There is your own answer. Lean on those traits..see what you are made of. The "self respect" will be tested by your love for her..however, you already know she is bad for you and you want to move on.

After 14 months, you should be ready. Thats a long period of time and if you have been working on yourself, then you should be ready.

Find a woman who attracts you..and I'm not talking just about sexually. Strike up a friendship, because that's where all great relationships begin anyway.

Then you'll be on your way.

Good luck!

You said yourself you can't let her keep coming and going, so just don't. And it seems maybe we don't have the whole story? People don't just "go bi-polar"
It takes time to get over anyone you have been with for that long. You need to keep yourself busy, find things you like to do and just go about with your life.

Shes using you like a yoyo on a string, and its not her fault. If you dont let her in, she cant get in. The worst thing you can do to a woman like her, IS GET A LIFE. Seeing other woman has nothing to do with moral, and values. How are you going to learn to interact with other woman, it doesnt mean you have to sleep with all of them. A woman is the best person to help you get over another woman.Its seems as though she is progressing in life, and you are just sitting aroud like a stump. NO WOMAN WANTS A GUY THAT SHE CAN JUST TWIST IN THE WIND. SHE WANTS SOMEONE THAT SHE CAN FEEL SAFE AND PROTECTED WITH.

You have the whole story. She went to her friends one weekend left her phone at home so she can not be contacted. The the next night told me at the dinner table she want to break up with me because she wanted to experiance life without being in a relationship. Thats the whole story.

You have got to stay away from her. What you are going through is normal and the only way to get past it is to stay away from her and find something else to do with your time.It will gradually get better if you stay away from her and find something else to do.

Then she did you a favor by leaving, let her go. She comes back and leaves because SHE CAN. People will do what you let them get away with. You have to teach people how you want to be treated.