finding a soulmate is hard to find. want to know why

There are a number of reasons. I will just list a couple.

Humans are complicated creatures, causing a larger number of factors that have to mesh.

Soulmates, if they exist for a given individual, are few and far between, particularly in regard to geographic distance.

Bottom line: most of us have to settle for a reasonable approximation of a soulmate.

Various reasons can complicate things...
Often people are looking for someone with qualities they themselves do not embody.
Then it is difficult if not impossible to attract such a person.
If you'd make a list of things you seek in a mate and then go over said list to check all the thing you yourself embody and not check the ones you don't embody it becomes clear where you still have some work to do ---> inner & personal growth & development.

It can truly be helpful to do that!


Another reason that makes it difficult for women especially... and that's not gender bashing but I'm sure it'll upset some egos, hihi...
Women are ahead in personal & collective development. This is usually the case, the feminine evolves & grows first, the masculine follows later on.

Right now we are in a bit of a pickle as women in general (meaning, not all) have reached a point where they no longer put up with a relationship that doesn't serve them (anymore).
They've outgrown the old (often patriarchal) matrix.
They can and do choose themselves, their own happiness over a dysfunctional relationship and/or a new partner that isn't on this new level yet.

And that last part is where many many many women bump into a spanner in the work when it comes to finding a great romantic partner.

The fact that women have reached this level, and that things are changing collectively, has men confused and off-kilter.
They can no longer hide behind how things used to be, their work, status, computer etc.
Men are also searching, trying to figure out a new way of doing things when it comes to love & relationship.
But many have become insecure and are still stuck in the old matrix, and when they feel the woman is slipping away, he shifts into victimhood, pleasing, getting angry, defensive behaviour, or simply disappearing into himself so to speak.
Men are on the brink of their own breakthrough, the one that women have already had, but they still have trouble feeling what they're actually feeling and thus cannot find their way 'in'.

All these things aren't just individual, they're huge collective processes. Not easy to explain, you got to intuit as you read, feel it.

It is said that in 2-3 years men also get to the point that they outgrow the old ways and the old matrix.
Reading that had me PO for a moment. Having to wait yet another 2-3 years???
By that time I'm 61-62. I'm fed up with men not being ready, have been for years as I'm one of these first women to get that 'breakthrough'.

And that's my own biggest issue with finding a great partner. There are some men who already gotten to this new level of being, but they're still few & far between.
Especially at my age it's difficult as many grow more rigid as they age. I think if you're younger it's easier as I see way more young people at this new level, or almost there, including younger men.

To authenticate the value of it.