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A friend of mine suggested JSH to me to meet other singles. I have not met anyone in person that I have met online before. Can anyone share their stories or have any suggestions. Are there any do's and don'ts when meeting someone for the first time offline? Does anyone have any horror stories to learn from? How do you keep yourself safe also?
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i have met a few ppl from online, one i met in person a few times, dated them , lived with them and things didnt pan out,
met another guy christmas eve night , just as sweet as could be, and exactly the way i came to know him to be through nearly a year and a half of chattin online and on the phone, |
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I have met some people from online a few times. The key is trying to get to know them pretty well first.
Emails, chatting, talk on the phone, go from there. I have never had a really bad experience. I've met some people that we just didn't click and then I met a few that were great. Though they couldn't have been that great ( I'm still single) lol Just be careful and use your common sense. The way I see it is that if I'm on here, than other people like me are on here. I've met stranger people in bars or in wal-mart than I have online haha |
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Talk to them on the phone first,several times. Exchange lots of photos. If possible, chat on messenger with web cams to be sure he/she is who they say they are.
Meet in a public place that you choose and drive your own car. Tell your friends and neighbors where you are going and what time you plan to be home. Give them the phone number of where you're going. Have someone call during the date to check on you. I've had many many bad dates and met a couple ppl I liked. Mt bad dates are now a running series for my friends and family to hear and laugh with me about. Expect people to misrepresent themselves in here, it mirrors how they do IRL. Be confident and be openminded, don't give up. If someone seems too good to be true, they are. If you have a gut feeling; go with it! Remember there is only one chance for a first impression. Ask questions and be direct. Have FUN! |
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ive meet a couple people offline most times its alrite u just have too be carefull try to meet in a public place. But i kinda have a horror story meet this one guy off the net and went to go meet him with a freind of mine at the time and he was just strange and creppy and when we told him we wernt into hanging out with him anymore he freaked and tryed to throw me and my friend into the lake. But i meet my bf on this site and he is a asome amazing guy. So not everyone out there is a creep but just be carefull.
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One guy said he met a girl who ripped him off in real life for 300 bucks...I know of at least oooo 50 odd people on here who are married and are playing games...dont ever show pictures of you and kids...it attracts...ehm...nasty men...apart from that have fun
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Edited by
TiffaIrishGirl
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Wed 12/26/07 09:40 AM
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hmmm thanks for asking the question I've wondered too. I'm nervous enough meeting guys as it is...let alone from online... I admitted that to a guy once...we'd been chatting like crazy...even called each other a couple of times and all of sudden he said goodbye...but it had been moving a bit quickly and I shrug....oh well...thats why I continue on my search....
Good luck  and amen to the fact you can meet strange guys anywhere...just be smart...take your own car...meet in a public place for the first couple of dates...some of the best relationships started with strangers meeting...most happen that way...not all of us marry our childhood sweetheart...(oh but thats sweet too) |
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OMG...Your stories are really scaring me! I appreciate the advice. I think it would be really hard to become interested in meeting someone offline. I am not very trusting and would be very scared that the person was not who they say they are. Atleast I am here to meet woman which gives me some comfort but not much.
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A friend of mine suggested JSH to me to meet other singles. I have not met anyone in person that I have met online before. Can anyone share their stories or have any suggestions. Are there any do's and don'ts when meeting someone for the first time offline? Does anyone have any horror stories to learn from? How do you keep yourself safe also? I've met nine people from dating sites, and eight of them were disasters of epic proportion. First rule: Don't believe everything you hear. There are some dishonest people on dating sites, and many are not who they claim to be. Guard your personal information. Don't give out phone numbers, etc., until you're comfortable doing so. There are scammers on dating sites (although JSH is very good about weeding them out and removing them quickly) -- watch out for people asking for money. First meetings should always be in public places. It doesn't hurt to let someone know where you're going; bring a cell phone and have someone call you during the first meeting -- this gives you a "way out" if the situation is starting to get too creepy or uncomfortable. Some people use old pictures of themselves in their profiles, or even celebrity pictures. You won't know for sure what they look like until you meet them in person; or you can use webcams. Horror stories? Well, one of the girls I met turned out to be an arsonist. And she hadn't mentioned THAT anywhere in her profile! The ninth girl I met on a website, however, is the best person I have ever known in my life; so not everybody is a scammer or liar....you just have to be careful, don't rush into anything, and watch for the red flags. |
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OMG...Your stories are really scaring me! I appreciate the advice. I think it would be really hard to become interested in meeting someone offline. I am not very trusting and would be very scared that the person was not who they say they are. Atleast I am here to meet woman which gives me some comfort but not much. Its just advice...dont judge everyone the same way...its never to late...shame it was a kn**head from here that gave me that advice just as he went playing with the others...but believe me...seriouslly take precautions but enjoy, its well worth it...
