to buttons: Ask away girl! I do it and it works out great for me, besides the guy you are interested may be too afraid of rejection to ask you and who knows! there might be some fire after the match is lit!!!
GO FOR IT

rejection is part of life, i don t know why he woul be, i think he s playing games, but i don t know him so i shouln t assume

Some guys are just scared. Ive been there and it was no fun at the moment. We got together later on, but it took me a while to be comfortable with the idea of a relationship. Thats just my experiance.

PLZ girls do it more then guys

<-----not going to ask a guy out!!!

lol does that mean i pay? joking ... nooo i was just wondering.. i guess if they fear asking me they are too shy for me anyway

I've seen it happen both ways, I met a great lady an we talked then turned bad cuz of someone else's BS, so I tried again and it turned out great, sometimes have to just try again
If you like that person that much, try again

i like that a gal can tell me how she thinking. it helps light that fire. so gals kick the tires and light the fires. lol.

Some guys feel they have to initiate a relationship and feel "little" if the woman does, don't ask me why. I like a woman that knows what she wants and goes for it!

I'm just going to take a club to the guy I like and drag him back to my cave.

Don't hit him too hard. You'll want him at least functional when you get him there.

Why label? Why be boyfriend/girlfriend? Why be just friends? Why not just hang out with each other, no pressure, rules, and just enjoy each other company?

LADIES IM GOING TO EXPLAIN THIS TO YOU.GUYS MIGHT MIGHT GET UPSET WITH ME FOR SAYING THIS.IM GOING TO PUT IT OUT THERE.HERE GOES;WHEN A MAN IS TRYING TO GET A LADY,70% OF MANS PLEASURE IS THE CHASE.HE ENJOYS THIS TO THE UPMOST.TRYING TO CONVINCE THE LADY THAT HE IS THE RIGHT GUY.GAINING HER TRUST TO LET HIM GET CLOSE AND PUTTING HER EYES ALL ON HIM.HOW PROUD HE FEELS WHEN HE MAKES THIS HAPPEN.THE FEELING IS WONDERFUL.NOW HERE COMES THE PROBLEM,THE LAST 30%. 10% OF IT IS REJECTION,NOW HE HAS TO PLAY UP TO ALL THE THINGS HE TOLD YOU.HE HAS TO THINK NOW.AM I DOING THIS RIGHT,MAYBE I SHOULDNT HAVE SAID THAT,HOW DO I LOOK,SHOULD I DO THIS OR THAT.THE NEXT 10% HAS TO DO WITH SEX.AM I DOING IT RIGHT,AM I BIG ENOUGH,DID SHE REALLY GET OFF,DID SHE LIKE IT.YES HIS MIND IS RACING.THERE ISNT REALLY ANY PLEASURE ANYMORE.THE PRESSURE IS TO GREAT.THE LAST 10% MAKES THE TABLE TURN COMPLETELY AROUND.HE LIKES HER,HE LOVES MAKING LOVE TO HER,SHES WHAT HES LOOKING FOR,HE IS NOW CAPTURE BY THE GAME.THAT 10% CAUSES MAN TO BACK OFF,HIS OWN FEELINGS FOR HER

Man ... All CAPS is real hard to read you know.

But to sum it up with my own understanding on the issue ... it's because of human psychology. We humans want things either we cannot get or we take effort to get (something we work at). If something becomes too easy, it loses VALUE (in our mind) and we lose the attraction. It's not just guys, GIRLS do this ALL THE TIME, too.

For example, there's this dress you want SO badly but it's really expensive (lets say ... $2000). You work and work and work and finally spend your whole month's earning to buy this dress. You will VALUE it a lot and treat it very special (in your mind).

But lets say there's a BIG SALE. and now this same dress is sold for $10 and EVERYONE is wearing it on the street ... then it loses VALUE (in your mind) and thus loses attraction (to you). You don't want it anymore.

So, that's the psychology of it. When you ask him out, he feels you are cheap (in his mind!! like the dress) and loses attraction for you.

Well, that's my take on it. I mean, everyone's different. Maybe he's got his own story. But I hope what I wrote makes sense.



Source: I've taken Psychology for 2 years and read a lot of books on human psychology.

because there all major jerks that don't know what they want and dont care who they hurt

Girls like rules and label so they know what they are getting into

Grace,

Why can't we just be people and not follow the "norm" Its not girl/guy, its what you want/feel (in my mind) I agree with you on just "hang out with each other, no pressure, rules, and just enjoy each other company?" BUT, nowadays too many rules/BS people get stuck in a rut! SAD but true?!

hey this sounds familiar.. lol

all i know is that the last guy i liked played mind games like no other...i still can't figure him out...

so did mine.. so i got over him.. and now... hhhmmmmm.........


worry not.. they dont all play mind games....



you just gotta wait for one guy to prove to you that he isnt like all the rest.....