Why is that So wrong? Why do people get so mad when someone turns them down because they live out of town or out of state? Did it EVER occur to anyone that the Real reason people are hesitant travel is because they have an Old car and can't afford anything new? I mean Really, it's nothing against you out of towners, some of us just Don't relish the thought of a possible breakdown in unfamiliar surroundings with No way home or to get their old cars fixed.

where do you live

I can see that there are some people that don't even own a car, so you can't expect them to travel any distance.

Indiana. but you're wasting your time. I'm gay.

exactly, but Not everyone seems to get that. and just because someone Does have a car doesn't mean they want to risk wasting their time on someone who would probably stand them up as soon as they got there or were already halfway there.

I turn everyone down.


*shrug*

I have had guys tell me I am "too far"...when they are an hour or less away..
They say that anything more than 10-15 miles is "too far"..
Sweetie...I used to drive 25 miles one way for *groceries*..so I sure as hell would drive *that* far for a date..
Also, they think nothing of driving a hour to work, or a ball game, but...a date?
So..not wanting to bother with someone who lives an hour away...even if they seem promising and the two of you have a lot in common?
I just don't get it.
Of course, *I* don't agree to meet someone until we have chatted quite a bit, to ascertain that we DO have a reason to meet/ date..so, there's that..
Some people don;t do that..they meet up right away without determining if the two of you have enough in common to make it worthwhile..
To each their own....different strokes, & all that...

See also:
Those guys who want someone real local, like 5-10 minutes away..
Good luck finding *that* (in a rural area), but....Why, I asked a couple..?
Because they want to be able to "drop by"...
No darlin'..what you mean is, you want to be able to drop by for nookie whenever the notion strikes you, as supposed to having actual dates with someone, so..piss off..

Wrong place for this thread
But welcome

well, I'm new here, so maybe don't judge me. and as for the lady with the long reply, she's just going based off her experience.

the reason i Don't want to travel very far is because i have an old car and can't afford anything better. and most of the time these women i made the mistake of trying to date wanted ME to do ALL the travelling and they didn't want to make any effort to meet halfway or anything. i had to make All the plans and do all the driving which puts my car at risk of breaking down in an unfamiliar place with no way home. so yes, i don't want to travel more than an hour or so away. it is NOT worth me having to make All the effort.

Freebird was just stating the truth. The thread was placed in the wrong topic area. He wasn't judging you in any way.

If it is a distance, it should be 50/50...or, sometimes, whoever has the better car might be inclined to do more driving..

I'm certainly not referring to anything one-sided WRT travel...
I mean, yeah...closer would be better, but, I am not fool enough to think the best person for me is just 3-4 miles down the road...
As I said..I live ion a rural area, and it is 15 miles to the Walmart..so..

If I was seeing someone an hour or more away..we'd trade off weekends driving...and figure out a way to see each other more often, if possible...

cujo62 - I thought guys were called gay and women were called well, you know,,,,,

I prefer local. End of story. Nothing wrong at all. It's a preference, which we all have.

I have sciatic nerve issues, so I can't travel more than so many miles before I'm in extreme pain.