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Thank you all very much. What was your best date ever and what was your worst?
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Edited by
DannyFL
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Wed 12/26/07 09:52 AM
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I have met people from the "online world" before (not from JSH, though, as I'm brand new around here). One of them I talked to a few times, and we had friends in common, which made it much easier (think of it as "electronic blind dates" I guess).
My advice, if you don't have references on someone you want to meet, is to not do it alone. Wait, maybe, for a group gathering. Chances are even if someone didn't have the best in mind (not that anyone in this site would do that, but in other places!), chances are, they would never do anything of the kind in a big group. And you can always ask around about the person, even on JSH forums. Now, as for after the gathering, if things develop, then it's all honestly gut feeling, nothing else to be said. Good luck, and have fun! |
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A friend of mine suggested JSH to me to meet other singles. I have not met anyone in person that I have met online before. Can anyone share their stories or have any suggestions. Are there any do's and don'ts when meeting someone for the first time offline? Does anyone have any horror stories to learn from? How do you keep yourself safe also? I've met nine people from dating sites, and eight of them were disasters of epic proportion. First rule: Don't believe everything you hear. There are some dishonest people on dating sites, and many are not who they claim to be. Guard your personal information. Don't give out phone numbers, etc., until you're comfortable doing so. There are scammers on dating sites (although JSH is very good about weeding them out and removing them quickly) -- watch out for people asking for money. First meetings should always be in public places. It doesn't hurt to let someone know where you're going; bring a cell phone and have someone call you during the first meeting -- this gives you a "way out" if the situation is starting to get too creepy or uncomfortable. Some people use old pictures of themselves in their profiles, or even celebrity pictures. You won't know for sure what they look like until you meet them in person; or you can use webcams. Horror stories? Well, one of the girls I met turned out to be an arsonist. And she hadn't mentioned THAT anywhere in her profile! The ninth girl I met on a website, however, is the best person I have ever known in my life; so not everybody is a scammer or liar....you just have to be careful, don't rush into anything, and watch for the red flags. Lex is right.. I have met some people from JSH and we met at OPEN PUBLIC places and HAD a great time, never a problem YET,,,lol with any NUTS... And before meeting them I always have TALKED in GREAT lengths over the PHONE,,,FIRST.. THEN you can at least hear their REAL VOICE and see through their words how they talk and mix in on things... JUST ALWAYS,,,be CAREFUL....  
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I have met only one person on this site and talk about horror story. I will not go into details(i wanna stay a part of this site) but let's just put it this way...this person is being watched by the police and he was deactivated from here.
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yikes katers! sorry to hear!
i have met friends male and female... probabaly at least 75 people... some at big functions.. some alone..ive had two experiences that were bad... one worse than the other and thank goodness i was in a public place........ as for the other humm 30 or so one on ones they were all great.... so im sure it is like anyother place u just gotta make sure whom u are talking too talk on phone meet in public place and a webcam is a great tool!!! bring your girlfriend! that would be an idea and just meet as friends first always... if they dont like that your gf is going then they arent worth your time!
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yikes katers! sorry to hear! i have met friends male and female... probabaly at least 75 people... some at big functions.. some alone..ive had two experiences that were bad... one worse than the other and thank goodness i was in a public place........ as for the other humm 30 or so one on ones they were all great.... so im sure it is like anyother place u just gotta make sure whom u are talking too talk on phone meet in public place and a webcam is a great tool!!! bring your girlfriend! that would be an idea and just meet as friends first always... if they dont like that your gf is going then they arent worth your time! Yeah i know and i really wanted to go to Sages next year for his JSH Gathering but I'm not gonna be able to afford it or find a place for my kids to go that weekend. |
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I'm not looking to meet anyone on here. I'm here for the addictive forums. Says that on my profile. But do you think anyone can read? By the messages I'm getting I think they just look at pictures. Hmmmmm.
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When you have very suggestive pictures up what do you expect?
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met my best friend that way. i've met a few other people too, they were good people, just didnt click for a relationship!
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yikes katers! sorry to hear! i have met friends male and female... probabaly at least 75 people... some at big functions.. some alone..ive had two experiences that were bad... one worse than the other and thank goodness i was in a public place........ as for the other humm 30 or so one on ones they were all great.... so im sure it is like anyother place u just gotta make sure whom u are talking too talk on phone meet in public place and a webcam is a great tool!!! bring your girlfriend! that would be an idea and just meet as friends first always... if they dont like that your gf is going then they arent worth your time! Yeah i know and i really wanted to go to Sages next year for his JSH Gathering but I'm not gonna be able to afford it or find a place for my kids to go that weekend. |
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