I watch Dr. Phil on tv sometimes. I don't know if anyone watches but he had the question about, when you are deciding to be with one person for long term, how do you decide that? What quality does that person need.

Kindness. Fairness. Humor. Empathy.
Enough ambition to work without complaint.

soufie, that sounds good.

I think it's good to understand others sense of humor.

Humor, a huge heart, (he helps others less fortunate than himself), spiritual, artistic, irony (he can laugh at himself and the world), loyal, protective of me, great communicator and fearless. Emotionally mature.

I forgot to add:
They must have the ability to be happy.

Ladywind, I liked what you said about laughing at himself and protective of me.

Must have a sense of humor.
Must be able to laugh, and smile.

I've had the problem with guys that don't know my sense of humor.

I hope you find someone who appreciates you.

People need to find something that they can do alone, whatever that is.

It's different for everyone, but generally over a series of dates. I look for qualities that make her a good person, a good mother, etc.

Dr Phil? The guy who makes money by exploiting his patients emotions to the millions of people?


I doubt if people on his show legitimately seek help? I find the show extremely bad. I imagine we are living in a dystopian society where people openly make fun of emotions of patients and the psychiatrist enjoys all this. Makes me sick.

Blaze. I'm not talking about Dr. Phil. Just that question about how you decide about what partner you want in your life for long term.

Oh alright! One thing i want more than anything in a relationship- FIDELITY I seek it

I help others now and then, I don't ask questions, unless the question pertains to the help I'm doing.... I just help with this or that. Sometimes they ask questions, sometimes a lot of questions, in machine gun fashion, to where I can't keep up. I answer to the best of my ability, then finish the work I volunteered to do, or they asked for.
I'm not that interesting, so I can't figure out why they wanna know what, who, or why I am, or what I do. Maybe they were ex police or something and want to stay in practice.... I really don't have anything to hide, but it seems sometimes they think I do, or they wouldn't keep asking, or even demanding...

They also ask why I don't ask any questions about them. I wouldn't begin to know what they would want me to ask!... I really don't need anything from others, and I certainly don't expect it. I'm surprised when someone does something positive towards me. It happens very rarely.... I'm also very grateful... I'm happy if they think My help or work is satisfactory or even excellent to their needs, then I disappear quickly to not annoy them or anyone else. It's what I'm good for. I'm not good for anything else really at this point.

Sometimes I dream of what it would be like to be in an ancient library, with a huge fireplace in one of the rooms, with two massive wing-back chairs, and have long, fantastic, EQUAL conversations, long into the night, and have the morning sun creep up on the conversation, telling us to part ways before total sun-up.

That........ would be far more than I could ask, and I will never ask, or do it.
The old, underground Cairo library is that place. it's lost to the public.

It's the only fantasy I have left with humans, and that, it will remain.

I may talk quite a bit online, but never in person. I'm just not relationship, companionship, or even friendship material anymore, if I was ever that in the first place.

darkowl, you talked a lot but you didn't say anything.

my point exactly.

but I said everything anyone would ever want to know about me in that paragraph.

Good luck.