If you have the luck of getting in to a relationship, that makes you happy, and you know that relationship is for keeps!!

what would you do different to make this relationship work?
even if the end of the old relationship wasn't your fault
what would you change about yourself, to obtain happiness?

PAY MORE ATTENTION

I wish I knew what I would do different...I've never really been in a relationship...Guess I've been kind of afraid to...Maybe I'll try it some day...........

Same as I always do.. Whatever it takes.. When that stops working, then I stop working.

I'm not sure what to change Sis... I'll have to give that some thought...

I'm not saying I am perfect... just not sure what to change

Relax and let things take their course.

It seems to be working so far this time.

M

Make them take a psychological test.

I'm not sure what to tell you. I don't believe that you should change yourself. I believe in compramise, you still have to be true to who you are. I suppose it depends on how much you are willing to give up in order to keep what you consider the perfect relationship. I would think that if it's the perfect one, you wouldn't have to give up any of who you are though.

remember to lift the toilet seat


or is it put it back down?


ahh hell i can't remember,guess i'll find out someday

I don't believe we can remain "unchanged" when we enter a relationship or when we've come out of one. I mentioned this on another post and believe fully that it is human to change--regardless of whether or not a relationship is in play. Yes, we have habits and certain ehthical requirements--we live lives that dictate that there are some things worth taking in stride, while others force us to draw a line.

But when I hear someone say (men or women) something like, "I'm not going to change for anyone" then I believe they've set themselves into a defensive posture, something I think rather unattractive. Living a single life means that my focus, resources, and priorities are mine and mine alone. When I enter into a relationship however, I must change. I cannot stay the same and still "be there" for someone. The key is not to change in unhealthy or destructive ways. But to avoid change to be unwilling to give and yes, "give up" is akin to taking a new job with a new company and saying, "I know you have your way of doing things, but I'm know who I am and I'm not going to change."

Career suicide, right?

If so, then what makes us think that we can get away with the same when it comes to personal relationships?

-Drew

People who have been through relationships, and have been left or what have you. The person you were compared to the person you are now, many relationships later, should be the same. The only change should be that you are smarter than you were when you first started dating.

If you have to change yourself, then you have already lost everything that makes you who you are. To compromise yourself is too lie and say that all things that you know are wrong are now acceptable.

I would be a b tch and complain....spoiling doesn't work :)

So I should be the same as I was at age 14...only smarter?

Thats not the way things have worked out here! Thank God! Actually I think I went the other direction. I'm pretty different and know much less.

I'm trying to be more trusting in the relationship im in now.
I've been hurt so bad this past 2 years and tryin to trust more

wow...

many people make the mistake of thinking that they have to change themselves or something about themselves as soon as they get into a relationship so that they will ensure that it will work out.

however, consider this: whats the reason you two are together? why would you change that reason?

i once had a dude ask me for advice. he said that he had no problems with getting girlfriends, but he could never keep them. they always dumped him soon after they became bf/gf. i told him exactly why this happened: the girls lost attraction for him because he would try to act nicer to them so that he could ensure the state of the relationship. he basically changed who he was... he changed what was attractive to those girls in the first place, which killed all of his relationships.

after speaking with me he got together with this really cute gymnast girl and they stayed together for a longass time. sucked for me cuz i was actually attracted to her but thats beside the point...