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Topic: Perfect first date...right?
Nozz1 Joined Fri 12/14/07 Posts: 9	Sat 01/05/08 12:02 PM
Great idea, well thought out!. But not the 1st date...that is maybe 4th date or special occasion. But it's your call...go for it!!

justafunguy Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 94	Sat 01/05/08 12:03 PM
REMEMBER,THE SAME THINGS IT TOOK TO GET HER HOOK,IT WILL TAKE THE SAME THINGS TO KEEP HER.WATCH WHAT YOU DO

amber06 Joined Fri 11/16/07 Posts: 1	Sat 01/05/08 12:03 PM
What lady would not like that.

misty_57 Joined Sat 12/01/07 Posts: 1618	Sat 01/05/08 12:04 PM
Nice Wic

alonenotlonely Joined Thu 01/03/08 Posts: 2957	Sat 01/05/08 12:05 PM
I didn't know it was a lady (no offense) so I change my advice to . . . follow your instinct and heart. If you've made a mistake, this is definitely one way to find out. Bet it all on one roll.

alonenotlonely Joined Thu 01/03/08 Posts: 2957	Sat 01/05/08 12:08 PM
Before I leave for work I need to let you know I was just kidding with all that. The heart has its reasons that reason knows nothing of.

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Sat 01/05/08 12:08 PM
wow so ummm what's on the agenda for date 2? lol

Ising Joined Tue 09/04/07 Posts: 943	Sat 01/05/08 12:14 PM
I guess he didn't get that far????

Wiccancowboy Joined Mon 10/01/07 Posts: 800	Sat 01/05/08 12:15 PM
Well thats all life is bettin on a win and hopin ya dont fall, but if ya do just get up and dust off and keep truckin. 2nd date? hmmm Movies at her place? maybe i'd leave it to her. keys to a good relationship 1 comunication 2 respect 3 love 4 happiness did i miss anything?

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Sat 01/05/08 12:18 PM
Well thats all life is bettin on a win and hopin ya dont fall, but if ya do just get up and dust off and keep truckin. 2nd date? hmmm Movies at her place? maybe i'd leave it to her. keys to a good relationship 1 comunication 2 respect 3 love 4 happiness did i miss anything? uuummm the one thing you missed was it's a date, not an anniversary. It's great that you want to impress her, I think it's sweet. But save a date like that down the road. Otherwise, how are you gonna top that for date 2? or 3?

Wiccancowboy Joined Mon 10/01/07 Posts: 800	Sat 01/05/08 12:27 PM
Well Jill sometimes you can just leave the next date up to the lady.

Fade2Black Joined Mon 10/08/07 Posts: 50752	Sat 01/05/08 02:24 PM
Ok im old fasion so bare with me please. I spend all day cleanin my bachelor house (pig sty) and about 8 pm i pic her up at her place and bring her over to a clean house. I have her favorite flowers as the center peice (Marth eat your heart out). I bring her into my home and surprise her with a home cooked Candle lit dinner, and to top it off i take her outside with a blanket and cuddle under the stars. Now i havent tried this one yet i was hopin to get some opinions from both side of the sexes....so please tell me what might help. too much .. sorry but just too much that would definitely send me running .. you're not proposing right?

Troublemaker7 Joined Sun 11/04/07 Posts: 326	Sat 01/05/08 03:09 PM
That sounds like an excellent romantic evening in for someone that you're comfortable with and have been seeing for at least a little while. If my boyfriend of 2 months did that it would be very sweet and he would definitely be rewarded. If someone did that on the first date, though, I would be running the other direction as quickly as possible. There is too much familiarity and intimacy built into that plan. I would immediately feel uncomfortable and like the man was either desperate, clingy, or just trying to get into my pants. The first few dates should be somewhere neutral that allows easy conversation, a chance to get to know one another, and a feeling of safety for the woman. You've obviously got a good head for romance, but make sure that you don' take things too fast. Even a fantastic date at the wrong time can send the completely wrong signal and leave you dateless.

BlueskyJ Joined Tue 06/26/07 Posts: 2927	Sat 01/05/08 03:15 PM
It is unusual for a woman to go to a guy's house on the first date...I would say your idea is good for about the 3rd or 4th date... Really there is no perfect date, the first date is usually more of a meeting, a get to know you to see if there is Chemistry....The second time you are together is really the first date.....

Nozz1 Joined Fri 12/14/07 Posts: 9	Sun 01/06/08 03:15 PM
That sounds like an excellent romantic evening in for someone that you're comfortable with and have been seeing for at least a little while. If my boyfriend of 2 months did that it would be very sweet and he would definitely be rewarded. If someone did that on the first date, though, I would be running the other direction as quickly as possible. There is too much familiarity and intimacy built into that plan. I would immediately feel uncomfortable and like the man was either desperate, clingy, or just trying to get into my pants. The first few dates should be somewhere neutral that allows easy conversation, a chance to get to know one another, and a feeling of safety for the woman. You've obviously got a good head for romance, but make sure that you don' take things too fast. Even a fantastic date at the wrong time can send the completely wrong signal and leave you dateless. Bingo!! That's exactly what i was thinking. Trouble just made it sound better!

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Sun 01/06/08 03:22 PM
Maybe I am old fashioned but I would not want to be alone with a guy in his house on a first date; nor would I cuddle with him at that point. things take time, man.

Dreamer01 Joined Wed 09/19/07 Posts: 843	Sun 01/06/08 03:51 PM
That's the perfect date

onegoofydame Joined Fri 08/17/07 Posts: 3560	Sun 01/06/08 03:52 PM Edited by onegoofydame on Sun 01/06/08 03:53 PM
Sounds like a good date to me, but not first date. I would not go over to the guy's house on a first date. I would meet him somewhere neutral during the day. Best to play it safe.