ok so i need help...there is this guy and we have been dating casually for about 2 months now. he says that he really isnt ready to be in anything serious with me. and yea i do know what that means. but he did say at one point not too long ago that he is in a funk and when he gets out of it he will be ready. the thing is though he doesnt know how long that funk will be. im estimating spring. but anyways. i think i am starting to fall for him and im trying my best not to. so here is my question...how does one stop falling for someone? or what i would rather know how do i get him to start falling for me and want to be with me seriously. i know there can be more to us just by the way he kisses me and how he looks at me. so if anyone has advice id love to hear it! thanks!

Hmmm, don't go too crazy thinking about it, but don't set yourself up for disapointment either.

Real simple fix, dump him and send me an email, your forget all about him.

he might just be playing you for sex if yall are being itimate.he knows you want more

Never wait for anything. I can assure you there is a thousand men exactly like him out there that are not in a "funk". Move on.

well, in my experiences, you can't stop falling for someone very quickly. It's there to stay for a while. Let him come to you and you'll be surprised. It's worked for me. Back off just a tad. I know it will DRIVE YOU CRAZY!! lol, but, you have to look at the big picture. Would you rather back off now, let him come to you and get him later or.....push and lose him forever. That's kind a what you need to see......Best of luck to you....will be praying for ya

life is too short .well their is the old saying set them free if they come back it is meant to be.do it.watch the channel 17 next ware they next pepole left and right.you can find better i took on look at your pitcher and i said why would someone do this to her. just my thoughts

Wait a sec. You want advice on how to manipulate a situation, or someone into falling for you? You don't see anything unscrupulous about that? Sorry, but it sounds like he's not that into you. Ever hear of people "hedging their bets" when dating? Maybe you should step back from the situation, and ask a trusted friend for his/her opinion on this. No offense.

You seem like a really nice person & you deserve the same in return.

Dont know what u got till its gone.

Give him some space, don't always be available when he wants to see you, and start dating other guys.

What is it about this "funk" that is stopping him from being ready for a relationship?
Shouldn't he be happy to have someone else to help him through things? I'd tell him to get his story straight quick, because on the surface that sounds like a superficial excuse for someone who is stringing you along.

i'll stick up for the guy...sounds like SAD seasonal affective disorder...give him until the end of March.

That...or he's an ass hole.

Fart in bed and hold his head under the covers. If he tolerates it well he's quality man material. Then tell him "I got your funk right here."

Honey if he really had strong feelings for you like you think...
He would not be in a funk.....You deserve better than that.......tell him to get the funk out......

Dance puppets. DANCE!

Ditto!!

well see i have also thought it might be something seasonal. because i have seen a change in him in the past few weeks. when we first started dating he was all excited then after awhile he backed off some then now that the holidays are over and his job is settling down he has been contacting me more and seems to be more into me i guess. or of course as everyone else has said...he is stringing me along for sex. which me being me is the first thought in my head. but thanks everyone for your advice! i appreciate it!

Right on. Sh-tcan the Loser.