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Topic: How do you love someone and not want to be with them?
rob82many's photo
Sat 01/05/08 02:36 PM
I'm being strung along and I know it. My ex girl knows that I want her back and she wants to stay in contact with me. She's with another guy already. Don't get me wrong, their relationship was doomed before it started. I'm not even worried about that. Yea, she likes him and all i'm sure, but you don't tell your ex you love them still and really care that much abou the one you're with. I know she loves me and she thinks I'll always be there. So i'm trying to cut ties, for at least a month or so. But it's hard when you love them and you KNOW they still care for you too. She just doesn't want me right now because she can. How do I show her that i'm not waiting around, but I still want her back later when she comes to her senses, if she does?

beaporwoll's photo
Sat 01/05/08 02:38 PM
RUN AWAY!!
SHE'S NOT WORTH IT!!


azrae1l's photo
Sat 01/05/08 02:39 PM
same thing happened to me with my last ex. broke it off with me to be with another guy, then broke it off with him to get back with me. now neither of us want her and boohoo she's all alone.


just send her packing, it's for the best.

Ising's photo
Sat 01/05/08 02:39 PM
Just move on and get on with you own life. She definately isn't worth it. She is playing you. Guys do it too! You are worth me. If she decides to come back later down the road and you're available, so be it, if not she has lost out!!! Let her go and if she comes back it was meant to be!!! Just my two cents hun!:wink:

Ising's photo
Sat 01/05/08 02:39 PM
oops I meant more not me....

mainelyme's photo
Sat 01/05/08 02:41 PM
My ex left 4 times...it took me all those times to realize that when it finally ended for good, I was much better off. Looking back, if I'd known what I know now, there would have only been one break up, it usually doesn't work to keep getting back together.

no photo
Sat 01/05/08 02:41 PM
ask her to go hiking,that is true love...........

notapitlizard21's photo
Sat 01/05/08 02:42 PM
I've been through this twice.... The second time he went off and got engaged to his new girlfriend. The first time... we're still friends.

All you can do in my opinion is say something like "when you realize I'm what you want... I hope you'll give me a call, and I also hope for your sake that you don't wait till I'm completely over you...". Then suck it up, actually try to move on, and see what happens.

If its meant to work out, it will.

azrae1l's photo
Sat 01/05/08 02:43 PM

ask her to go hiking,that is true love...........


yes that is true love, take her hiking.............






and push her off a cliff........






my ex left once, and thats 1 time too many in my book. no more chances.

68chevy's photo
Sat 01/05/08 02:43 PM

oops I meant more not me....

You eating chess again?

Ising's photo
Sat 01/05/08 02:44 PM


oops I meant more not me....

You eating chess again?

Or something!!! laugh

Jess642's photo
Sat 01/05/08 02:45 PM
Ummm what part of emotional yoyo, don't you understand?

What part of addicted co-dependent, don't you understand?

Work on you, cut the chords that hold you two, then do the work on you.

An independent and healthy relationship, that has two WHOLE people in it, is by far more rewarding and sustainable.flowerforyou

rob82many's photo
Sat 01/05/08 02:46 PM

oops I meant more not me....
Well thanks, that made me laugh

Dragonfire201's photo
Sat 01/05/08 02:47 PM

I'm being strung along and I know it. My ex girl knows that I want her back and she wants to stay in contact with me. She's with another guy already. Don't get me wrong, their relationship was doomed before it started. I'm not even worried about that. Yea, she likes him and all i'm sure, but you don't tell your ex you love them still and really care that much abou the one you're with. I know she loves me and she thinks I'll always be there. So i'm trying to cut ties, for at least a month or so. But it's hard when you love them and you KNOW they still care for you too. She just doesn't want me right now because she can. How do I show her that i'm not waiting around, but I still want her back later when she comes to her senses, if she does?


You should talk to my friend/roomate. He is having the same problem. She loves and misses him yet, 3 weeks ago, some guy and her that were seeing each other just turned Official... Stop talking to her, she obviously made her choice and she is not worth it. It sounds like she is playing mind games with you to see how you react....

itsmetina's photo
Sat 01/05/08 02:48 PM
being strung along its not cool.it hurts .i know i'm not waiting for my ex yeah he needs to go off a cliff.if he tells you something you can assume hes lying.i think if you start something with someone else it isn't very fair of you either

rob82many's photo
Sat 01/05/08 02:50 PM

Ummm what part of emotional yoyo, don't you understand?

What part of addicted co-dependent, don't you understand?

Work on you, cut the chords that hold you two, then do the work on you.

An independent and healthy relationship, that has two WHOLE people in it, is by far more rewarding and sustainable.flowerforyou

The background is that we live 300 miles apart. I had to sorta fight for time with us from the beginning so it was hard from day one. The unfortunate side affect is that we both fell for each other and niether expected it. I'm letting her go no doubt. I even feel certain she'll return. I just really wish the hurt would stop so I can move on.

Totage's photo
Sat 01/05/08 02:50 PM

I'm being strung along and I know it. My ex girl knows that I want her back and she wants to stay in contact with me. She's with another guy already. Don't get me wrong, their relationship was doomed before it started. I'm not even worried about that. Yea, she likes him and all i'm sure, but you don't tell your ex you love them still and really care that much abou the one you're with. I know she loves me and she thinks I'll always be there. So i'm trying to cut ties, for at least a month or so. But it's hard when you love them and you KNOW they still care for you too. She just doesn't want me right now because she can. How do I show her that i'm not waiting around, but I still want her back later when she comes to her senses, if she does?


IMO, She's playing you. Forget about her, and find someone else. She clearly doesn't care about you.

Ising's photo
Sat 01/05/08 02:51 PM


oops I meant more not me....
Well thanks, that made me laugh


I thought you could use one right about now! I am glad I could help.....

newwaters's photo
Sat 01/05/08 02:52 PM
Need anyone say more?

I'm just chiming in with my "what they said, man".

Cut and run. The false premise here is that a negative relationship is better than no relationship.

You are her safety net. But who is yours?

Cut and run.

Hmmm, this post reads like a bad rock song, don't it? :wink:

rob82many's photo
Sat 01/05/08 02:52 PM

being strung along its not cool.it hurts .i know i'm not waiting for my ex yeah he needs to go off a cliff.if he tells you something you can assume hes lying.i think if you start something with someone else it isn't very fair of you either
Yea, I already have a girl sweating me and i know I cant act interested at all cuz i'm not. I don't do that to people. But i do wanna date

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