Topic: Meeting someone LDR.
Duttoneer's photo
Tue 01/17/23 04:08 AM

If you decided to try an LDR, (any distance away from you), when you do find someone and both decide on that first meeting, just a meet and greet, should the guy go to meet the girl, the girl go to meet the guy, or both agree to meet somewhere in between. What do you believe is expected?

Dramatic Muffin's photo
Tue 01/17/23 05:57 AM
I'm old school, and I think it's more chivalrous for the guy to travel to meet the girl first, or to meet at a neutral place.

When Mark and I first met, he wanted to come here to see me, but the country I'm living in had closed borders due to Covid. So he actually bought me a flight to the U.S. to visit him.

Now we take turns visiting each other. This past Christmas we met in a third country (Germany).

I don't think one partner should do all the traveling, or pay for all the flights. I also don't think that people should even entertain the thought of a LDR unless your eyes are wide open to all that entails. It's definitely not easy. But it can be worth it. :heart:

Laska Paul 's photo
Tue 01/17/23 05:58 AM

I believe nothing is going to Happen , The only thing I believe is that my Pocket is going to be EMPTY !!

 Ꮢ Ꭷ Ᏸ ɨ Ꮑ's photo
Tue 01/17/23 06:15 AM
I believe nothing is going to Happen , The only thing I believe is that my Pocket is going to be EMPTY !!

:laughing::laughing::laughing:

If it's the wrong number/person

Duttoneer's photo
Tue 01/17/23 10:19 AM

I'm old school, and I think it's more chivalrous for the guy to travel to meet the girl first, or to meet at a neutral place.

When Mark and I first met, he wanted to come here to see me, but the country I'm living in had closed borders due to Covid. So he actually bought me a flight to the U.S. to visit him.

Now we take turns visiting each other. This past Christmas we met in a third country (Germany).

I don't think one partner should do all the traveling, or pay for all the flights. I also don't think that people should even entertain the thought of a LDR unless your eyes are wide open to all that entails. It's definitely not easy. But it can be worth it. :heart:


Thanks for sharing your thoughts on meeting someone for the first time. I agree it is more chivalrous for the guy to make the first journey to meet each other in an LDR when possible. Good to hear your LDR with Mark is going from strength to strength.

Duttoneer's photo
Tue 01/17/23 10:29 AM
Thanks everyone for all the comments.

I am not sure, and wonder if it is fair to expect a guy to travel to the first meeting with a girl, because until you meet you don't really know how it will turn out. This could result in a guy being very keen on a girl, he is the one spending money, and the girl is less keen, less sure, but it's costing her nothing to meet him. So maybe it would be better to agree to share the cost in meeting each other for the first time.

Duttoneer's photo
Tue 01/17/23 10:29 AM
Edited by Duttoneer on Tue 01/17/23 10:31 AM
Sorry double post.

no photo
Fri 02/10/23 01:29 AM
I met my ex on here , she had fybromyalgia and couldn't drive very far. At the time I was on crutches, following surgery on my foot,but I traveled by several trains to meet her on the otherside of the country in her town.

When I was able to drive again,I'd drive the 200 mile three and a half hour journey to her,as she was not upto driving to meet me halfway.

She called things off because she said she couldn't handle a relationship. Four months later,she drove for two hours straight to meet a man 20 years her senior.she told me this on the day I collected my mum's death certificate

ImmortalYo's photo
Fri 02/10/23 07:35 AM
I use to drive 3hrs to see a woman and did this for a year. Either move in together or just find someone else. My ex is trying to have one all the way from another country. She never had the time to see me living 5 minutes away. Moving on

Maj's photo
Tue 03/14/23 02:27 AM

If you decided to try an LDR, (any distance away from you), when you do find someone and both decide on that first meeting, just a meet and greet, should the guy go to meet the girl, the girl go to meet the guy, or both agree to meet somewhere in between. What do you believe is expected?

I’ve tried once. Never worked for me.

Toodygirl5's photo
Thu 04/06/23 01:41 PM


If you decided to try an LDR, (any distance away from you), when you do find someone and both decide on that first meeting, just a meet and greet, should the guy go to meet the girl, the girl go to meet the guy, or both agree to meet somewhere in between. What do you believe is expected?



Whatever the two of them decide together!

I had one man come 1500 miles to meet me but it was convenient for him.

I've met others within closer like 900 miles.
He was willing to travel.

Relationship site other than mingle.




Rock's photo
Fri 04/07/23 05:11 PM
I'm four months in, on my stay in
hospitals and physical therapy centers.
As much as my fans adore me, any meetings
will have to wait.

Duttoneer's photo
Fri 04/07/23 11:50 PM

I wish you a full and speedy recovery.

 Ꮢ Ꭷ Ᏸ ɨ Ꮑ's photo
Fri 04/07/23 11:54 PM
I'm four months in, on my stay in
hospitals and physical therapy centers.
As much as my fans adore me, any meetings
will have to wait.

:sunflower:Get Well Soon:sunflower:
Take Care:pray:

Gia's photo
Sun 04/09/23 12:39 AM

I'm four months in, on my stay in
hospitals and physical therapy centers.
As much as my fans adore me, any meetings
will have to wait.


You got this. :pray::heart:

For me I had it planned with someone. He was going to drive the 5 hours to me. If it worked out we’d take turns and meet in between. Before that I wouldn’t even consider anyone beyond 25 km, My friend “That’s not even all of our city”.

I never met anyone like him before.

Duttoneer's photo
Sun 04/09/23 12:56 AM

As someone once said on here, "you can't really expect to find the one for you living in the same town, you have to look further". Thanks for sharing your success, and I hope all goes well for you both.