For those who actually Date when the offer presents itself, who pays for your date?

Whether its a movie and dinner, trip to a B&B or something to Your liking!

Do you pay for everything and still its a Date?

I always pay my share although there are a few guys that were happy for me to pay for both of us all the time.

One the first date, I pay my own way..
That way I can get what I want at the restaurant, and, if it goes bad, I don't feel bad/ like the guy wasted his money..
And also, I do not feel in any way obligated to give him anything *after* the date..
There are still some *****les out there who feel they spent X amount of money on a woman, therefore, they should get X amount of whatever out of her...

On the meet and greet the man pays. I offer to pay my share, and I never have something I cannot afford myself. But meet & greet is usually only coffees anyway.
The one time it turned into a full blown date with my last partner, and included dinner, he paid for that too. I did offer, he didn't want to.
I respect that and then gracefully accept his generosity. I would've hurt and offended him had I paid my half or everything and I doubt there would've been a 2nd date even.
Depending on what type of guys you date, they want to feel like a man on a date with a woman, not like they're dating another man.

When dating more often it varies. I don't have a large income, but I do my best and I do pay for smaller things that I can afford. I also don't expect or demand to do stuff that's more expensive which would mean he'd have to cough up a lot.
But it's quite simple: I cannot do expensive holidays, weekends away, and so on. If a man has a problem with that, well, then it ends right there. I can't magickally create more money.
I never beat around the bush about only having a benefit either btw.

Should I ever invite someone for dinner, I gonna pay for both. We have a saying in Germany 'The one, who orders the music/band, has to pay for it'.

Why does there have to be a lead ?
I think it’s only fair , it’s done equally .
I would always pay my own way ,
Or if you are in relationship / multiple dates then one pay one time , the other pay next

I don't mind paying my part on a first date, but the Man pays his part.

Dates that I had Online had to travel here to meet me first, I planned the entertainment and meals. They paid for Hotel for themselves.


Usually I can tell if he is cheap just by the Phone conversations Before getting to planning a meeting Inperson.

I agree Lars. I could never expect or ask a lady to pay anything if I asked her to dinner. Maybe it's the way I was brought up or the fact that I am a gentleman but I will always foot the bill and be happy to do so.

Women think differently about How they want to Date.

I like a man take the Lead in asking me out and Paying.

I treat myself Often so I don't see any relationship with a cheap man.

Hum, why should just one always have to pick up the tab??

First few meets I prefer to pick up my own tab..

If they offer later fine but then I will return the favor by picking the restaurant of my choice at times and pick up the tab..

It should be who does the invite is the one that pays on future dates..

Too many women seem to think men should pay for all even if he does not make more then they do..

There is no reason that women can not pick up the tab from time to time.. Even if it is tickets to a movie or concert ect..

Has nothing to do with being cheap.. Maybe men feel that women that expects them to always pay are gold diggers~~ It goes both ways~~~

I can respect that...however..I have had several experiences in my 59 years where I wanted something more expensive than what the guy was ordering, and me paying my part...I don't feel bad, nor do i have to settle for ordering something I do not really want.
Also, I have had a few times where the guy was pushy about a kiss or *more* after a date...and stated he'd just spent X amount of money on me..the LEAST I could do was.....
Oh HELL no.
No No No

If me paying for my part on a first date pisses him off/ insults his manhood/ matters so much to him, then *I* view that as a red flag...he may have control issues, or outdated patriarchal ideas that I am not in agreement with...

Big deal..it is ONE date where I pay..and, shouldn't he be more concerned about making me feel comfortable/ at ease anyway?
Not getting an attitude ?

Gold diggers ask for much more than a date for dinner or movie, game or whatever.


I'm not a gold digger but hard working for many Years. I treat myself often as I said!

Some Men are gold diggers, that works both ways too.

I haven't had any rude dates from online because they have to be tested Before I do any meetups. I don't do Coffee meets.

Dine & dash.

I was brought up the same way actually

Though it is a different ball game, when it comes to every day life, as in being a couple. There, financial responsibilities should be shared equally.

I can also respect your feeling on the subject but if I asked a lady to dinner she could order just a roll and butter or a 7 course meal, I wouldn't mind. I would pay for whatever she ordered. The way I feel is I am honored she accepted my dinner invitation and honored to be in her presence sitting at the same table almost as if she were a queen sitting with one of her subjects. Chivalry is not dead with me. I would pay for dinner, pull out her chair, open the car door and hold her hand while she gets in the car. That's the way I was, am and always will be. If that is not what the lady wants, then she is welcome to not accept my dinner invitation.

Not enough Gentlemen around these days!
Most are already in good relationships.

You are clearly different/ not of the ilk I am referring to..
And sometimes you *cannot* tell before the date/ until you are somewhere semi-alone..then their bad side comes out....some people are very good at hiding that initally.

It has nothing to do with what I *want* ("If that is not what the lady wants, then she is welcome to not accept my dinner invitation.")
It has to do with a few bad experiences, and I prefer to be cautious on the first date...
Also..*I* would feel bad if a guy orders chicken...and I want a steak or prime rib, or whatever....if he is paying..I'd feel obligated to order something cheaper myself...
If *I* pay..I can get what I want....and dessert too...even if he doesn't want it....

Some men have a issue with a independent woman on a date.

And then there are others who want her to be independent. Meaning she can pay for her meal or both their meals, once or all the time.

If a woman is happy with her date, whatever things he does, that is her decision.

Just don't be surprised if he dumps you for someone different.