Okay I did not think I would need help but I do. I found this girl who is got to be the best person I've ever met. She is smart, beautiful, funny, good personality, the cutest laugh. She is so great! I just am at a loss. I mean I dont know what to say or think when I'm talking to her. I never do this, esp when talking to women. I'm always myself and I just cant figure out why I am the way I am when I talk to her. Any suggestions? Help!!!

If you need help being yourself, then you need help.

shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh u were supposed to keep us a secret

no thats just it, I always am myself. Believe it or not.

what you need to do is just find a way to relax. If that mean's practicing meditation and her being your focus of your chi then so be it. Just practice Being calm when your not with her and pretend that you are. Do it repetively, Such as deep breathing prior to starting then do the same thing before you have any contact with her. You can learn alot of this in a Tai Chi or decent Martial Art's class. These are tough lesson's to learn on your own but will develop the confidence taht you need. Curt
and hey if u are in love with her and she is in love with you then she will be worth the effort if u make it.

You must really like her.. I think when you feel comfortable that she likes you for you then you'll be ok and be able to be you again.. Does that make sense?

Sounds like you in love dude - don't sweat it too much, and then things should be fine

youre smitten Bro and it happens. Nice to see a Bro who doesnt have to be a hard@ss and can be in touch with his sensative side. Take a deep breath my friend, just relax and ask about her. What she likes, what she doesnt, her career and such. Before you know it, the conversation will flow and you will do fine. Yagermeister works too Bro,lol, J/K. Good luck Brother...

you're twitter-pated :D

it's a great feeling, enjoy it

I completely agree!

Oh, and do NOT tell her outright that you like, love, admire, etc. her. It's FAR more fun for the both of you to tell her in little, subtle ways that leave her guessing. ~__^

Dating is not a game, but if you don't treat it like one you're going to crash-and-burn pretty quick. Just have lean back and have fun.

ooh, hate to say it, but baaad idea.

What I said about having fun applies especially strongly here. Asking the usual questions is BORING. Ask CREATIVE, FUN questions! Ask her stuff that no one ever asks a girl he's into. Make a game of it! You'll discover that the questions you really want answered, like job, family, likes, etc. get answered pretty quick without you ever having to ask.

okay whats an example of a "creative" question? cuz, i'm a lil groggy on that one

Ooh, good question!

Stuff like "What's the weirdest place you've ever had sex?"
"What's your most embarrassing fantasy?" "What's the weirdest food you'd try?" "What celebrity do you love to hate?" That kinda thing.

personally, I'd say be okay with not knowing what to say. be real and honest, if you don't know what to say. just tell her, "Hey look, to be honest, it's embarrassing to say but you make me nervous and I don't know what to say. Hold on a moment, my engine is searching ... Okay, got it. You come up with something. Ask me an interesting question."

and here are some topics that you can talk about:

# Music
# Movies
# Where you grew up
# Places you’ve traveled
# Current jobs
# Dream jobs
# Best friends
# Restaurants you love
# Bars you frequent
# Pets
# Favorite foods
# Favorite drinks
# Beaches you love
# Vacation stories
# Sports teams and figures
# Family
# Siblings
# Books
# Favorite TV shows (past or present)
# Historical figures you’d like to meet
# Current figures you’d like to meet
# Concerts
# Favorite teachers
# Countries you’ve visited
# U.S. Cities you love
# Hobbies
# Local events
# Places you want to visit
# Place you live
# Super Hero Ability
# Dreams
# Childhood Memories
# Childhood Dreams
# Role Play Scenarios

Point is, she sounds like a cute girl. Cute girls have options. Lots of them. Wanna be able to compete? You have to make yourself stand out against the crowd. You've got to be DIFFERENT. Girls get asked crap like "where do you work? what are your interests? Where did you grow up?"...all. The. Time.

The number one turn-on for every human being in the world is novelty. Keep that in mind and you'll go far. ~_^

btw, whatever you say doesn't matter. in human communication, 93% is body language and voice tone. only 7% is words. just relax and be spontaneous. talk about ANYTHING. the important thing is about how to respond and react to continue the conversation. make sure it's fun, interesting, and personal (connects emotionally).

anyways, good luck with your girl

Ooh! On the ball, yic!

He's right.

One more note: humans, like all animals (humans are *not* animals, but there are significant shared biological similarities..discussion for another time...) come pre-programmed with a perfect instinctual road map for how to catch and keep the perfect mate. Once you're confident in yourself and your masculinity (this is important...girls never fall for a guy she perceives as a "boy"), all you have to do is trust your instincts. It takes practice, yes, because of society's backwards programming, but the "map" IS there. You just have to learn to hear it...and its instructions are always flawless.

I'm a nice girl and I don't have options??? I just get the "Boys" that want to know about my previouse sex life and how long it has been since I had sex. They also tell me they are worried because they want to know why I am still single since I am so sweet! They think I am too picky. Not picky just causious!!! I need a sensitive guy who is not affraid to tell me how he feels!!!

Awwww.

I'm afraid I'm not nearly as much of an expert on how girls catch great guys, but I can heartily recommend checking out http://www.catchhimandkeephim.com. I'm a huge fan of Christian Carter's. His practical insight into the human mind is practically unparalleled.

http://www.catchhimandkeephim.com

OMG ... you're joking ... this is wild ...

I got some girl friends who need it BAD ...