Finally!! A voice of reason!


Whose reason would that be? Everyone is different. I never felt that I needed to move for three years in my relationship. Obviously it will happen eventually, but why in the world does distance have to be a relationship ender...or blocker? i actually PREFER being with someone long distance. i am a busy busy girl and when i have a guy with me constantly, i cant breathe. when i date someone out of town, it makes me appreciate when he is there.
thats my voice of reason.


All I am saying is that people tend to think with their heart without considering the huge financial and emotional investment. I dated a man long distance for over a year. He asked me to move to Tulsa so I quit my management job, sold my home and moved my children. We both found you do not get to know each other very well doing the long distance thing. It ended 10 months later. I think anyone that has actually DONE it has a more realistic viewpoint on how well these things can work. Maybe I'm too practical,, jmo.

Maybe if I had a plane I would go to Miami just to see how it is there and how WOWCANDYKISSES is doin.

Well around these parts thats about it unless you go to St.louis

I bet she feels loved

Whose reason would that be? Everyone is different. I never felt that I needed to move for three years in my relationship. Obviously it will happen eventually, but why in the world does distance have to be a relationship ender...or blocker? i actually PREFER being with someone long distance. i am a busy busy girl and when i have a guy with me constantly, i cant breathe. when i date someone out of town, it makes me appreciate when he is there.
thats my voice of reason.


All I am saying is that people tend to think with their heart without considering the huge financial and emotional investment. I dated a man long distance for over a year. He asked me to move to Tulsa so I quit my management job, sold my home and moved my children. We both found you do not get to know each other very well doing the long distance thing. It ended 10 months later. I think anyone that has actually DONE it has a more realistic viewpoint on how well these things can work. Maybe I'm too practical,, jmo.


AllSmilesInTulsa, practicality is prudent... especially in these times. Even though I have never partaken in a LDR, I understand where you are coming from. I don't know that I could have made that type of a move, uprooting my family.

Kudo's to your acknowledgement of a "voice of reason".

All I am saying is that people tend to think with their heart without considering the huge financial and emotional investment. I dated a man long distance for over a year. He asked me to move to Tulsa so I quit my management job, sold my home and moved my children. We both found you do not get to know each other very well doing the long distance thing. It ended 10 months later. I think anyone that has actually DONE it has a more realistic viewpoint on how well these things can work. Maybe I'm too practical,, jmo.


AllSmilesInTulsa, practicality is prudent... especially in these times. Even though I have never partaken in a LDR, I understand where you are coming from. I don't know that I could have made that type of a move, uprooting my family.

Kudo's to your acknowledgement of a "voice of reason".



Thank you Wickens_wish. I'm not saying it can't be done and I'm not saying people should not attempt it. I'm merely saying be smart about it. Before moving I asked myself "am I still going to be happy with my choice to move if it does not work out with him". I thought I would be and I am. I loved Tulsa from my first visit here and it has proven to be a great career move.

I actually attempted another LDR with a man in Florida. Shortly after it began I could tell he did not have the stamina to maintain it but we are still good friends.

I would travel as far as Pluto. I cannot guarantee any further distances, obviously.