Its almost a year since she was diagnosed and about 6 months since she passed...relentless nightmares,sleepless nights again,boughts of sadness...I wanna get passed this. How do you let go?

it may become worse,,,,,,,,,

Does one ever truly "let go" I do not think so unless you were young when it happened letting go is too much.

You must move on but share the memories of your mother when she was what we all want from a mom loving caring supportive. Unless she was a bi*ch then nm...

I do not know if there ever is a way to get over it completely. I feel for you....I almost lost my mom about 3 years ago. It was by far the worst thing I have ever had to deal with.

Just remember that mom would want you to live your life and be happy. She did not spend all those years raising you just to have you miserable.

It's been 21 years for me,, My daughter was born just 15 days after my Mom passed,,, I miss her deeply and deeper as the days go by,,, I have come to peace with keeping her memory alive,,, dreaming of our happiest times,, hearing her voice as I sleep and seeing the smile upon her face when i close my eyes,,, she lives within you and guides you through life,,,

Hugs to you

thats so sad. I don't know what I would do without my mother. I don't think I would want to be in this world without my mom. I empathize with you but I don't know what to say to help you. I wished I did.

Dawn both my parents died 25 and 26 yrs ago (18 months apart). I still have times when I can't get past it; especially the holidays.
But the memories are there and I know they are with me. You're mom wouldn't want you to grieve. My parents are in a better place and they are together. Sometimes it's a day at a time for me; but time heals and so will you. Stay strong hun.

Sometimes its just like a fog, not even real ..of coarse I'll never forget her..maybe "let go" was the wrong words...maybe I should have said "feel better" or "accept", I don't know.
Kids and I just took down the x mas tree (she bought us 10 yrs ago) and put it out in the trash as it was broken & falling apart.

my mamma's been gone 8yrs now & i miss her daily. the holidays must've been tuff for you! it gets easier to handle w/ time sweetie! and let yourself grieve, it helps

My Mom passed in 1992 and my Dad in 2002. Both times I was mad, very mad at them leaving me. I had nightmares, I had sad moments. I would pick up the phone to call one of them and remember I can't anymore. I would cry at a certian song that would remind me of one of them. But it does get better, you never stop missing the person that passed, but the deep hurt and missing does ease up. Eventually you will be thinking of good times and smile and not be so sad. My prayers will be with you.

Thanks everyone...maybe it is the holidays.. I just feel like cr*p lately constantly thinking about her.

Dawnette i feel for you.let yourself grieve.There is no timetable for it and take as long as you need.and of course we are always here to listen and comfort you.I thank God I still have my parents..my thoughts and prayers are with you

know she is in a better place, looking down on you and with you in spirit...you will be together again some day my heart is going out to you! xoxoxoxo

Dawnette, It has been almost 2 years now since I lost my son. You never stop missing them and wishing they were still here. The one thing that keeps me going is knowing that he is in a much better place and not hurting anymore. I also know in my heart that I will see him again someday. Another thing that has really helped is reading books. I have read several books about life on the other side, having very strong needs to know where he is and what he is doing. Something that I never thought too much about until this happened. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Today is a year since my mom passed away

I miss her terribly and i wish i could talk to her

Right now and ask for advice like i used to , I mean i can

Still talk to her and know she's listening i just can't hear

Her voice like i used to ... I know eventually i would feel

Better but i won't stop missing her or loving her

And i know i will see her someday .

dawnette i miss my mom to but the part about letting go i will not i will hang on forever. that is some thing u don't let go for nothing in the world,it is priceless & a memorie worth keep for ever. been there, done that, & intend to keep it. i told u this to make u feel relaxed about urself.

I know how you feel, but think of this, at least you got a chance to know your mother, mine died when I was just one, birth was our only true connection. I still haven't let go of it, but you have to always keep your head up.

I lost my Mom almost 6 years ago. I don't think, we ever completely get over it. But the pain eventually makes way for fond memories. There are still a lot of times, when I really miss her, miss talking to her and getting her advice on things. But even though we will never really get over it, it does get better and then you are left with beautiful memories.
Stay strong, my heart goes out to you

This might not apply to you, but after my mother killed herself 4 years ago there was so much rage. The sadness was dealt with by having my friends support me, and my Rabbi. My family(mother excluded) hates me, so they were no help. The anger was and is worked out through physical activity and writing. My best advice is to write write write. For me it helped me figure out the reasons I hurt, and the best ways to make the healing process begin. Of course, my situation is very different, but many of the emotions are still the same. My heart goes out to you, few things are as painful as having your mother die.

~~~~~~~~prayers fo ya....