i've been looking for a while to try and be happy. when i get with a guy it seems like they just get what they want and then leave me. i wish i could find a guy that was REAL and true to a woman. i want a good man but i can't seem to find that.

well, then stop giving them what they want, and get what you want instead.

Honey...you're 19. Go out and have some fun and stop worrying about finding the love of your life right now.

i try to make the guy happy b/c that is what makes me happy. i just really don't understand why guys would do that to a girl they supposedly "love".

You MUST take your time on this one. Don't try so hard.....he will come to you someday. I know it hurts, trust me I've been through it...... It'll work sooner than you think. Just be patient......I'll pray for ya....

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i have tried to go out and have fun but then some guy pops up in my life and i do everything i can to make him happy.

Wonder is right..stop giving them what they want and at least that way if they leave you wont feel bad/regrets about anything that you've done.

hang in there your a great girl he will find ya

YOu can say that again!

Live for YOU..not some guy.

I agree!!!!

You can find what you want.......but you can turn a good man into a dog by giving him what he wants too early on in the game. Get what you are looking for before giving in to what someone else wants.

There is definitely truth to what he said. Plus, how are you with a guy? Are you motivated in your own life, job, school, hobbies, etc...... Men do not want an unmotivated woman. Don't have sex for six months of meeting them and see how many wait it out. If they do not wait they were not in it for you. It is alot more about you then them. A man needs to see you as more than a lay or he will just lay you and move on. There is alot more to it than what I put here but this is a start. HTH

thank ya'll so much for the support. i guess i DO need to try to live for me instead of guys. i just want to love someone and someone love me and settle down and stuff. but thanks again ya'll for the advice.

My advice is to try not to rush things. In retrospect, perhaps if I had not insisted on finding the "one" and instead enjoyed my time I wouldn't be in the situation I am in now. You are 19 and in a really interesting spot in your life. If the guys you are dating are losers, bail. You don't need them in order to be happy or complete. Find some friends to hang out with, if it happens to turn out that one of them is the sincere boyfriend you're looking for, fine. If not, he will come along eventually. When a need (or two) needs to be met, go find someone to meet it.