my wife died of breast cancer 3 years ago this coming January. I made out a profile and the only people that have contacted me are young girls either looking for a sugar daddy or just want gift cards for money. I need help finding my.next mate. if this dating isn't right for me what site will be.

this stuff is a crap shoot....try other avenues ....senior centers everywhere

have lots of women....in other words do not put all your eggs in one

basket...i have a very small puppy i take everywhere he is a great girl

magnet...you can enjoy meeting wonderful women everywhere....i am going on a

cross country trip, stopping in many small towns i will make lots of friends

during the holidays along with seeing family....who knows, i just might meet

"the one".....good luck....

Hi Scott .. sorry to hear you recently lost your wife

Dating can be daunting so go easy on yourself . Online you do need to be wise .. there are many who will try to take advantage of your situation . That said a dating site is a good way to socialise and build up your confidence .

I would recommend extending your social network... join a local community group or try a class in something that interests you . If you have access to a local dating site .. that may be more successful than an international site . Best of luck :-)

There are women on this site who are looking for a connection with a good guy. I've mostly run into guys who are misrepresenting themselves for unknown reasons. Finding someone who is honest and actually real is challenging. Happy fishing.

This is a free dating site and the riff raff you have been experiencing is the nature of this beast.

One thing you should realize is after a long relationship you are conditioned to a certain way of being. For the last 45 years, everything you are was sculptured by your relationship. Now, you are alone again.

I suggest sitting down and taking a very hard look at yourself to figure out who you actually are right now. I'm not telling you to dismiss the things you loved and changed while you were married, just to look at how they apply to who you are now that you are alone again.

Once you figure out who you are and what you actually want you can make a real plan to set those goals in motion. Try to realize a new woman may not be interested in being compared to your wife. What she liked, may not be what the new woman likes. Try to find the 'you' in you again.

Once you have a specific goal set, focus only on those who have the potential to be someone you want. Ignore all the rest. Set your age range, distance limits and personality qualities. Make the hard choices if a potential match falls outside those requirements. Most of all be flexible and patient and stay persistent.

I wish you luck and may your quest be short and rewarding.
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