Came across an interesting article on Marital Rape this morning on my news feed.
http://www.npr.org/sections/goatsandsoda/2022/02/08/1047588035/marital-rape-india
I don't actually read the articles, just the headlines:
Marital rape is still legal in India. A court decision could change that

This thread isn't really focusing on the NEWS article but the general idea of Marital Rape and how that can be/is, domestic/personal abuse.

1. How common is marital rape?
When I was married, sex was one of the best things in our lives. The idea of rape never came to mind.


2. How many have ended their marriage over issues stemming from marital rape?


3. Is it a 'right' to rape anyone? Do men in general believe marriage gives them the right to rape their spouses? How about women? Women can and do rape men.

Is it okay to rape if reproduction (building a family) is the reason?

How common is violent incest?

These subjects are as far away from 'normal' as they can get when I think about love and family.
Yet obviously, its common enough to be a social issue. Its difficult for me to get my head around this.
Sexual domestic violence was never part of my life.

Is having control over your sexual urges unique?
I find the whole concept appalling and twisted.

Y'all got anything to say on this subject?

Rape is forcefully having sex with someone against there will and is a crime for sure. I wished sentences for rape would be a helluva lot higher than they are. Or that courts actually stuck to the highest sentence and didn't allow early release.
If memory serves, the highest possible sentence here is 12 yrs but that is hardly ever done. It's ridiculous.
Victims of rape tend to suffer for years, if not the rest of their lives, with the consequences.
It has implications for social life, going out, dating and having a normal healthy sex-life and relationship, possible infertility if it was extremely brutal and especially when the female still young. And then there's the psychological stuff.
Personally I feel 12 yrs should be minimum sentence, but tendency to make it much more considering the consequences should be default.

I've never been victim of rape, certainly not marital rape. That would not have ended well. Retaliation would sure as hell cross my mind, not entirely sure if I'd act upon it. For some reason I get in my reptilian brain when stuff like that happens.
But I'd take action steps. It's not the 19th century anymore for crying out loud!

Marital rape... I'm just thinking that the sentence for that should be even higher. If a man thinks he owns his wife because he married her maybe being someone else's biotch against his will in jail for a few decades would help sort him out.
And yep, sounds brutal maybe, but doing something like that to a woman -who's usually not nearly strong enough nor has the social position to go against it- deserves a very harsh approach. Maybe castrate them first before sending them off to jail.
If I'm honest I feel I'm actually generous even.

I hope countries like India sort this kind of medieval practices and make proper laws and help systems for women when this happens to them. Especially since I think they still marry off quite young girls, which also should be forbidden. And instant divorce so the woman is free from that man.

From what I see, it looks like the Marriage Strike is a culturally sanctioned public protest against their country's efforts to make marriage rape a crime.

I'm completely dumbfounded how any group would publically protest in favor of keeping such a disgraceful practice. As if it is their "Right" to rape their spouses?

Granted, in the States we publically protest many things. Rape of any kind is never favorably protested. Prostitute rights but never rape!

While I can understand different countries having different cultures and traditions, rape is not what I call a cultural tradition. Its like backward, opposite thinking to a civilized world.

I wonder how many women are suffering more now as those men are facing this law change and taking it out on their wives?