As some of you may already know, I was with a girl for just a month and a half, I have posted on here since day one of the relationship. She dumped me on Christmas night because she is asexual, that's when she told me about her asexuality, she should have told me about it earlier on; she wouldn't even kiss me because of it. For some reason, it's been almost a week and I am not over the whole thing yet, I'm taking it pretty hard. I can't stop thinking about her, I barely even leave my bedroom. My question is, how can I get motivated to do anything? I just keep feeling sorry for myself, and still very confused.

Steven--- Why does a person you barely knew get so much control over you? Think about it. You're not "over it" because you don't want to be. If you want to move on you need to accept you had nothing to do with why she is the way she is or how she treated you. It appears you have been maniuplated and lied to and moping around about that lets her "win".

asexual? She has both male and female reproductive organs?

you have to realize it has nothing to do with you...sounds like it was all her... just hang in there.. n move on..you sound like you deserve better than that anyways.. it will pass..

Are you Jayme's brother??

Please just look up asexual and hermaphrodite, come back in when you're informed!

asexual is A person who does not experience sexual attraction.

Sounds like a nice way to say "No Thanks."

Hey Steve,
Don't lay all of your eggs in one basket pal..Especially from a dating sight where you don't know someone.
There are a lot of great women out there. Take your time. When the time is right, you will meet her..
Keep on truckin'

Hell, that would have happened as soon as you got married anyway!

omg!!!

maybe you need professional assistance-
for someone you have only known for one and a half months
to have that much impact on your life- esp since you never even kissed...is not normal

I tried to use that once, but then the wind blew and gave me away.

I know that, I honestly know I need some professional help, I'm screwing myself over here. Professionals cost too much...hahaha

Who needs professional help? You have all of us no-it-alls right here!

If a sexual does not have an attraction none of this should suprise you. Why are you having a problem? Did you think you would be able to change her?? Couselor in the making

there are professionals that can assist with little cost--check your employer--you might have an employee assistance program.

First off why would you want a relationship with someone like that? no affection, hides thing from you, sounds like you got lucky by not investing a lot of time in a losing situation

I didn't think i would change her, in fact she never told me she was asexual until the break up. If she would have told me in the first place, I honestly may have thought about staying with her, not to sound like a queer, but I did enjoy the cuddling.

If your serious, ck. your local YWCA.
Some have great groups for counseling.
Been there, done it, HIGHLY reccommend it

dI think you just need some time. It will get better as time passes. I really don't think you need professional help. I think we all have been there sometime or other. As far as not kissing, we can fall in love without kissing. Maybe you fell for her looks or mind or maybe just her personality. Hang in there. You will find the right person, just don't give up yet.