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Ok, so someone starts chatting with you in your messages... It takes me five minutes to realise that if the flow is not happening and I have to wait more than 5 minutes for a response, I am not stimulated enough to carry on the conversation.
What is your limit? Yes I know I am unreasonable, but I really am Mingling for stimulating conversations. Don't feed the cows whilst chatting to me please!! |
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Even though it's just email,
and I could probably multitask it. If I gotta poop, I ain't takin' you with me. Cue: George Thorogood - I poo alone |
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Even though it's just email, and I could probably multitask it. If I gotta poop, I ain't takin' you with me. Cue: George Thorogood - I poo alone How would I know you are?  Are you sure you are not feeding cows?
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Even though it's just email, and I could probably multitask it. If I gotta poop, I ain't takin' you with me. Cue: George Thorogood - I poo alone How would I know you are? Are you sure you are not feeding cows? Well... There is a school cafeteria not far from here. Maybe, if I flush twice? 
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Well, Ivan... If you would stop trolling and show the real you... Actually I adore your posts, you make me laugh.
Carry on ... |
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Good topic this, I kind of get where you're coming from, but I would always try and let them know that I will be busy or whatever and that I'll reply when I get the chance, I try not to just not message them back if I can help it.
One of my pet peeves, is when people reply with a smiley or one word reply, I generally take that as a sign that the conversation is over. |
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Good topic this, I kind of get where you're coming from, but I would always try and let them know that I will be busy or whatever and that I'll reply when I get the chance, I try not to just not message them back if I can help it. One of my pet peeves, is when people reply with a smiley or one word reply, I generally take that as a sign that the conversation is over. Amen to that.  What is up with loooonngg drawn out chats? I know patience is a virtue, but come on ... I like to be present and be in the moment. I will free my time to chat to you, not chat to you when I have free time. The flow has to be happening. I am talking about randoms who message, not friends from the forums. That is completely different, because we do our thing and we both know we spend time Mingling on the forums. Am I unreasonable? |
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I don't like it either when in chat it takes long for someone to reply. I quickly lose interest when treated that way and I will delete them.
Like you say, I take and make the time to talk someone and if they can't do the same I'm not going to hang around. I have called men out on it and many admitted with an apology they were watching tv. WTF? So during commercial breaks they reply or something? Because of that I'm now faster to end a chat when it happens. The other day some guy suddenly stopped replying when I asked him if he was single. I decided to give it a few minutes, but nothing, while he was still online. Then I blocked him. He sent me a deblock request, saying he was getting coffee. Oh well... maybe he was, maybe not. |
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I don't like it either when in chat it takes long for someone to reply. I quickly lose interest when treated that way and I will delete them. Like you say, I take and make the time to talk someone and if they can't do the same I'm not going to hang around. I have called men out on it and many admitted with an apology they were watching tv. WTF? So during commercial breaks they reply or something? Because of that I'm now faster to end a chat when it happens. The other day some guy suddenly stopped replying when I asked him if he was single. I decided to give it a few minutes, but nothing, while he was still online. Then I blocked him. He sent me a deblock request, saying he was getting coffee. Oh well... maybe he was, maybe not. Wow. So pleased to hear that Crystal. Occasionally I feel like a biatch for my lack of interest. To me, the flow and the interest is one complete thing. Put in effort peeps!!! |
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Anyhow. I am keen on a forum Mingler. He can take his precious time with me lol... He is worth the wait
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Sometimes it takes me a wee bit to answer, because sometimes something else pops up in between. But if I am logged in, I usually answer within 30 minutes or so
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Sometimes it takes me a wee bit to answer, because sometimes something else pops up in between. But if I am logged in, I usually answer within 30 minutes or so Mate, I would be bored an gone... Just sayin' |
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Well, Ivan... If you would stop trolling and show the real you... Actually I adore your posts, you make me laugh. Carry on ... Trolling? I actually agree with the context of your thread here. If the disappearances are habitual, I'll usually bolt. The point I was making, is that there are unforseen mitigating circumstances. A person who maybe ate the wrong thing for example. A sudden allergic reaction, that needs immediate attention. Maybe ran right through them? Someone rang the doorbell repeatedly. Excuse the absence while listening to the a-hole lean on the doorbell for a full five minutes. Sorry... Yeah, I know the black and white is there. The outlines. But, my mind usually focuses on the grey. The stuff in between. |
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Good topic this, I kind of get where you're coming from, but I would always try and let them know that I will be busy or whatever and that I'll reply when I get the chance, I try not to just not message them back if I can help it. One of my pet peeves, is when people reply with a smiley or one word reply, I generally take that as a sign that the conversation is over. Amen to that. What is up with loooonngg drawn out chats? I know patience is a virtue, but come on ... I like to be present and be in the moment. I will free my time to chat to you, not chat to you when I have free time. The flow has to be happening. I am talking about randoms who message, not friends from the forums. That is completely different, because we do our thing and we both know we spend time Mingling on the forums. Am I unreasonable? No I don't think it's unreasonable at all, if you were chatting to someone in a bar etc then you wouldn't expect them to disappear for an hour and not tell you why. Obviously it's slightly different if you're texting someone. A forum is also a different scenario I think, as people aren't online all the time, but if you're going to instigate an online chat with someone thenm at least stay and carry on the conversation for a while 
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I don't like it either when in chat it takes long for someone to reply. I quickly lose interest when treated that way and I will delete them. Like you say, I take and make the time to talk someone and if they can't do the same I'm not going to hang around. I have called men out on it and many admitted with an apology they were watching tv. WTF? So during commercial breaks they reply or something? Because of that I'm now faster to end a chat when it happens. The other day some guy suddenly stopped replying when I asked him if he was single. I decided to give it a few minutes, but nothing, while he was still online. Then I blocked him. He sent me a deblock request, saying he was getting coffee. Oh well... maybe he was, maybe not.  Yet a simple, brb, I'm getting coffee or something would suffice? 
