i'm having a problem with my adult daughter. think i spoiled her to much with a not so good dad. she is getting paid from the state to take care of me since surgery. one hungred a week. she don't do her job just small part of it. she has just moved out an don't like walking to do her job. don't fix me meals or do the cleaning that is in paper work. been in an out of hosp. with dehydration, lack of food. she has stated that if i fire her then i disowned her. so do i get the help i need or lose a daughter?

do you just want to die? I dont get this question really

Wow. You should probably get some help first. Then consult a proffessional... you are okay tho, right? I mean... if you're in trouble someone should do something immediately.

Lose a daughter

fire her ass!!!!! if she cant appreciate wat u did for her , her whole life by all means disown her shell learn a lesson

fire her my gosh u need real help

Well, while your relationship with your daughter is important, you have to take care of yourself before you can begin to repair the relationship you have with her. If she hates you for that, then that is her problem, not yours. Just my thought.

You pay her a hundred bucks a week and she thinks she's spoiled? Yeah, I don't get this question, but if she's threatening you or not doing her job... fire her. That is how the real world works.

Fire her and turn her in!

let your daughter go.

Take of care of YOU. Fire her, get yourself together, and see about maybe some kind of family counseling or other professional help to fix the problems in the family.

It may sound harsh but it seems like you have already lost your daughter. You need to take care of yourself and she needs to grow up. If you are lucky maybe someday she will see what she has done and be sorry but in the meantime you need to put yourself first. And good luck.

That is truly a tough one! I feel for you and send a hug. Hmmm... you need to take care of you! I understand your daughter feels she is the one in control but no matter what age she is she will always be the daughter. If she has moved out then she can obviously take care of herself and will probaly learn life the hard way judging from how you have describe your situation. I would tell her how you feel and what you will do to take care of you making sure she undestands what that involves and even though she will be angry tell her you love her! hope this helps. take care...

You obviously NEED the help, if she is not willing to do the job she is paid for...then I would report her and have them find someone that will truly help you.

You deserve to be taken care of...

if you are sick and beign neglected and she has acceted the resposiblity of caring for you that is abuse.neglect call the dept of child and families and 911 for your safety god bless and guide your thru this awful time

By firing her you will be teaching her something she didn't learn as a child/young adult... Nothing in life is free. There are consequences to the choice she made.

It's going to be hard on your relationship with your daughter but there will be no relationship for the two of you to mend if you pass away.
You must take care of yourself first.

Just my opinion.

that is what i have been telling her for awhile.

Since you can't take care of yourself and she isn't taking care of you I'm thinking you should fire her and move into a home, or get professional care. Maybe send your daughter here for a week and I can try to straighten her out!

MISSY,I KNOW YOU MUST LOVE YOUR DAUGHTER...BUT HOW MUCH DOES SHE LOVE YOU?

REGAURDLESS OF HOW CRUEL,RUDE AND MEAN MY MOM IS.....I WOULD NEVER MAKE HER SUFFER!

IN FACT,SHES BEEN HERE 2 WEEKS WITH THE FLU.
SORRY,BUT I WONT LET HER LEAVE TILL SHE GETS BETTER!

MY 19 YR. OLD WANTED TO ASSIST ME AFTER I HAD SURGERY...I SIMPLY ASKED EM'
ARE YOU GONNA COOK,CLEAN,SWEEP,MOP,DUST,AND WASH ALL THE LAUNDRY?

WELL,I GOT AN EXPIERENCED HELPER.

(SOMETIMES THEY NEED TOUGH LOVE.)