I met a great guy who made me smile again we have talked on the phone on
the computer and then out of the blue he asked me to be his girl now i
find out he is imming other girls and wanting to meet them what shall i
do

Why are you even asking what you should do? If he is wanting to meet
other women already he is not really intrested in investing a real
relationship with you.
Let him go and wait for the right man to treat you right.

Listen to shag. I am sure you will do better when you find the right guy

definately... look for some other guy

Don't let him waste your time. Find someone who'll concentrate on you.

kick him to the curb and carry on ..chin up!

hes playing YOU, DUMP HIM, and cut your ties now,so he won't hurt you
deeper.....

well i have bnbeen looking and all i seem to find is guys who abuse me
or my kids so i put a wall up for the longest and been alone and then i
met him i thought he was sweet and caring we talk on the phone everyday
and i ask him what is going on and he says nothing then out of the blue
today i get a message from a girl telling me he has been trying to talk
to her on the internet and i am shocked because he says he is done with
looking I really believed he was the one becuase i started writing more
poems Now i dont want to put that wall back up because i just now
started getting my self esteem back because i have had a major problem
with it but i think i will take everyones advise and do the right thing

Ford, Have you ever thought about working on your self esteem before you
get into a relationship? Other people can not make you happy, you have
to do that yourself or it will never work. Start working on yourself and
building your self worth up and I bet you will then find someone who
will treat you right. A lot of people with poor self estee/worth settle
for not very good people as they feel someome is better then being
alone.

Ford, Have you ever thought about working on your self esteem before you
get into a relationship? Other people can not make you happy, you have
to do that yourself or it will never work. Start working on yourself and
building your self worth up and I bet you will then find someone who
will treat you right. A lot of people with poor self estee/worth settle
for not very good people as they feel someome is better then being
alone.

just keep doing your thing!

Shag has made some excellent points, hon. When we feel like shit, we
tend to roll in it. Why should we expect others to treat us better than
we are willing to treat ourselves. Your kids and you are primary in your
life. Everything else is a choice. Choose to be happy.

just tell yourself you don't have to take it. tell yourself you are a
lot better than that, there is a man out there for you. one who will be
honest as well as treat both yourself and your kids with tenderness and
love.

one more thing, dump him now.

Sounds strangely similar to my thread on the other side of the message
board…. I agree with what Shag said before you start to get serious
with anyone. You have Children and they deserve better than some Loser
that doesn’t take you or them seriously. You have plenty of fun
activities in your profile, really get into them and enjoy them; one day
soon after someone will fit into your life as a match instead of you
trying to yield to his demands. This will keep your life’s priorities
straight instead of plugging him into an instant #1….

FYI, if you do NOT kick him to the curb you are not being abused in your
relationship (since you’re going in knowing this about him).

Just my two cents worth, Phil (not Dr Phil ;-) lol...

First off, is he on the site? If so who is he, so other ladies may be
aware....
Second, if what I read is what I think, he will two time you and leave
pain. So, as Shaq, so well put it pay no attention, shut him off and
move on. Have no fear for the Lord has great things for you. After all,
you are here for a reason and it is not casuality.

your happiness is your responsibility. if you look to a man to fill that
void your gonna get f-ckd every time. Don't go out seeking mr. right
just do your thing focus on your kids and eventually he'll fall into
your lap.find someone that fits into your life not you trying to fit
into his, what is this assholes name by the way

Whats the problem?? He hasn't committed to you has he? He's a guy out
to meet people, he's found you to be interesting and would like to take
the time to meet you, but that doesnt mean you are the one for him,
christ, ya'll havent met. He has a right to date, meet, talk, IM, chat,
text call, WHATEVER, anyone else, until he decides to commit. So do
you. Maybe you'll meet him and he wont be someone you would puruse.
But don't lock in ford, give it some slack and go with it.

WOW, HE SAID HE WANTS HER TO BE HIS GIRL, AND THEN WANT OTHERS TO BE HIS
GIRL, AND YOU THINK, THAT HE IS OK????
WELL,WELL, NOW CHUCK, I MIGHT BE PUTTING MY FOOT OUT HERE, BUT I BELIEVE
(he"s a player) BE MINE, AND I'LL BE EVERYONE'S!!!!
OH, YEAH THERE'S A NICE DUDE TO HAVE, WAITING FOR HER FIRST DATE WITH
THE JAG-OFF HE WOULD HAVE TWO PLAN B'S GOING ON????
DUMP THE JERK, SHE'S WRONG!!!!!!lmao

lol, oh hush big boy, I wouldnt put all my eggs in one basket either.
They haven't met yet have they?