How do you know when the person you are falling for is real about you and how can you make them see that your love is real?

Love is not as much as saying " i love you ", but showing there love in doing things for you that you didnt ask for them to do. Like helping in cleaning, cooking, taking care of the kids while you have time for yourself etc. I hope this answers your question

Well said

Spending more time directly interacting rather than through impersonal means of communication, with a lot of communication and consistent behavior.


Depends on from what perspective you're asking from.

I mean there's going to be different answers depending on your situation.

Like "I've been talking to someone online for a full month, everyday! I'm falling for them, how do I make them see my love is real, and how do I know they're real about me?!"

Vs. "We've been best friends since kindergarten and I think we should take it to the next level. How do I communicate my romantic love for them, how do I know they really feel the same way?"

vs. "We've been FWB for a while. I'm catching feelings. How can I make them see I'm falling for them and my love is real, and how do I tell that they feel the same way?"



If all you're asking is "what's a step by step instruction manual where I can skip most of it and just pick one specific thing to look for that can be applied to people and relationships universally where I'll 'know' I'm in love, and I'm guaranteed a perfect level of healthy communication?"
Then you're SOL.

I mean take this: (randomly pulled from the internet) "showing there love in doing things for you that you didnt ask for them to do. Like helping in cleaning, cooking, taking care of the kids while you have time for yourself "

There's no guarantee that is actually showing you love.
There are "players" and "nice guys/gals" that exhibit behaviors for the sake of earning "brownie" or "entitlement" points.
"I've cooked for you, I've cleaned for you, I've helped with your kids, now it's my turn," or, "you should do (x) for me, it's only fair! I did all this for you!"

You drop your shields and walls so you can tap into your intuition, which is our inner strength. Then you can feel whether or not someone or something is right for you.
Pay attention to how someone makes you feel and not to how you want to feel.

Face time with them if you're that involved. you can read them as well. If they ain't willing to face time, they might not be real.

what clever clogs tom said

Well now really when we go back into falling in love. And say, it's crazy. Falling. You see? We don't say "rising into love". There is in it, the idea of the fall. And it goes back, as a matter of fact, to extremely fundamental things. That there is always a curious tie at some point between the fall and the creation. Taking this ghastly risk is the condition of there being life. You see, for all life is an act of faith and an act of gamble. The moment you take a step, you do so on an act of faith because you don't really know that the floor's not going to give under your feet. The moment you take a journey, what an act of faith. The moment that you enter into any kind of human undertaking in relationship, what an act of faith. See, you've given yourself up. But this is the most powerful thing that can be done: surrender. See. And love is an act of surrender to another person. Total abandonment. I give myself to you. Take me. Do anything you like with me. See. So, that's quite mad because you see, it's letting things get out of control. All sensible people keep things in control. Watch it, watch it, watch it. Security? Vigilance Watch it. Police? Watch it. Guards? Watch it. Who's going to watch the guards? So, actually, therefore, the course of wisdom, what is really sensible, is to let go, is to commit oneself, to give oneself up and that's quite mad. So we come to the strange conclusion that in madness lies sanity. Allan Watts