when wanted. But now I have a question for everyone. About 6 months ago I broke up with my ex girlfriend. During our relationship she started coming to my buddies house with me to play in our poker games. She really liked it. And she bacame pretty good. Well, our break up was pretty bad - I found out a lot of things she was doing behind my back. Horrible. The thing is, my buddy and I were very close but he became close to her too. And although he knows everything she did, he still invites her to every poker night. Now, I would rather not be around her so I do not go when she is there. Today he said he's mad at me for this and said I am being immature. Is he right? I mean, I never got mad or anything about it I just told him if she goes I would rather not. And I love to play poker with these guys!!! I just really don't want to be around her. And to be honest, I would think as a friend (and I was in his Wedding and he was in mine) and we've known each other WAY before she ever came into the picture, that he should give me the choice first. If I go she can't. Am I wrong in this?

I would really appreciate some sort of unbiased opinions.

THANKS

You shouldn't let him disrespect you like that. tell him how you feel

BROS before HOES.... Kidding...

I have. But he seems to think that we are old enough to just let things go. But it's not about that. I just don't want to be around her. She messed with me pretty bad. And she was just a girlfriend...not my ex wife. If my ex wife was there, I wouldn't care....she's a good person but my ex-girlfriend is a liar and a cheat......really bad one too!!!

tell him that you dont feel comfortable with her there and why your not. Your not wrong for feeling that way

haha - doesn't look like it in this situation.

I think he should know it makes you feel uncomfortable. Sounds like he wants to get jiggy wit her yanno??? He doesnt sound like much of a friend.....

I thinks thats A Dr.Phill question .

get over it and kick her ass at texas hold 'em

sorry but i have to agree with your friend . your going there for him and the other guys not her and if it happen the way you say you shouldn't be giving her so much power .

Absolutely. And I have over and over. It's weird. I really think I am 100% right on this. It's just part of my past that I wish to forget. And that means not having contact with her at all anymore. Why can't she just get her own friends!!!! haha

sounds like either he's just hoping to win some money from her in the poker game , or he's just trying to get in good with her hoping to get her in bed ..

seen this before i just think if your friendship meant anything to him he tell her to hit the door whore

As a friend, he really ought to understand that you're uncomfortable with her around and respect that. I've had to stop being friends with girls because they broke up with my friends in nasty ways before. It's not fun, but it's what friends are about. If he was really such a good friend, he'd back you up. IMHO of course.

very mature

A friend shouldn't do that, makes you question if he's really a friend.. You're not being immature..

I do understand that. I just choose not to go. I'm not mad at him but she makes me feel uncomfortable and I just choose not to be around her. I don't think he should be mad at me because I choose not to be around her.

Hey sunshine, I dont think he is disrepecting you. He isn't messing w/her is he? That would mean he is disrepecting you! jmo

Afterall, it shouldnt affect him one way or the other if you guys are together, his interest is in a good poker game.

So sorry, I side w/your friend, think you should leave your personal feelings at the door.

(just my opinion)

just sic your JSH posse on her and we will take care of her

I don't think you are acting immature. You are doing what you need to do to heal right now. It is unfortunate that your friend cannot be more sensitive to your feelings, being that your bond and his was supposed to be stronger than his and hers. Ah, but some men will lose their minds for a hot bod or pretty face. Causes lots of problems, no?