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Topic: Does this make me a player!?
Jim519 Joined Thu 12/27/07 Posts: 9203	Thu 01/17/08 05:55 PM
Lines of communication are critical...You say your not ready for a relationship, so what really is your plan?

zippyfear Joined Tue 01/15/08 Posts: 157	Thu 01/17/08 05:55 PM
yeah, as long as you're being honest it's probably all good.. but when someone gets attached, they're going to get hurt on some level.. you just need to know and understand that is going to happen. been there and done that.. glad I only have one woman in my life to worry about now.. it is more than enough. good luck!

pong_sicxs Joined Tue 06/05/07 Posts: 146	Thu 01/17/08 05:57 PM
Lines of communication are critical...You say your not ready for a relationship, so what really is your plan? Im actually dating to find the one. I like this girl... but she can be very annoying chick. But ever thing else is cool. iOno, I guess I'm picky.

TheShadow Joined Sun 08/13/06 Posts: 14218	Thu 01/17/08 05:58 PM
I been doing alot of dating lately and there is one girl that I've been dating for alittle over a month. During this time I been dating other girls too. We are not officially girlfriend boyfriend yet. She know I date other girls during this time period. She knows that and she said shes fine with it. But now im also dating another different girl for about 2 weeks now. The girl I been dating for a month ask me jokingly, "Have you find yourself a girl yet?" and I said" I been dating this other one girl for about 2 weeks now". She kinda look upset but didn't really say anything else. She said she wanna hang out this weekend and I told her I will be going out with this other girl and will have time for her in between. I feel really bad. I'm still in that mode where I don't want a serious relationship yet. I just wanna see who's out there. iOno what to do! I dont want to hurt anyones feelings. Word of advice. sometime it's not good to be to forward. As long as you being real and letting them know where you stand, then it should be up to them to know if they can deal with it or not. but if you see hurting someone. then why drag it on? It sucks cuz she said she dont mind me dating other girls. She made it like an invitation to "just keep coming back to me" Well as you can see, anywomen telling you that is just hiding what they really feel. Wait! ill say most women. being young as they are, ill have to say they don't really know what they want just yet. So knowing at this point she would like to be with you. She is not just going to come out and tell you. she wants you too see it. I would say talk to her and let her know in a gental way that you know how she feels about you and make sure she listens to you when you tell her in a gental way , where you stand as far as datting goes. because the longer this goes on the more she might be hurting

MsTeddyBear2u Joined Fri 04/06/07 Posts: 22031	Thu 01/17/08 05:58 PM
Well if you made it clear- than she was aware of the situation. Perhaps she needs to do the same and date several men. Sounds like she is starting to like you... You may have to let this one go, or maybe she will walk away. It is sad when someone starts feeling something, and the other one does'nt. Guess that is what dating is... At least you are'nt sleeping with them and that is good. Your human- that is why you feel bad. Sure you don't feel the same as her? You have been dating her a long time...

Enya Joined Mon 11/26/07 Posts: 2077	Thu 01/17/08 05:58 PM
(sorry to interupt your forum.....but,I hadda say..... (shadow,you are so sexy!) now,back to pongs forum...If they know your just dating... your not a player.

xander29 Joined Fri 12/07/07 Posts: 353	Thu 01/17/08 05:58 PM
its a better idea, and much less complicated to only date one at a time to find that one

Benzy940 Joined Mon 10/02/06 Posts: 416	Thu 01/17/08 05:59 PM
I agree with Shadow, if you have been upfront with your intentions then they are informed from the jump,Knowledge is the key to life and I would totally respect someone being upfront and honest with me , rather than be led on and then hurt down the line. But make sure you aren't sending the 1 month girl mixed signals and try and revisit the conversation where you tell her that you are not ready for committment. Someone's feelings will always be on the line especially if one of the parties is dating exclusively and the other is not. You've been upfront with your feelings and most people can respect that. Goodluck

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Thu 01/17/08 05:59 PM
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Jim519 Joined Thu 12/27/07 Posts: 9203	Thu 01/17/08 06:00 PM
Lines of communication are critical...You say your not ready for a relationship, so what really is your plan? Im actually dating to find the one. I like this girl... but she can be very annoying chick. But ever thing else is cool. iOno, I guess I'm picky. I am the same dude, no worries...Im pretty critical but have quite a reason to be. Ride it out and be certain, dont feel pressured and do what your comfortable with and not what will please others

TheShadow Joined Sun 08/13/06 Posts: 14218	Thu 01/17/08 06:00 PM
(sorry to interupt your forum.....but,I hadda say..... (shadow,you are so sexy!) now,back to pongs forum...If they know your just dating... your not a player. LMAO Thank you for the smile

pong_sicxs Joined Tue 06/05/07 Posts: 146	Thu 01/17/08 06:02 PM
its a better idea, and much less complicated to only date one at a time to find that one I never thought this will happen. She said it was ok but I guess I was too blind. So I did what we agreed, I date some more.

pong_sicxs Joined Tue 06/05/07 Posts: 146	Thu 01/17/08 06:06 PM
Thanks everybody! I just wanna throw. So far everybody have something to say I can agree on!