yeah i know,women do the same thing

We all do.

seems to be a misconception as well. i know i've heard women say before that they feel men get intimidated by women going after them but some of us actually prefer it. and the other way around as well, it seems to be a general understanding that the man must make the first move. i know this is gradually changing but i think it still plays a role even if it's not apparent at the time.

My experience exactly, as well....

some are shy .... some are fear for rejection ... who knows.

I get a lot more response while talking in the forums! Its fun!

because we go and look at your profile and everything that yyou have to tell us has to be YELLED. it scares us off cause we figure you will just yell at us anyway.

I call looking at profiles 'window shopping'....you don't always buy what you are looking at....and sometimes its just too expensive or at closer glance not quite what we were looking for

email them if your interested

Aint nothing but a heeaaaartache

I'm one of those who prefers the woman to make initial contact but if I get an email saying "you have a mutual match" then I send the woman a brief message first.

I've only sent out a few emails based on just viewing the profile. These were ones that just hit me for some reason and I felt the need to send them a message.

I agree that there is a lot of "window shopping" going on. Nothing wrong with that at all. I had one woman email me saying that she saw I had viewed her profile and just wanted to say hi. She wasn't really my type but I thought it was cool that she sent me an email.

I don't now if these stats are accurate but on another free dating site it said 26% of the women made first contact.

When you figure it out, let me know.

I write to the ones that attract me, most of the times I do get a response, I'm guessing I must put the right things in an email, or i'm just plain sexy. Can't be putting the right things in the email because I am pretty much shy and quiet...must be the sexiness

why do women think the guy has to write first?

Well I get a lot of looks on mine sure it is out of being curious from something I have said or the pic I have up and maybe they look to see what I do look like. Who knows get very few e-mails that are interested hummm now that is wrong get none that are. The ones I get are all from friends. But.... then if they are not interested after they look. Then hello why would I want there e-mails lol. Look away it dont bother me in the least.

laws of nature. males must initiate and take the risk because females are the choosier sex. this is because, according to studies done by the evolutionary psychologist Trivers, the sex that invests the most in offspring (the female in the human species, males in seahorses) is the choosier one when it comes to mate selection. the sex that invests the least in offspring compete amongst themselves for mates.
in human sexual selection, males are designed to have a higher survival value and lower replication value than females, and females are designed to have a lower survival value and higher replication value. thus, males are designed to take more RISKS because they can take it with their higher survivial value.
once again, the male initiates and takes the risks. accept and embrace human nature and you will be happier.

cause some are shy
some girls i message they look at my profile but dont say hi
either they afraid to say hi or shy or dont want to know a guy like me

Hey! I almost always write first... rarely get a response... or they stop talking after a few emails... Maybe thats WHY...lol...

I'd RATHER them initiate the convo so I know they're really interested and not just being courteous.

i agree let me know too. two guys did say hi to me and i talked back to them. i went out with one of them, but it didnt work out.

WHAT??? I CANT BELIEVE YOU SAID THAT!!! OMG!!! lol