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Topic: Needs some advice..Crazy!
Keri2's photo
Fri 12/28/07 09:21 AM
Ok, so for the last 3 months I was dating this guy. He was wonderful, gorgeous, everything I always told my Momma I wanted, right? Well, turned out he was a pathological liar, leading like a double life! What do I do? I fell pretty deep for him, and I thought he did for me too? I didnt talk to him for about 3 weeks and last night when I talked to him, he was the coldest person and definitely not the guy I knew. Do I seek revenge or just get over it, delete his number and move on?? Please help, I've got crazy mixed emotions.

Fresno9324's photo
Fri 12/28/07 09:24 AM
Keri Keri,

RUN And run like the wind was pulling you..... you are young and beautiful, Don'tlet this faker ruin yur life.... My daughter had the same thing hapen to her and i was left picking up the peices.....There are a lot of nice honest guys out there, He'll find you but he best advise i will give to you is

RUN !!!!!!!!!

anthsm22's photo
Fri 12/28/07 09:25 AM
definetly move on!!!!!!!!!!!!!..and call mebigsmile

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Fri 12/28/07 09:25 AM

Ok, so for the last 3 months I was dating this guy. He was wonderful, gorgeous, everything I always told my Momma I wanted, right? Well, turned out he was a pathological liar, leading like a double life! What do I do? I fell pretty deep for him, and I thought he did for me too? I didnt talk to him for about 3 weeks and last night when I talked to him, he was the coldest person and definitely not the guy I knew. Do I seek revenge or just get over it, delete his number and move on?? Please help, I've got crazy mixed emotions.


Move on and forget him. Revenge would say more about you than about him, and that's a bad place to go. There is no point in maintaining contact with a liar, unless you enjoy being hurt. You can do better.

anthsm22's photo
Fri 12/28/07 09:26 AM
you dont need that... soryy you liked him so much, but it doesnt sound like its gonna get any better, and NO...revenge is not the answer!!!!!!!!!!!!!noway noway noway

BlueskyJ's photo
Fri 12/28/07 09:27 AM
Well I like the revenge Idea....be creative....and please let us know what you come up with, maybe I'll try it sometime....laugh

lilith401's photo
Fri 12/28/07 09:27 AM
Keri,

Boy do I know how you feel! This is exactly the type of guy I fall for as well, because they are so smart, confident, and charming. The thing is, they don't care about you at all. He wasn't being cold, he was probably just being himself. You fell for the guy he wanted you to see, not for him. And he, I'm sorry to say, did not fall for you. Now, this is all based on only what you've said, and I surely could be hugely off base. I have been before. This just sounds so familiar. It's also possible he is really upset with you about something you've done (that you might not be aware of). My advice, ask him if he is willing to talk about it. If he's not, move on and remember, don't take it personally. Easier said than done, I know. Nix the revenge idea, it's okay in fantasy but in reality it gives him satisfaction and control in the end.

Keri2's photo
Fri 12/28/07 09:28 AM
Thanks, it means a lot that those answers came from men. I just feel confused...he keeps telling me that IM the crazy one (because I called him when I didnt hear from him for 3 weeks and saw pics of him with another girl!) I started to believe that at first, but I feel better now, THANK YOU SO MUCH!

Fresno9324's photo
Fri 12/28/07 09:29 AM
Nooooo Revenge is not the answer.... your just playing into his hand..... blow it off.....yea it hurts but you'll be a lot better off with out him

Sensei's photo
Fri 12/28/07 09:29 AM
Move on Hun he is just another loser
out there giving us good guys a bad rap.

anthsm22's photo
Fri 12/28/07 09:29 AM

definetly move on!!!!!!!!!!!!!..and call mebigsmile
Darn....cant call me, Im older than 27sad sad sad sad bigsmile

flyankee07's photo
Fri 12/28/07 09:29 AM
glasses Yes run, and never let a man steal your wind. Delete his # and forget him. Your too good for him. It's his loss not yours.......

longhairbiker's photo
Fri 12/28/07 09:29 AM
Please take time and get over it and then move on. You're attractive, and intellegent. You will chalk it up to experience and make it. Best revenge is success in your future endeavors.

