Topic: Irony
Moondark's photo
Tue 01/01/08 11:40 AM
Has anyone thought about the irony that people who have had a number of bad relationships sit around and give each other all this advice on dating and relationships? The advise sounds good, and it is what we've told ourselves and now tell each other. But do you ever wonder if you've been doing the right things all along, why it doesn't work? Maybe what we have been thinking is right isn't so much so......

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Tue 01/01/08 11:43 AM
i'm right there with you...if we're so enlightened on a subject then why are we on a dating sight?

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Tue 01/01/08 11:44 AM

Has anyone thought about the irony that people who have had a number of bad relationships sit around and give each other all this advice on dating and relationships? The advise sounds good, and it is what we've told ourselves and now tell each other. But do you ever wonder if you've been doing the right things all along, why it doesn't work? Maybe what we have been thinking is right isn't so much so......


Thats very possible and very good point! flowerforyou

There is another view to take into consideration as well. Since it takes TWO people to make a relationship work and be a good one...a LOT depends on choosing the RIGHT person to have the relationship with.

And things get REALLY TOUGH when you figure out who you are as a person, what you are really looking for, then its like finding a dammm needle in the haystack.

Hence..here I am searching in the haystack! huh bigsmile flowerforyou laugh

Suzanne20's photo
Tue 01/01/08 11:45 AM
hmm...never thought of it like that before..makes sensedrinker

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Tue 01/01/08 11:46 AM
I've never been in a relationship and I don't give advice

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Tue 01/01/08 11:46 AM
yet at the same time, the best way to learn is from experience, and is having a happy healthy relationship, nothing more than having a relationship that which is NOT bad... and if you've never had a bad relationship, then how would you KNOW what to look for? If you've only had happy relationships, then you've probly only had one, and your probly still in it... which that's great, it does happy, my friend george met his first sweet heart at age 17, and he just passed away close to 60 still happily married.

Also too, you ALSO get more comments from people who look to speak their mind, which most of those people want to speak out because their pissed off, and looking to avoid reliving their past, and want to tell you to avoid the same sceenario.

simply put... yes, people who have had bad relationships leave more comments because they BELIEVE they know something, and they don't want to see someone else make their mistake... but yes, input from someone in a HAPPY relationship is better... tho if you are in a happy relationship... most people wouldn't be on a dateing site then.... SOOOOOO take all that for what it's worth.

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Tue 01/01/08 11:47 AM

Has anyone thought about the irony that people who have had a number of bad relationships sit around and give each other all this advice on dating and relationships? The advise sounds good, and it is what we've told ourselves and now tell each other. But do you ever wonder if you've been doing the right things all along, why it doesn't work? Maybe what we have been thinking is right isn't so much so......
Its called wisdom.....from making so many mistakes...its called Life....have you learned anything from the past? To be on a dating site doesnt equate loser it equates the need to find someone via the internet!!! Geeeeeez!!noway laugh laugh laugh

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Tue 01/01/08 11:48 AM
Not everyone here has had only bad relationships. Just because they didn't last forever like in a fairy tale doesn't make them bad. Relationships, like people, are not perfect and sometimes, they just don't work out the way you hope. I don't regret a single one of my relationships, I loved, I was loved, I learned and my world grew because of them.

And many people are here as simply another option or because they don't have the opportunity to get out as much as they'd like. For me, being a single parent, it's not always easy to go out. So, I'm just expanding my horizons.

Moondark's photo
Tue 01/01/08 11:49 AM
It's an awfully big haystack. sad

Hehe. In a slightly silly:tongue: , but introspectivedevil , mood.

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Tue 01/01/08 11:49 AM


Has anyone thought about the irony that people who have had a number of bad relationships sit around and give each other all this advice on dating and relationships? The advise sounds good, and it is what we've told ourselves and now tell each other. But do you ever wonder if you've been doing the right things all along, why it doesn't work? Maybe what we have been thinking is right isn't so much so......
Its called wisdom.....from making so many mistakes...its called Life....have you learned anything from the past? To be on a dating site doesnt equate loser it equates the need to find someone via the internet!!! Geeeeeez!!noway laugh laugh laugh


This being said from someone who has almost 30,000 posts here! Now that is EXPERIENCE!!!!! noway laugh

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Tue 01/01/08 11:50 AM

It's an awfully big haystack. sad

Hehe. In a slightly silly:tongue: , but introspectivedevil , mood.


