I have been in and out of relationships and I have to admit, that one way or the other, I have been told that I do not know how to Love (not just once or twice..),.. pathetic.. maybe or maybe I was just with the wrong person.. How do you know if you have been in love?How do you know if you should go and give it another shot or to just call it quits with someone?.. how the hell do you know?.. I am so sick and tired of it, people always say.. when you find the right person.. you'll know.. but the thing is.. I dont know.. help me out before I decide to just be single forever and just decide to throw in the towel and live alone in this world.. I have thought about that most of the time...

an icequeen does not ask this question. so, you are not an icequeen.

i will add this much. one does not make a decision to fall in love. however, one does make a decision to nurture and maintain a loving relationship and that is the *work* part of it. if you have a good match to begin with though it can be almost effortless for years and years.

The answer is fairly simple. It feels automatic. Visually, emotionally, spiritually, vocally, harmonically it just works. You've seen other couples where their relationships just work. The couples work well together as a team. There's no one sidedness about it. That love thing is in there somewhere. Love is sharing, and caring. Love is tolerance and patience. Love is happiness and contentment. Love is love.

This is how I know.....

When my mind is unsure or confused, I let my feelings be my guide.....they never lie to me and my feelings are usually correct....If i'm feeling uneasy about a relationship, then I try to get in touch with those feelings and that is what I act upon....As I like to say....If it doesn't feel right, then it probably isn't....so if you want to know how you are thinking get in touch with how you are feeling!!

Uh oh masey I think I figured this out. Do your freinds and family call you ice princess for the reason you stated or because you are the type of person who over anylizes everything and intentionally puts excuses and obstacles in your own way of having a decent relationship?

I enjoy being single.........but......i think you don t learn "how to love" but you learn how to have a healthy relationship, when your ready.

Be good and good luck!!

It's off to work I go!!:(

In that case,.. yes I have been called immature..then i need to grow then.. but i cant grow by myself.. :( i have to grow with someone.. but everytime there is a someone.. it doesnt last for me to grow with..

I can't take this s*it anymore. Okay Massey, you wanna know the secret to all this love stuff huh? You have never been in love before? Well....good....and bad....cause it can be great and it can also hurt like a muther. But anyways, if you really wanna know then sit down and begin to learn.

You will freaking know it cause it will feel different than anything you have felt before. It is that simple. You will experience the following......

-You will think of him constantly, and not in that friend way of thinking...it will be the thinking of how he makes you laugh, or you will see yourself thinking of a future with him.

-He will "get" you. When you find someone like that...you had better hold on...they don't come around often.

-You will "get" him. No matter how different from you he is, you will somehow get him.

-Just talking to him makes you happy like a middle school girl.

-You will feel that "magic" in his lips, holding his hand, and his hugs. Trust me...it'll be different than anything you have experienced.

-Being with him...doing nothing like cuddling on the couch..is a great evening for you.

-He will make you smile more than you ever have.

-He will love you for you...all your faults...everything.

-Weak in the knees? Nah. Try having a heart that aches for that person....in a good achy way.

-When you see him, after he has been at work...and you light up.....you have fallen girl.


These are just some tidbits. Take them as you will.

well put.

I can't take this s*it anymore. Okay Massey, you wanna know the secret to all this love stuff huh? You have never been in love before? Well....good....and bad....cause it can be great and it can also hurt like a muther. But anyways, if you really wanna know then sit down and begin to learn.

You will freaking know it cause it will feel different than anything you have felt before. It is that simple. You will experience the following......

-You will think of him constantly, and not in that friend way of thinking...it will be the thinking of how he makes you laugh, or you will see yourself thinking of a future with him.

-He will "get" you. When you find someone like that...you had better hold on...they don't come around often.

-You will "get" him. No matter how different from you he is, you will somehow get him.

-Just talking to him makes you happy like a middle school girl.

-You will feel that "magic" in his lips, holding his hand, and his hugs. Trust me...it'll be different than anything you have experienced.

-Being with him...doing nothing like cuddling on the couch..is a great evening for you.

-He will make you smile more than you ever have.

-He will love you for you...all your faults...everything.

-Weak in the knees? Nah. Try having a heart that aches for that person....in a good achy way.

-When you see him, after he has been at work...and you light up.....you have fallen girl.


These are just some tidbits. Take them as you will.

Hmmmm I guess I know I'm in love because he is the first person I think of in the morning and the last person I think of before going to bed. If I had the choice between making him happy and making me happy, I'd choose him. I enjoy seeing a smile on his face and knowing I have brought him joy. I know that having been loved by him, if I died then and there I would feel fulfilled. I would know I had acomplished something in life. I would know I had loved deeply and unconditionally and that is all I really need.