Keri2's photo
Fri 12/28/07 09:30 AM

Keri,

Boy do I know how you feel! This is exactly the type of guy I fall for as well, because they are so smart, confident, and charming. The thing is, they don't care about you at all. He wasn't being cold, he was probably just being himself. You fell for the guy he wanted you to see, not for him. And he, I'm sorry to say, did not fall for you. Now, this is all based on only what you've said, and I surely could be hugely off base. I have been before. This just sounds so familiar. It's also possible he is really upset with you about something you've done (that you might not be aware of). My advice, ask him if he is willing to talk about it. If he's not, move on and remember, don't take it personally. Easier said than done, I know. Nix the revenge idea, it's okay in fantasy but in reality it gives him satisfaction and control in the end.


He treated me like I did something, but really I didnt. ?? He went home (a few hrs away) and I think just thought he could forget about me. That I would disappear or something and he could go back to normal. Its so crazy. I talked to other people last night and they said they had heard him make up lies about nothing to people he knew so easily. He was very charming, think thats what got me. Man, I shoulda known better!

im2fun's photo
Fri 12/28/07 09:31 AM
I was just with a wonderful (????) guy that too was a lier and a cheat but he made it sound so good and I fell hard and now I am mad at myself for being so gullible with this guy. There were red flags from the beginning but he sounded so sincere. I will not lie we had some really good times together and alot of fun with each others company and I fell hard. I have heard it said before and now I know it is true there is no fool like and old fool. I took his name out of my phone and I also changed my phone number. If he would call he will know that I meant what I said on Sunday when he walked away so cold hearted. I will not put up with lies and insincerity.

anthsm22's photo
Fri 12/28/07 09:31 AM

definetly move on!!!!!!!!!!!!!..and call mebigsmile
Sorry about that Keri...that was kinda insensitive of me.flowerforyou

Enya's photo
Fri 12/28/07 09:33 AM
GIRL! THAT HAS HAPPENED TO ME! BUT,MOST GOOD LOOKIN`
MEN CAN BE LIARS.
I'D SAY,FORGET ABOUT HIM.
AS DIFFICULT AS THAT MAY BE!
BUT,AFTER YOU LET GO,YOU'LL FEEL ALOT BETTER.

SOME PEOPLE HAVE DEEPER FEELINGS FOR THE OTHER,
BUT,IF HIS FEELINGS ARE'NT THE SAME....

RESPECT THAT AND LET HIM BE.
(YOU WOULD'NT WANT A GUY YOU WERE'NT ATTRACTED TO,TO KEEP ON
(PURSUING YOU.)

DON'T SEEK REVENGE(EVEN THOUGH ITS SWEET)
JUST TRY TO MOVE ON.

BlueskyJ's photo
Fri 12/28/07 09:34 AM
For future reference...if a guy hasn't called or talked to you for three weeks, He is Not interested in You....

If you saw pics of him with another girl, He REALLY is not into you....

I say Go For the Revenge...Gives you something to think about & plan...And who knows if you set it up right, it can be rather enjoyable....then you can move on...


Thanks, it means a lot that those answers came from men. I just feel confused...he keeps telling me that IM the crazy one (because I called him when I didnt hear from him for 3 weeks and saw pics of him with another girl!) I started to believe that at first, but I feel better now, THANK YOU SO MUCH!

lilith401's photo
Fri 12/28/07 09:34 AM
Keri,
Don't feel bad. You saw exactly what he wanted you to see. At least you didn't marry him, like I did mine. Try to avoid guys you think are too good to be true, they usually are. Real men have flaws and let you see them. They tell you good things about you and take responsibility for their own actions. You're a beautiful young girl with many, many fish to swim with. Go for real over charming, I find that overall it's way better than charm in the end!.

Keri2's photo
Fri 12/28/07 09:34 AM
Thanks Im2fun...glad to know Im not the only fool. That's exactly how I feel...like a fool, an idiot...so damn gullible. And Im not like that usually. Geez! Men! (jk)

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