Does that mean you want to roll in the hay???? :wink: devil

laugh

Moondark's photo
Tue 01/01/08 11:50 AM


Has anyone thought about the irony that people who have had a number of bad relationships sit around and give each other all this advice on dating and relationships? The advise sounds good, and it is what we've told ourselves and now tell each other. But do you ever wonder if you've been doing the right things all along, why it doesn't work? Maybe what we have been thinking is right isn't so much so......
Its called wisdom.....from making so many mistakes...its called Life....have you learned anything from the past? To be on a dating site doesnt equate loser it equates the need to find someone via the internet!!! Geeeeeez!!noway laugh laugh laugh

Never said it equated to being a loser. It was just a thought that occured to me as I was adding my two cents into an advise thread.

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Tue 01/01/08 11:51 AM
Many good points here. But keep in mind many people asking for advice on here are common sense issues IE; my boyfreind is an abusive alcoholic. Should I stay with him? Uh no.

mrosebro's photo
Tue 01/01/08 11:52 AM

Many good points here. But keep in mind many people asking for advice on here are common sense issues IE; my boyfreind is an abusive alcoholic. Should I stay with him? Uh no.

LOL

Moondark's photo
Tue 01/01/08 11:52 AM

Not everyone here has had only bad relationships. Just because they didn't last forever like in a fairy tale doesn't make them bad. Relationships, like people, are not perfect and sometimes, they just don't work out the way you hope. I don't regret a single one of my relationships, I loved, I was loved, I learned and my world grew because of them.

And many people are here as simply another option or because they don't have the opportunity to get out as much as they'd like. For me, being a single parent, it's not always easy to go out. So, I'm just expanding my horizons.


You're tight, not everyone had bad relationships. But it seems that many people have. I get out a lot. But I've a rule. I don't date people I've met at bars and clubs. Those have always turned out badly. And I just like to talk to people and make friends first.

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Tue 01/01/08 11:53 AM



Has anyone thought about the irony that people who have had a number of bad relationships sit around and give each other all this advice on dating and relationships? The advise sounds good, and it is what we've told ourselves and now tell each other. But do you ever wonder if you've been doing the right things all along, why it doesn't work? Maybe what we have been thinking is right isn't so much so......
Its called wisdom.....from making so many mistakes...its called Life....have you learned anything from the past? To be on a dating site doesnt equate loser it equates the need to find someone via the internet!!! Geeeeeez!!noway laugh laugh laugh


This being said from someone who has almost 30,000 posts here! Now that is EXPERIENCE!!!!! noway laugh
Nahhhhhhhhhhhh I just like bs!!!!:wink: laugh laugh laugh

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Tue 01/01/08 11:55 AM
Just like it's ironic that girls like assholes instead of nice guys like me >.>

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Tue 01/01/08 11:56 AM




Has anyone thought about the irony that people who have had a number of bad relationships sit around and give each other all this advice on dating and relationships? The advise sounds good, and it is what we've told ourselves and now tell each other. But do you ever wonder if you've been doing the right things all along, why it doesn't work? Maybe what we have been thinking is right isn't so much so......
Its called wisdom.....from making so many mistakes...its called Life....have you learned anything from the past? To be on a dating site doesnt equate loser it equates the need to find someone via the internet!!! Geeeeeez!!noway laugh laugh laugh


This being said from someone who has almost 30,000 posts here! Now that is EXPERIENCE!!!!! noway laugh
Nahhhhhhhhhhhh I just like bs!!!!:wink: laugh laugh laugh


try a little make-up..maybe a wig...even some plastic surgery. then MAYBE you'll get a date and have all that "wisdom" and "experience" to get you a FREE DINNER! flowerforyou noway laugh bigsmile

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Tue 01/01/08 11:58 AM


This being said from someone who has almost 30,000 posts here! Now that is EXPERIENCE!!!!! noway laugh


I just broke my 100 post cherry XD

longhairbiker's photo
Tue 01/01/08 01:02 PM
I'm just here for the freindship and comaraderie. I have not found nor met anyone special with same common interests yet. There are some amazing respectable lovable women on here. But of course as lex says they live 975,000 miles away.