I had been talking to this one guy on here and it seemed like everything
was going pretty ok. We were emailing each other through the site and
then began emailing each other through our personal email addresses and
then began instant messaging and even talked on the phone a couple of
times and now nothing. It's been about 2 weeks maybe since I've had any
contact with him. I did email him 2x since then but gave up because I
don't want to come off like I'm stalking him or something which I'm not.
Just wondering what the hell happened.

Maybe he met someone, maybe he got hit by a bus, maybe he left the
country.......
Just kinda wish I knew something you know. Anyway, just slightly bummed
is all. Anyone been thru this at all?

HE GOT HIT BY A BUS,SO HE IS OUT OF THE TOPIC ,WHATS GOOD LOL.

It can be anything from what you've given up here H.E.B. Looking for the
obvious did you bring up that you were a Born again Virgin or anything
like that?

Send him a message telling him to contact you when he comes outta
hibernation but be warned (THIS IS HOW HE IS, so expect the same from
him anytime in the future).

Here is your answer..people( not all) are generally rude and un
communicative..Never met many who live up to even basic standards..that
doesn't mean they aren't there though..Don't give up hope>>WILL

Hiya Hazeleyes,
It happens alot!! I'm not just speaking for myself, I talk to alot of
people on the net. & I hear it often. even meeting up,seein a couple
times then GONE!!
I had a guy I had talked to for along time, he was going to come out
here & stay. then we would do what ever. set it for 2 days ahead. then
nothing! no answers back, about a month later i hear from him like
nothing happened. He said he didnt hear back from me, We talked for
awhile & he wanted to come see me. I was at the Ranch so its even
farther. So we talk on the phone,He calls me back when he was leaving so
I could figure time, I had him unblock his # so incase I missed his
call, he did. then nothing!! never showed up! never Called! Blocked me
on the site!
I get my feelings hurt easy. the way I look at it is,that's ok! I know
I'm real & atleast have enough feelings for everybody to share
friendship & a open Heart!
&&&&& if they wanna be a BIG JJERRKKKKKKKK! then Bite Me !!!
hugs girl! feel sorry for his lose...

srry ...if it was me...i have been away working lol

I would not worry about this guy at all. Some people are ALL talk and no
show. He could be married and then got cold feet. Or he just decided
not to deal with the online stuff anymore. Either way, I would say you
got the best part... you got to know his true colors before anything bad
happens.

Also I would caution people on meeting other people. I would NOT meet
anyone in a pvt place. I mean how do you know there not up on charges
for domestic violence or something worse?

Wow...what timing, this Link was on MSN tonight (it's like they heard
your question):

http://msn.match.com/msn/article.aspx?articleid=6292&TrackingID=TrackingID=516165&BannerID=541888&menuid=6&GT1=8747
___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

The real reason he stopped calling
By Jonathan Small

It happens suddenly without any warning: Your relationship is humming
along and you’re finally starting to really see a future with this guy,
when thud! He’s gone so fast there’s no time to say, “Um, what just went
wrong?” Honestly, even if the guy was man enough to deliver some sort of
explanation, you probably can’t take it at face value. If you really
want to know what happened, read on for the real reasons men stage their
escape—and how you can help prevent this from happening to you again.

Reason #1: He assumes you’re dying to settle down (even if you’re not)
“After a few months, men often sense that the woman is interested in
something more,” explains Warren Farrell, Ph.D., author of Why Men Are
the Way They Are. Even if you aren’t dying to solidify your
relationship, he may just assume that’s the case based on past
experiences. So unless you make it crystal clear that you’re fine
keeping things casual, he starts feeling the walls close in: Gone are
the days when it’s fine for him to date other people or go out with the
guys without asking you first. This perceived lack of freedom puts many
men on edge, convincing them to make the leap back into singledom.

Reason #2: He does want to get serious—but you’re not Mrs. Right
It’s true: Lots of guys aren’t commitment-shy and are truly looking to
settle down. And if you’ve been dating awhile, by now your conversations
have shifted from superficial topics (like, say, how much he likes your
butt) to more meaningful matters—like, say, your views are on marriage
and kids. It’s about this time that a man “begins to discover what
values this woman has vs. what he has,” says Farrell. And maybe he’s
discovered some major differences: You might begin to talk about your
dreams of moving to the country, while he is all about city life. Or he
might be looking to start a family, while you’re focused on your career.
Once these priorities become apparent, they can convince a guy to cut
ties if he thinks you’re incompatible. Think of the bright side: He
probably just came to the same conclusion you would have eventually.

Reason #3: You’ve gone from cool to accusatory
In the beginning of the relationship, it’s easy to let small infractions
slide. For example, maybe he was 10 minutes late to a date due to
traffic or didn’t call one night when he said he would. At this early
stage, it’s easy to say, “No problem! I know traffic can be
unpredictable at this hour” or “Don’t worry, I know work can get busy.”
But as things get more serious, your mellow attitude can transform into
the very thing men dread: Indications that you’re disappointed, or
annoyed, or angry about the very things you once took in stride. “When
she calls to say stuff like ‘How come I haven’t heard from you in a
while?’ that’s when I get close to the eject button,” admits Rob
Frankel, 48. We’re not saying you should just smile and accept bad
behavior, but give your guy the same slack you’d give your friends and
family, and he won’t feel like the long leash you once gave him is
getting shorter and shorter

Reason #4: He’s addicted to the thrill of the chase Call it immature
(because it is), but some men really just love the pursuit. Nevin
Jenkins, 32, typically looks for the exit ramp when he realizes the
relationship is no longer a challenge. “Once I proved to myself that I
could sleep with her and be with her, I wasn’t interested anymore,” he
admits. “I was in love with the chase, not the person.” Inside tip on
spotting (and avoiding) these cads: At every turn, they’ll be pulling
all the stops to convince you to acquiesce to things you’re not quite
ready to do, from your first kiss to a whirlwind weekend away together.
If you feel uncomfortable stating any reservations or putting on the
brakes, that could be a sign you’re uncomfortable with him. Consider
yourself warned.

Reason #5: You’ve gotten comfortable—too comfortable
Sure, it’s great to get to the point in a relationship when you’re no
longer being painfully polite or self-conscious. But that doesn’t mean
he wants you acting so comfortable it feels like he’s hanging with his
college roommate, either. “After a few months, a woman lets down her
guard and shows us more of who she really is,” says Zachary M.C. Harris,
author of The Men’s Dump Survival Guide. Don’t worry, this is usually a
good thing—but there are times you’ll want to be careful. Have you slid
from appearing on dates all dolled up to baggy jeans, sweatshirts, and
granny panties? Are you griping about your indigestion, cramps, or what
your shrink said during your last session? These, dear ladies, are
mood-killers and you gain nothing from telling him about these things—at
any point in a relationship. Keeping a little romance and mystery in a
relationship is something that will never work against you.

Chase is over? Maybe you seemed too interested. Just don't contact him
unless he does you and only if there is an explanation. Sounds like a
scared man too me.

can be alot of reasons, don't assume the worst from him, hell could have
been in an accident or something, hopefully not but there are lots of
possibilities

wow