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Sometimes it takes me a wee bit to answer, because sometimes something else pops up in between. But if I am logged in, I usually answer within 30 minutes or so Mate, I would be bored an gone... Just sayin' It's just, when I am in work, everything has to be done asap, everybody wants me at the same time. So, when at home, I try to relax and take my time doing stuff. |
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I don't like it either when in chat it takes long for someone to reply. I quickly lose interest when treated that way and I will delete them. Like you say, I take and make the time to talk someone and if they can't do the same I'm not going to hang around. I have called men out on it and many admitted with an apology they were watching tv. WTF? So during commercial breaks they reply or something? Because of that I'm now faster to end a chat when it happens. The other day some guy suddenly stopped replying when I asked him if he was single. I decided to give it a few minutes, but nothing, while he was still online. Then I blocked him. He sent me a deblock request, saying he was getting coffee. Oh well... maybe he was, maybe not. Wow. So pleased to hear that Crystal. Occasionally I feel like a biatch for my lack of interest. To me, the flow and the interest is one complete thing. Put in effort peeps!!! I don't see how that would make you a biotch. It's more like self-respect and self-love to draw the line when someone isn't appreciating you and your time. |
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Well, Ivan... If you would stop trolling and show the real you... Actually I adore your posts, you make me laugh. Carry on ... Trolling? I actually agree with the context of your thread here. If the disappearances are habitual, I'll usually bolt. The point I was making, is that there are unforseen mitigating circumstances. A person who maybe ate the wrong thing for example. A sudden allergic reaction, that needs immediate attention. Maybe ran right through them? Someone rang the doorbell repeatedly. Excuse the absence while listening to the a-hole lean on the doorbell for a full five minutes. Sorry... Yeah, I know the black and white is there. The outlines. But, my mind usually focuses on the grey. The stuff in between. Ok, so if I am chatting with my bestie and an 'interuption' happens she will say brb, so and so is happening. Hell, it is about communication. And many don't understand the flow is very important. We all want to feel that our time is precious and because we are giving it to you, when we do not have to, it should be respectfully reciprocated. Take note men and women!!! |
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I don't like it either when in chat it takes long for someone to reply. I quickly lose interest when treated that way and I will delete them. Like you say, I take and make the time to talk someone and if they can't do the same I'm not going to hang around. I have called men out on it and many admitted with an apology they were watching tv. WTF? So during commercial breaks they reply or something? Because of that I'm now faster to end a chat when it happens. The other day some guy suddenly stopped replying when I asked him if he was single. I decided to give it a few minutes, but nothing, while he was still online. Then I blocked him. He sent me a deblock request, saying he was getting coffee. Oh well... maybe he was, maybe not. Yet a simple, brb, I'm getting coffee or something would suffice? That would be respectful.
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I don't like it either when in chat it takes long for someone to reply. I quickly lose interest when treated that way and I will delete them. Like you say, I take and make the time to talk someone and if they can't do the same I'm not going to hang around. I have called men out on it and many admitted with an apology they were watching tv. WTF? So during commercial breaks they reply or something? Because of that I'm now faster to end a chat when it happens. The other day some guy suddenly stopped replying when I asked him if he was single. I decided to give it a few minutes, but nothing, while he was still online. Then I blocked him. He sent me a deblock request, saying he was getting coffee. Oh well... maybe he was, maybe not. Wow. So pleased to hear that Crystal. Occasionally I feel like a biatch for my lack of interest. To me, the flow and the interest is one complete thing. Put in effort peeps!!! I don't see how that would make you a biotch. It's more like self-respect and self-love to draw the line when someone isn't appreciating you and your time. Thank you. I rarely respond to messages because of this factor. Forum people are more savvy.
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