I was going out with this girl for 4.5 years. We were each others firsts everything. She left because she needed to experience life without being in a relationship. We have been broke up now for 14 months but during this time we have been talking, I went and saw her in California because she is in the Navy now, she was home on leave for New Years and she went bi-polar. She now dont want to talk to me ever again for what reason I have no idea. I love her alot and care for her but I can not let her keep going and coming when she wants too. I want to know how can I get over her so I can move on. I am not the type to go out and have sex with someone to move on I have class, morals, self respect, and respect. So how can I move on?

Give it time!! I was married 10 years , I got over it & feel like a weight has been lifted

I just wish time would move faster, I hate feeling like have have to pick up the phone and call her to try to work things out. I know I cant because I can not be a door mat anymore.

what do you mean she went bi-polar????

I think only you can decided that.. Some people go out on dates, some just hang with friends, some find a hobby or take classes.. Whatever is necessary to get through that time... It took me time too but the thing that helped was "no" contact.. You cannot get over a person while still in contact.. JMHO....

Good luck!

She goes from loving me to hating my in the matter of minutes.

Bi-polar is the alternate "PMS" comment men now use for women...

dont be so hard on yourself..you will move on when you are ready..

You say your not the type to go out and have sex and all that. well thats fine, but you still need to go out. YOu cant move on, until well, you move on. Sitting around dwelling on her is not the answer. Neither is posting how hung up on her you are on a dating site. No girl in her right mind is goign to go out with you while you are hung up on another girl. Thats just a disaster waiting to happen.

Listen, I know that this is nothing compared to what you're going through, but;

I was with this guy for a year and a half. One day he called me to tell me he didn't love me anymore and that he was leaving me for my best friend. Of course i was crushed, and i tried my best to keep him as a friend, but he wasn't havin' it.

In my opinion, you're never gunna get over her. It will just hurt less day by day. The best thing you can do is remember the good times and cry when you feel lke you need to cry. If you remember the bad times, you'll end up loathing her for no reason. And if you don't cry, you'll be all bottled up and eventually get depression/anxiety.

Don't stay home and sulk though!

Go out with friends, or even on your own. Go for a walk just to think. Go to your favorite Restaurant and order your favorite foods. It seems Mundane at frst, but after a while it really does help.

it shows that you really CAN live your life without her. Just hang on. If you need any more advice, send me a message.

Thanks for reading.

Trust me time heals that wound.

This is exactly right.

I just dont know why she can come in and out of my life when ever she thinks she wants. She leaves and hates me and dont ever wants to talk. Then comes back and loves me and said she is sorry she made the mistake leaving me.

Because you let her.

uhhhhhhhhhhhhh what did YOU DO???

Not to sound like an ass but you will get over it. No girl is worth that kind of tears and sorrow. Yea It will be hell and you will feel like your worlds going to hell. But try keeping busy. Doing things you enjoy with people you like. As for women Do your own thing and they will find you. Being commited at a major relationship at young age is very diffucult becouse you are both growing up to be diffrent people. Comeing from someone thats been there. Just move on.

it takes time

I saved this for just such an occasion. I revieved it thru an email.


Getting Over Your Ex

Whether you broke up with him or he broke up with you, there comes a point when it's time to move on from a former partner. It's healthy. It's mature. And it can be extremely difficult.
Getting rid of an ex is a physical and mental undertaking. Once you've given yourself some time to grieve (or to feel anger or self-pity or whatever it may be), it's time to pull yourself up like the goddess that you are! Here's how: First and foremost, stop talking about him — whether it's good or bad. Telling your friends about all the nasty things he did may be entertaining now that you're no longer invested in him, but it keeps you running in mental circles. The same goes for talking about all his wonderful qualities. The reality is that it didn't work out; the answer to "why not?" will likely come with time, not through marathon analysis sessions with your friends.
Be sure to also have a distraction handy for when you do find yourself privately obsessing about him: Find an engrossing (and upbeat) novel. Start doing crossword puzzles. Become an expert at the games on your cell phone. Don't be afraid to (literally) tell yourself "stop" when thoughts of your ex start taking over. Finally, get back out there, even if it doesn't feel right. Soon enough those perennial feelings of attraction will bubble to the surface with a new love interest. Promise!

I did not go out with her when she was home on leave with her friends. I can not stand her friends and we already had plans that nite to do something and she changes the plans 3 hours before to be with her friends. So she got her panties in a twist because I did not go with her and her friends.

lol!!