I p!SS off everyone on here. I don't know what it is about me. No I don't know what I want and no one can push their views on me and tell me what they think I need. I'm naive, but not stupid. My husband passed away not even 5 months ago. My daughter says I need a hobby and to read, my friends say I need a vibrator and a hug and I'm just craving male companionship without rushing into a relationship or sleeping with someone. Just deep meaningful conversation with anyone about anything or nothing at all.

is it possible?

Here maximum are that types of people so don't get into their dusty thoughts.. As cartoons are everywhere..

CTP: Yes, a boy an a girl can be a good friends..

Of course, boys and girls can be friends.

Of course, asexual relationships work.

But people who say, you need a vibrator are not friends, as they don't have any manners.

It's how women talk, I laughed at it.

I've known those ladies for 30+ years. They're like family to me and girls can be worst then men the way they talk.. I've heard it all.. normally wine involved. They know my views that I crave friendship with guys, but I attract the worst kind of men.. ones that tell me we'll first off as friends, nope we'll be just friends is what I say.

Thank you. I've been trying to be more selective. I'll get it right one day.

I'm a tad confused as you tell us to PO and continue to express you know it all yourself, and then you ask our advice?

In any case, I don't really get why it has to be male company? If you've lost your partner only months ago you aren't ready for a new relationship, not a budding one even. Not if your relationship was good.
So why not enjoy female company for now until you are ready?

And as for the question... it has been a topic on here a few times before.
Many say yes, it is possible.
I say, no, as there's almost always 1 party that has feelings other than just friendship. With two healthy heterosexual people of the other gender there will be at least one that has or will develop different feelings. Can be only sexual but also falling in love.

Maybe the only way it could work if the male was a widower. But even then, only 5 months after becoming a widow... very short!
Even after a breakup someone won't be ready within that short amount of time. Usually takes at least 1 yr to find your feet being alone again, and more time to be ready for a relationship, another year or more.
The impact of losing a partner and becoming widowed is usually much deeper and will as such highly likely take longer too.

My two cents. Do with it what you like.

When I say I PO everyone, I meant every guy that I've been talking too.

I don't disagree with you at all, I confuse myself everyday. I flip flop and lack life experiences. I have this fear that never goes away and this pain that never settles, my heart actually hurts. I've been in one relationship since I was 14 and he died in January. I'm devastated, I'm lost and was just trying to fill a void that can't be filled. I am open to any friendship at all... I'm just lonely and driving my actually friends nuts.

Maybe I come off as a know it all, but ... The male companionship I think I'm craving is because of my husband was my best friend. it's just my thoughts process. I don't have one single guy friend that isn't attached to my husband.

Thanks

I'm not telling anyone here to PO I'm explaining myself. I struggle with everything lately, so please don't take offense by anything I say. it's not meant that way at all.

Giagia, I joined this website after my wife died and joined with the desire for companionship. So. I can relate.

Yes I have male friends. I’ve always been upfront and told them nothing sexual.

It's possible, until sex gets in the way.

Really? Telling guys to PO works? Seesh never knew that.

As for OP yes it can work, but as stated before as long as the boundaries are set up in advance. Take your time to mourn and heal. It never really goes away. You just get better at dealing with it.

Good luck on your search in the asylum known as mingle.

I'm seeing it more that women and men can't be only friends.

Nope ... it's just kinda impossible .... just friends hmmmm !!! Been there done that ....sorry

Nope ... it's just kinda impossible .... just friends hmmmm !!! Been there done that ....sorry

Seems sad. No male friends.

Sounds like you want a pen pal. Most guys on dating sites aren't looking for that. Some could be but you have to weed through many guys to find one who will keep the convo deep and meaningful. But the deeper issue is the fact that a dating site like this has knocked you on your ***. It happens. Guys email you and want to make bangy bangy....women get that more than men do. Men normally get women from foreign lands who want Green Card or something. Most of the time it is a fake profile. But eh...what can you do? To end this, you are going to have to "friend zone" men if what you want is conversation. It's possible to do but as time goes by, most men do not want that.

I've seen it fail many times, so doubt it.

If it is possible, yes. Women cannot be generalized and you know more than they know what you need. Just do what you like and take your time.

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