Im curious to see if theres anyone who are demiromantic/demisexual and to hear about peoples experiences.

Unfortunately I havent encountered anyone personally who feels a similar way about relationships and would like to talk about others perceptions on relationships.

Personally, I believe love and compatability is very important and feel that a romantic relationship starts with understanding and expressing emotions and honesty.

In other words, "friends first and see what happens".

Sounds like something a lot of people profess to believe in, and then throw out the window when the hormones start raging.

Would love to listen to your POV

Best way to start a Serious Romantic relationship is friendship. Makes for a long-term commitment.
Imo

The Fram was the first ship specially built in Norway for polar research. She was used on three important expeditions: with Fridtjof Nansen on a drift over the Arctic Ocean 1893-96, with Otto Sverdrup to the arctic archipelago west of Greenland - now the Nunavut region of Canada - 1898-1902, and with Roald Amundsen to Antarctica for his South Pole expedition 1910-12. The Fram is now housed and exhibited in the Fram Museum at Bygdøynes, Oslo.

Sorry, back on topic literally, i feel very sapio-demiromantic as I won't develop feeling for those that aren't able to show some level of intellect, I am strongly attracted to someone who uses words creatively, especially in writing. Creatively constructed prose, or a well worded note can litterally give me butterflies. My last partner, who's still one of my very dear friends and such an amazing human, her and I found ourselves both highly focused on career and self exploration and self love, separately yet for very similar reasons. We only really had time to text, or communicate via email while at our respective jobs. She was an education admin and I oversaw brewing operations at a small brewery here. Neither gig allows for much phone use while working. Early on we began an email exchange along with texting here and there, and very quickly these emails that were about various nerdery like our shared love of rocks and minerals and our personal rock collections. This is when I began feeling more than platonic for her (we'd hung out in a friend group before and on a couples date once while with other persons) and had never flirted, I know i didn't thiunk of her in any way and did't feel like she saw me as more. But hearing this super intelligent lady talk about minerals she's found or where to locate gorgeous agates locally was winning my heart big time. That was mutual, though I think it was the secondary emailing that got her heart thumping. I am a writer, and even when working in the beer industry I've freelanced, I love it but I like to write stories and poetry most of all, and she asked me if I'd email her something I'd written. I went above and began an open ended tale of love set in a world akin to 10th or 11th century northern europe though the land was a fictional place. At this stage I was aware of her artistic leanings and interest in expanding her creative writing, and that she was a fan of Tolkien who, lord, I just have loved all of his tales since I learned to read. Truly a wizard of words was he. So my tale was catered to my abilty and her interests and loves, an of course the main character duo was based on us.... I wrote what was a long introductory chapter that was mostly background info and building the me character a bit and only introducing the idea of this other character he knew of. Then ended it with a "now your turn...." And so it began. I still have all these emails, i just looked to jog the ol' thinker.... we went back and forth for 7 months until shortly after we were living together and madly in love. The first three of those too busy to see one another more than I feel like it was 4-5 times, and only for brief dates. We met in July, so midsummer here and mid june thru august is the busiest time for breweries, all the outdoor fests are packed into our very short summer so I would be working 10-12 hours 7 days a week and brewing a batch most weekdays, along with fermentation managment and packaging as i only had 1 part time assistant and a bartender who was training into a packaging role. Brutal. She had a project with her school board sourcing a specific grant that was crucial in her district in order tot keep their special ed program funded along with some other grant apps that I gather are the norm and bread and butter, so she was working full time and had personal obligations that she wouldnt have time for once school began ad educators were back to full plus 25% time per union contract. Our emails and our back and forth writing project was what had the two of us so giddy in new love by the time our schedules settled and we had an actual no time pressure date. We began this meeting at a local waterfall (minnehaha falls, stunning if interested in googling). She grew up in the outer burbs with urbanophobic parents so have little knowledge of Minneapolis, so I wanted to show her the falls. Its amaze an super romantic on an early autumn late arvo (yes, I speak a bit of aussie, thought you'd get a kick). So picturesque setting, standing on the footbridge right above the fall, is where I was when I sent her the pin to find me. We embraced, pulled back, with little hesitation (we both get shy despite both being absolute chatterboxes) but we profess that we're clearly falling in love as we begin our stroll down to the path that leads from the falls to where the creek empties into the Mississippi, where it overlooks the last of three falls on the Miss here in th cities. There we share our first not just a quick goodnight kiss and man, it made my body tingle it was so magical. Mind you I am in my late-ish 30s at this point, had been married, had a long term prior to meeting my wife and as i'll explain in another post sometime, have a much broader set of sexual attraction than intellectual stimualtion.

That's my most recent and profound demiromantic experience. I can detail the friendship following our split, which is a very deep, complicated and valued one for both of us. Our bond and friendship will be lifelong and it began it's bloom from very casual acquaintence to omg I can't stand being apart for the WHOLE workday 5+ yr love affair into the most meaningful friendship and sibling like bond I've had. And I am good friends with both my sibbies too.

Cheers mate,
thanks for being brave and getting this topic out here. Maybe you and I can spark more important discussions relating to human connections here, I feel a very one worldview vibe and i'm all about inclusivity and safe space for all as well as deconstructing harmful or outdated standards which are rampant in both of our nations if what I know of the land down under is accurate. Take care, man. I look forward to hearing your take, honestly most men I know dont share and I have minimal close male friends due to some of the things I feel need dismantling and my penchant for calling out toxic masculinity whenever it presents. (i'm sure you'll see that here, more, maybe with "sex brain guy"

hlw baby

Absolutely right.