Ok two questions here...

#1 been talkin to someone quite some time. just talk...nothing further. he wants it to be more. there is someone else who is interested in him. supposedly he doesnt like her and talks like its almost irritating that she "chases" him, yet when i see them in the forums, he is "overly" (if thats a word) puttin it on her (flirting). i like her and consider us friends. i am not sure if she knows what is going on. do i ignor it, find out later if i should hook up with this guy that he was playing me or do i tell her and find out now if he is playing her?

#2 have this guy emailing and chatting with me. states he is single, new to the game, etc... on his profile, there are two women very recent (last few days) who left testimonials that he is wonderful and basically one just slept with him but wants to be with him and the other thinks she is dating him. do i ignor him and forget about it, do i warn the one who thinks she is in a relationship with this guy? she even changed her profile to just looking for friends because of this guy.

HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!

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is this the same guy?

#1 if he's not dating either then he's not playing either. you can flirt with more then one person at a time. women do it all the time and it's called playing the field, men do it and their playing games.......

#2 if it's not the same guy then i'd say this guy is just sleepin around bein a man whore.... if it is the same guy then yeah, he's just looking for action from whoever comes his way.

oh yeah, and if it's 2 different people then your doing exactly what you asking in #1.......

I would back away slowly...then run like the wind.

no not the same guy

#1 i totally agree but she is getting ticked at me thinkin im trying to step on her toes. i keep backing off, he keeps coming towards me...im cool with being friends, but dont want to lose her friendship.

#2 yeah im getting the whole man-whore vibe here. i feel sorry for the girl who "thinks" she is in a relationship and stopping herself from being out there and having a good time.

I would run fast and find someone new and more honest.

i'd say tell both your not interested and be done with it.....

yeah i havent any interest in either of them as far as that goes...friends is cool...nothing further. my concern is do i tell the women?

My advice to you would be to move on and forget about being anything with these men. you have to protect yourself and frankly they both sound like players. I would not mention it to the other women cuz they are probably not going to believe you as you are the "competition"

Don't you remember how cut throat women are when it comes to dating? look out for yourself and make yourself happy- i know that i sound selfish- but in this day and age you have to look out for you as noone else is going to do it. Of course the decision is yours and yours alone to make and if you want to continue chatting with these men- it might be fun to find out what they are up to- but keep looking for someone else to love you.
JMHO

Yes, find someone else who will treat u well and not play games.

O.K., you sound as if you are ignoring your own instincts.
Are you seeing "RED FLAGS"???? You should take your time on moving forward with all the other women in the picture.....there is nothing wrong with approaching with caution and/or taking your time.

1. Do not ignore...
2. A friend always talks to a friend but, know that sometimes others do not want to hear.

Do not push those warning signs to the side, if you cannot communicate with each other now it does not get better down the road...

Good Luck, Sweetie

Watch out for all the red flags popping up as one might pop up and poke you in the butt. Lots of nice fish in the lake so don't settle for a minnow.

girl id watch it !!!! move on ... that sounds way 2 familiar ....

lol again....ive NOOOOOOOOOOO interest in the guys....im wondering about the women. do i tell them or ignor it and let them find out themselves.

ohhhhhhh - lol. i'd just let it go. let them find out for themselves.

The only problem is how easy it is to say to run from red flags. It is so easy to find some other reason for whatever actions the person is doing to set off our flags if we were kinda interested. That's why we need people to remind us sometimes.

I got so mad when it turned out I was dating a total jerk with early signs of an abuser. At the time, I didn't know all the warnings. But I found out that all my friends had pieces of info that would have helped me learn what an ass he was a lot sooner, but they all said they thought it wasn't their place to tell me that he was calling them and what he was saying and doing.

Come on! What are friends for? So yeah, if he says he is annoyed with her for chasing him but he is flirting with her in forums, then don't go for him. He is toying with her and who is to say he isn't toying with you.

#1 - If you consider yourself a friend to one of those women then you have a responsibility to BE a friend and clue her in. And stay away from the guy in general. Anything that concerns you a little in emails or phone calls is going to be a HUGE issue in person.

#2 - One of the five rules of business: Never get caught between a dog and a fire hydrant

Actually I guess that rule applies somewhat in #1 as well.

I would say tell them. Or do you not consider these women your friends?

I wouldn't bother with eithere of them. Why wast time and enegery on anyone that will not be real or atleast up front on where they stand. One thing I hate the most is people that don't know WTF they want and if they don't all your going to get is head games and that is besause in time reality will set in and it will take over. From what I can see on both questions you ask I see big red flags all over.