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Topic: Women, what would it take . . .
maraskia74's photo
Sun 01/06/08 09:22 PM
someone to ask me flowerforyou

Peachiepoohie's photo
Sun 01/06/08 09:22 PM



i don't think it's possible for me to carry someone else's child, so i'm safe from birthing and such. SCORE!


I'm new but I've heard about you. I'm not sure what you are besides thoroughly entertaining, but... did you notice this post began, "Women,what would it take . . ."

Oh yeah, see your point now. I'd check that one out, too.


frown sorry for invading your thread

and what? you've heard of me? well thanks for the compliment


May not be a compliment...we've all heard of the clap too

alonenotlonely's photo
Sun 01/06/08 09:26 PM

My kiddo's moms wanted to put him up for adoption, and I wouldn't let it happen. And I wasn't the one carrying him..

I would imagine most women would become as attached as me, and than some..


Man, I knew you had a heart.

toastedoranges's photo
Sun 01/06/08 09:26 PM
May not be a compliment...we've all heard of the clap too


damn...cold


more on topic....

one day it'll be neat if they do actually do as arnold did, figure out a way to have a male carry a baby. would i do it for someone else? honestly i'd probably be more likely as a man than a woman, i'd rather have it cut out than pushed.

if i was capable, it would only be something i'd do for a loved one. i'd do it for my bro without a thought, same goes for most other family.

Peachiepoohie's photo
Sun 01/06/08 09:27 PM

May not be a compliment...we've all heard of the clap too


damn...cold


more on topic....

one day it'll be neat if they do actually do as arnold did, figure out a way to have a male carry a baby. would i do it for someone else? honestly i'd probably be more likely as a man than a woman, i'd rather have it cut out than pushed.

if i was capable, it would only be something i'd do for a loved one. i'd do it for my bro without a thought, same goes for most other family.


not cold...just true...

toastedoranges's photo
Sun 01/06/08 09:29 PM
not cold...just true...


either way, good or bad, i'm not here to go unnoticed

Peachiepoohie's photo
Sun 01/06/08 09:36 PM
I never go unnoticed...

toastedoranges's photo
Sun 01/06/08 09:44 PM

I never go unnoticed...


shhhh...we're all off topic and being thread ruiners

alonenotlonely's photo
Sun 01/06/08 10:03 PM


I never go unnoticed...


shhhh...we're all off topic and being thread ruiners


Yeah, thanks, I really wanted to know about this. Humor, infectious as it is, has limits.

kaylas1515's photo
Mon 01/07/08 12:35 AM




Thats a hard question...i am have strong views on adoption...i do not understand why we keep having children in this world that we can not take care of....How is it fair to those little babies that can not be taken care of and nurtured and loved like they should be. We need to take care of them before we continue to produce more....


That is a wonderful sentiment that I've often felt (and still do), but what about one's own personal genetics to continue?

Most people now days have more then one child...so adopt one and then have your own...at least then you are helping out as well as continuing your own genetics.....


You know something: sometimes you're pretty sharp for a woman who has so much doubt about herself.

I used to be so sure of myself...i had a 10 year plan...i had a lot of things....and it just all came crashing down...thats why i doubt myself.....thats all

Jess642's photo
Mon 01/07/08 12:36 AM
I have already offered that for a galfriend who had to have a hysterectomy due to disease. She is still quite young, at 33 , and I have had my family, and would surrogate for her happily.

lonelyshorty's photo
Mon 01/07/08 12:38 AM
it depends on the situation and if i knew them or not. if it were for one of my close friends, i would do it in a heartbeat.

no photo
Mon 01/07/08 12:40 AM
I dont think I could do it......Id want to keep the baby after all that pain....ohwell

alonenotlonely's photo
Mon 01/07/08 11:43 AM

I dont think I could do it......Id want to keep the baby after all that pain....ohwell


Fer sure the pain, but after nine months of growing symbiosis there'd be so much to consider.

I'm not asking if one would want or try to keep the child (I don't see that as uncommon or strange). I'd like to know what it would take for a woman to do so (incomprehensible to most men, I would imagine, whatever the reason).

Thanks

alonenotlonely's photo
Mon 01/07/08 11:44 AM

someone to ask me flowerforyou

You were the first to respond and in an amazingly unselfish way.

Thanks

no photo
Mon 01/07/08 11:46 AM
Ask you what?huh

Twitch's photo
Mon 01/07/08 11:53 AM
About 10 yrs ago my girlfriend was having a hard time getting pregnant because she had so few eggs. I offered her mine. But her and her husband opted for vitro instead.

If someone were to ask me to carry their child I would have to know the couple (or the single mom) before going into that situation.

kirota's photo
Mon 01/07/08 12:25 PM
Hey, I would have no problem carrying a child for someone as long as I new that the child would be taken care of and loved. I could never give a child up of mine, but knowing that you are just the oven is easy.

I loved being pregnant......so it wouldn't really be a hardship for me.

MicheleNC's photo
Mon 01/07/08 02:45 PM
Wow...thoughtful question.

Adoption and surrogacy are two of the greatest gifts that one can give.

I don't know if I could do it. With advanced maternal age and the complications I had during my pregnancy with my son, it would be iffy. However, if I just had to do the childbirth and labor for a loved one. That would be no problem. That was a breeeze compared to the 39 weeks of pregnancy with my Monster. Also, should I have any viable eggs, they would be welcome to them. Less for me!

flowerforyou M

no photo
Tue 01/08/08 03:36 AM

. . . for you to bear, through artificial insemination (or any imaginable means, really),

another persons child

for that person to keep?


I am in awe of the women who have the strength and generosity of heart to be able to do this, for I know I am far too selfish to be able to carry another couple's child and not develop maternal ties to it, myself. It would be impossible for me to give such a child to its biological parents if I had carried it. Many years ago, I was almost placed in the position of praying for such a female to come into the life of my husband and I. Going through infertility of our own, I developed great respect and awe for a female that cared enough about others to be willing to make this great sacrifice to help create another couple's family.

On another note: I agree with others about adoption, as well. Just about anyone can become a biological parent. It only takes a moment to impregnate an egg or open one's legs. So, while it is arguably more difficult for some than others, the ability to procreate doesn't make one a genuine "parent" in my book. It is the person that raises, nurtures, guides, and loves that child over the course of its lifetime that gets the credit and kudos as parent to a child, whether that individual is the biological parent or not. Being a parent is perhaps the most difficult and least appreciated "job" there is. It is also the most rewarding in the long run, I'd say.

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