I recieved the following in an email from a friend/brother on another site and just wondered what others would think or advice to give.



I don't claim to understand women....but this one puzzles me. I met her online. She is really really a nice, cute, and sweet person. We have an amazingly amount of things in common including where we live, how we live, and what we want. There was NEVER any pressure to do anything. First date was dinner and a drive, all went nice...just a small hug and light kiss. Second date was out for some activities just to get to know each other, grab a beer and a sandwich, then to my place for a movie. She spent the night, we cuddled but no sex. Third date...I delivered dinner to her house, helped her put a few things together she had gotten for Christmas.... a little snuggling. She anticipated my kisses with openness. After a little romance she pulls the cutains closed as she was extremely hot and anxious. She led me to the bedroom. In no way did I ever pressure her for sex. Actually, by the time I was ready to give it to her she was practically begging... Afterwards she spent a very long time in the shower. Tho' she was very nice she seemed distant. Since then she broke the date which she had made with me. I had to encourage her to just be friends and not avoid me because I'm not about to burn that bridge. I don't know what her problem is or if there is one. I just know that she went from extremely hot to wanting to not date and being apprehensive about dating...just wants time. She says she doesn't want to get into casual sex, but after 3 dates and getting to know each other quite well I do not call it casual. For me it was the beginning of a very comfortable relationship...I just don't know, I'm somewhere between puzzled and confused, not hurt but trying to be very understanding since my last relationship ended with me devastated. I certainly do not want to be hurt again and don't want to see anyone hurt... but What's the deal? I've had similar experiences. I know she has feelings for me but surely the sex was not so bad that she ran from me.... the only thing I may have done wrong was to insist on a condom....as much as I hate those things I want to use one until I know I'm the one and only and prefer to see a health certificate.... So...somebody tell me what's going on in her mind? Did my use of a condom make her feel that she is dirty or that I don't trust her?

I dont think the condom is the reason...cuz atleast u used a condom.. cmon guys never want to..and i think alotta girls usaully want the guy to use one esp since u dont really know eachother...she was using birthcontrol right..cuz sometimes if a girl gets pregnet she'll avoid u

Key word "cute". She played on using your friend/brother from the start. If men would look for females with quality, instead of the "cuteness", they would find what they seek. Good luck!

Are you sure the guy didn't really suck at sex?????

Sorry-that wasn't nice-I take it back.

god, if i had to give a award for mr. sensitive, you win hands down, now go watch oprah and let us real men take over..sheez

Well if she wanted sex without a jonny she aint nothin' but a ho bag.

Sounds like he performed rubbish in the sack to me, or that she just wanted a one off.

maybe she already got a man

Or several??

Its hard to know what another person is thinking. My suggestion is to ask her nicely of course and not take offense to whatever she says. She might have wanted sex but then realized she was taking the relationship too fast. Like I said people are not mind readers. Ask her!!!

another notch in the lipstick case...next!

ouch man I'm a a woman and even I don't watch oprah lol

She probably just wanted a bedbuddy. I dated a guy who did almost the same thing to me once. We went out a few times, and things were great, and then as soon as it got physical, that's all he wanted and he wouldn't call me unless he wanted me to come over. If this happened really recently, he might give some time to see if maybe something happened in her personal life and she couldn't handle a relationship? But I think it'd be fair for him to ask her (if she's talking to him at all? If not, then forget her) what's going on up front. If she doesn't give him a straight answer, then forget about her. He's better off without her!

by the way, guys do this kind of crap to women all the time...

I agree with Jill..so maybe this woman decided to 'turn the tables', so to speak....OR...he really did suck in bed. Or maybe he was just nasty and that's why she stayed in the shower so long.

She had a shower.

Maybe he smelled

gotta wash that thing to make it smell all pretty....hehehehe

I agree with Bob...go watch Oprah! Your way too sensitive...treat it for what it was...she needed a lay you got a lay, be happy and move on.

not if lil' stinky had a rubber on....he had a feeling, and lost out on that one..go go back in the kitchen and make your wife dinner

Maybe..
1. The sex was really bad.

-OR-

2. This is her pattern (too rush into an intimate relationship), she is ashamed of herself and her reaction is to run away and try again with someone else.

And I'd like to add... WELCOME TO OUR WORLD!